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I know of at least 4x within the last 6 weeks that he went golfing or out to drinks and told me it was a guy or two when in reality it was them and 2 female coworkers and sometimes it was just him and the girl or girls. One of the times was my birthday dinner and the reservation was at 4:45pm. He told me he was going golfing with a guy coworker. I ended up having to run home to take his dog to the vet because he was reacting poorly to a recent surgery around 10:30am. Around 1pm he texted and asked if I minded if he grabbed lunch as he hadn’t eaten all day. I told him it was fine but the dinner. He showed up at 4pm noticeably tipsy. I found out that day he had gone golfing with one of the guy and 2 girl coworkers, and then continued to hang out with them drinking after while I was home carrying for his dog and getting ready for dinner. One of the other times he started around 3pm happy hour and I had met with a girlfriend to catch up that night and I was just up the street from our house, he got home around 8:40pm and started getting really upset I wasn’t home yet and what was I doing (mind you I met my friend around 6pm and had dinner). Come to find out he spent the day with the girls drinking. It’s the lying about who is with him, why lie, especially if I shouldn’t be concerned? He is always so skeptical of any male coworker of mine? He got upset with my team of 4 (all guys but me) did a golf team outing. Yet he’s secretly golfing and getting drunk with female coworkers? Is this a normal reaction?

She won’t butt out. At first I took it as “okay, she means well”, but now I don’t know. I took a long break from dating and was fine just being single, and she says “nope, you’re 40 now and you’ve been single too long. You need a man in your life. Since you’re friends with me you’re getting a man whether you want one or not” (she loves to matchmake). I realize she has a point, so I get on Facebook dating. She saw me on the apps one day at lunchtime (we work together) and she’s telling me who to swipe right on, who to swipe left on, etc and when I didn’t swipe right on a guy she told me too, she literally took my phone out of my hand and swiped on a whole bunch of guys because I (according to her) “clearly don’t know how to pick men”. Eventually I did match with a guy who I really liked, we’ve been dating for almost a year, and she doesn’t like him. Apparently she’s got someone all picked out who she wants to fix me up with (who’s a really nice guy and financially well off but I’m not attracted to him). The guy understands and said it’s fine but she won’t stop and says “this guy’s perfect for you, and your boyfriend’s a loser. Dump him and give this other guy a chance.” (The guy is definitely loaded and my boyfriend supports himself well, but he treats me well and we make each other happy).

she’s gotten to the point where she’s literally taken my phone out of my hand and texted my boyfriend from my phone making really ridiculous demands on him (like demanding he get me a Louis Vuitton bag for my birthday which I know he can’t afford). She’s caused some bad fights between us this way.

I’ve tried telling her to butt out but she doesn’t. She’s dating a guy who is 25 years older than us and is trying to push me to date much older as well. My boyfriend is early 40’s, like me. Nothing wrong with dating older men, but if I’m happy why can’t she just butt out?