What should I do? How can I fix this?

[Anonymous]

I had an ADHD episode. My girlfriend has been so patient and understanding. I told her I was going to self isolate and then dissapeared. She called and texted me every other day ( multiple times within the day) She was so worried I harmed my self or checked myself into a mental institute. I saw her calls and texts but I never responded until Valentines day. She was reaching out to me because she was worried but to also wanted to plan something special for us on Valentines day. When I got back to her on Valentines day I forgot it was Valentines day and I never said " Happy Valentine's Day" to her. She responds to my text, but I forgot and didn't call her until a week later. When on the phone she kept it short and quick and called me trifling for my behavior. I apologized saying sorry I wasn't feeling well and had norovirus for a few days. I contacted other people during that time but not her. She calls me the next day and tries to reach me all day but I don't respond. She breaks up with me through text stating " my behavior is very disrespectful and she doesn't deserve to be treated like this and this is the last straw she is exhausted and can't do this anymore". I never responded. She blocks me on all social media. I reached out to her sister to ask if she is OK. Her sister curses me out. Then she texts me happy birthday and I respond saying " Words can't express how sorry I am". How are you? She never responds and its been almost a month. I thought she would accept my apology by now , but im still blocked on instagram, tik tok and Facebook. I know I'm not blocked on her phone , should I call or should I show up at her house to apologize. She lives 30 minutes away. I didn't mean to do all that I did. Adhd is super tough. Everything has hit me thay we really might be over. I can't loose her. She was the best girlfriend I ever had. She was caring , considerate, loving, welcoming and all around a good person. I'm so devastated with the outcome of my actions.

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I forgot to add that when she was worried about me and my safety I hadn't responded to her in 3weeks and then that's when she blocked me. It's been 3 months since I last saw her. I'm in this like paralysis where I'm afraid to call because of the rejection. I know she is upset and I owe her a real apology, but the way she has ignored me and the amount of time that has passed by she could have moved on already.

[Oliverlogan263]

Damn bro, that's a really tough situation you're in with your girlfriend. I can totally understand why she's so upset and why she ended up breaking it off with you. The way you just kind of disappeared on her for weeks without any communication, even when she was clearly worried about your wellbeing, is super messed up.

I know you said it was an ADHD episode and you weren't feeling well, but that's still no excuse for completely ghosting her like that, especially on Valentine's Day when she was trying to do something special. That's gotta have been really hurtful and disrespectful from her perspective.

At the same time, I get that ADHD can be super tough to deal with, and it sounds like you didn't intend to hurt her or make her feel that way. But the end result is the same - you really messed up and damaged her trust in you.

Honestly, I think the best thing you can do right now is give her some more space. I know it's hard, but trying to force an apology or show up at her house when she's clearly still upset and has blocked you on social media isn't going to help. That's just gonna push her away even further.

Instead, I'd recommend reaching out to her one more time, maybe in a couple weeks, and sincerely apologize. Don't make excuses, just take full responsibility for your actions and let her know how sorry you are for putting her through that. Tell her you understand if she needs more time, but that you're here when she's ready to talk.

After that, you're just gonna have to be patient and give her the space she needs. As much as it sucks, you can't force her to forgive you or take you back. The best thing you can do is work on yourself, continue managing your ADHD, and show her through your actions that you're committed to being a better partner.

It's gonna be tough, bro, but don't lose hope. If she really was the best girlfriend you ever had, and you two had something special, there's a chance she'll come around eventually. Just take it one day at a time, focus on yourself, and don't stop fighting for her. I'm rooting for you, man.

[Finchie40]

My son suffers from severe ADHD and unfortunately it’s not easy for people that don’t have it to understand what you are going through , so you can try to get your girlfriend back but do t be surprised if she doesn’t want you back. Other than that you should go get help with you ADHD and get
Your ass on some meds to help you with it

[AI Opinion]

Hey, I'm here to help you navigate through the rocky roads of romance. It sounds like a tough spot you're in. But stepping back is crucial here. It’s time for some self-love and respect her space. You're feeling intense emotions, but showing up at her house unannounced isn't the best move. 🏡🚫 Respect her choice and let time work its magic. Work on understanding yourself better and proving you've changed, if you're given another chance. Your sincere apology is vital, but remember that healing takes two. You got this! Keep your chin up! 💪❤️

[WhitneySnow]

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