Stop talking to someone because you like them TOO much?

[itzzxhypnotik]

hey, I was wondering if anyone would ever stop talking to a guy or girl that they had been dating for about 2 months because they started to like someone too much?

i know its the "chicken" thing to do, but would you or have you ever done that?

and if you have, did you regret it?

I've been seeing this guy for a month and a half and I like him TOO much and so I'm thinking of actually ending things.

[aly-marie]

This is purely me putting my thoughts out as they come, so I could very well be wrong.

But from my view of you, I think you'd be better off putting your energy into your own life and happiness instead of just a relationship; I'm not sure how to explain myself lol.

I guess I'm saying that you shouldn't make this relationship [or this boy] that much more important than any other aspects of your life. People can only hurt you emotionally if you let them, and that happens when you let them determine the amount of happiness in your life, when you let them steer your emotions with nothing in return.

As long as you realize that this boy is not your life, you should be fine if you want to stay with him, and why wouldn't you if you like him? Just keep a realistic perspective, don't let ideals and hopes get the best of you; remember that you have other great things in your life too, he is just one of them. And who knows how that relationship could turn out to be.

I don't know if I answered your question. Well as for me, I haven't actually done that, but I have held back on getting into a relationship because I liked the guy so much and I was afraid to put myself out there. I regretted it because it would've been a good experience for me, and I believe in having as many experiences as I can [even if they're not all good]; but the guy turned out to be kind of a jerk anyway, so either way, it is what it is.

You'll never know anything for sure unless you try it. You just have to decide whether you WANT to walk away from someone you've connected with, or whether you're okay with wondering "what if" later on down the road.

[itzzxhypnotik]

Thank you, you're totally right. and I tell myself that all the time (dont let a guy be in control of your emotions, or don't let a guy validate you) I often forget this, so thanks for the reminder and very honest answer.

[melissarose8585]

I once stopped hanging around someone because of it, mainly because I was afraid to ruin a friendship with something I was sure wouldn't last, as he was known to be quite the player back then. We ended up growing apart for other reasons, but I don't regret shutting myself off.

But that's different from running away because I'm scared of how I feel. I had a friend, a best friend, that wouldn't stay with a guy past three months, as she couldn't stand the thought of becoming too attached to a man. She had had issues with a very violent relationship before, and it scared her to get attached to someone who might do the same.

So you have to ask yourself why you would run. Do you fear something? Is it a fear of becoming emotionally involved, commitment, a fear of rejection when you get in too deep? Why run when it can be good? And really, is running what you want to do, if you feel so strongly for this person?

[itzzxhypnotik]

There is no major reason why I run like your best friend has. I've never ever been in an abusive relationship but I've been hurt, a lot. I fall fast and hard so many guys that have hurt me we weren't even SERIOUS. so therefore, only 2 guys in my past have I felt like they were worth the pain that came from it, all the other guys, I regret getting close to and being hurt by them. so with this guy (who currently likes me as well) I'm mostly scared that I'll put my heart out there and his feelings

[itzzxhypnotik]

Will change. because I feel like he likes me but not to the same degree as I like him (i'm sure you understand) so although we have a wonderful time together, I'm afraid of my feelings growing stronger and his feelings diminishing. which is causing me to consider running away. because he's not putting as much into "us" as I have (wow...sorry this was so long! haha)

[Dela1111]

It can't really be blamed if you've had bad experiences in your past, and don't want it to happen again. I've never heard of this before, but I'm sure you girls have done crazier things. I really suggest you DON'T end things, because you might be giving up something good.

[BrianSmith]

A guy should not have to tell you he's not like other guys. You should feel it. If you don't your are probably right.

[hunglowman4you]

YES! always take 1 step forwards and 2 steps back...

do you think this way?

[itzzxhypnotik]

Well, I've always just jumped head first, but now I'm being much more hesitant and considering just ending things to ensure I don't get hurt. so I guess now I do think this way! lol

[hunglowman4you]

But hun,,, you must realize the meaning of "LIFE" is full of hurtful situations everybody can not avoid. Just remember you will be growing as a person if it hurts... Life is so tough right now, it hurts!!

[AcEMasTeR]

how can you like someone too much?

and if you really liked someone why whould you leave them!?

[itzzxhypnotik]

I really would rather you not answer my questions. I've seen your other answers, and they're kinda ridiculous. sorry if I'm being rude.

[AcEMasTeR]

Just that 1 answer and you were the one that was wrong so ya w/e

peace.