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I'm preaching to the choir when I say that life is difficult. We think that what other people have is better than what we have. This sort of thinking messes with our lives.

My next point is I'm in college. The ring before spring culture is insane. I see couples everywhere and yet I realize that I may not see as many couples as I think I see. What I mean by that is there are factors I don't see (where they are in the relationship). It seems better to be in a relationship because of the perceived validation, touch, and company. It takes a lot of adaptation to stay a couple.

Couples need to think about the future. There is the money aspect of buying a house and having kids. Other aspects are the partner's habits to maneuver, feelings to be honest about. If one is not honest about them (bottling them thus keeping them a secret) they won't get along very well. That is the price of creating a harmonious lifestyle. Habits and feelings are not bad they are a part of you; they will be a part of the kids as well.

I would say dating and marriage is an extension of school. While this will be an unpopular opinion, I will explain my reasoning. Anytime, I explain my reasoning I'd rather exercise my thinking than convince you. Dating and Marriage is not fully like school; it doesn't have math, literature and science in that order. School is heavy on the subjects, light on the fun. Dating and marriage is lighter on the subjects. The subjects are needed to keep the boat. Analogy: fun things keep the boat floating. Each semester I'm in college took adaptability to succeed in my courses. Every course is different, so is each person.

Decision-making for dating and marriage has to be unified. I am not saying that couples need to order the same thing at restaurants. I'm saying scheduling vacation times, which school the kid is going to, who's the nanny. Cemented stuff like that.

They are very very close. They known each other for like 7 years since they were kids. The fact that they known each other for a long time is the only thing keeping me at ease because wouldn't something have happened by now? But at the same time, there has been so many stories of best friends falling in love with each other so I am super paranoid.

I noticed they seems to be getting more and more close recently. They cuddle together and casually hold hands a lot. Like they were even holding hands the entire time during a photoshoot. Then, I saw a video of her sitting on his lap with his arms around her waist. It wasn't like they were keeping it a secret though so I just ignored it thinking it's fine because they were just playing a game with the chair. They are each other favorite person - I told myself that it's okay if he doesn't see me as his favorite person because he knew her wayyyy longer. They even see each other as backup husband/wife.

I feel like the only difference is that we have sex and kiss but they obviously don't. We been dating for more than a year now but I need to know if this is normal and I am not wasting my time. Like should I be worried about his relationship with his girl best friend or is it normal between two friends?