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Saw this in a [pretty stupid] conversation between two male friends. They're in their 30s but act like they're in their 20s. One was about to text the girl he has been seeing, ask her out again. His friend stopped him to give him advice on what to say, not say. It inspired this question.

The scenario is between a guy and a girl (but you can do same sex couple if you want. But this is about gender roles and preferences.) They are not strangers. They know each other, but not that well. They have just started casually dating. They both like each other.

But... the guy is reluctant [will not] commit. He's anticipating her wanting this. He's trying to play it cool. But he wants to keep dating her, having sex with her, have her in his life. "She's cool, and she's chill, and she's level-headed. But I don't want to fast-track anything." So his friend says to him, "Just tell her, 'Look, maybe I'll get there one day, but I don't want to hold you back from living your life.'" Typical commitmentphobe player b. s. But anyway, thought I'd make a question out of it.

What I'm getting at here is if there's a majority preference toward: politeness, or assertiveness, or something else. And do guys and girls have a different, or the same, idea about this. And, girls, does the assertiveness turn you on/do you like it, or does it turn you off?

It'd be for some snacks/appetizers as well, not just drinks, but for simplicity sake I didn't write that in each multiple choice because it would be too many words. This isn't a formal or fancy dinner date, but there will be food, so don't focus on that. And for those who don't drink alcohol, you can sub in any other beverage. It's not important. But it is a date, and there is sexual tension between them.

So, late at night I was talking with my boyfriend, typical conversation. But the subject change, and we end talking about me getting a surgery for not having kids, so he starts talking about a contraceptive that is supposed to go under your skin, and is like a “birth control” stuff, so he talks about some girls at college having that, and then I just said “but that’s not 100% effective” and he is like “whaaaaaat? Are you serious, oh my god, really?” And I’m like “ yeah” and then he told me that he had sex with this girl like “2 years ago”, unprotected sex, so I told him why did you get so nervous, and why are you so worried? And he just changed subject.. so I really need some advice, because I don’t know if I’m overreacting or this guy really is cheating on me. Why being so worried about something that happened” 2 years ago”?