I would be irritated. I had a friend do this to me multiple times and it always pissed me off but I knew why his girlfriend wouldn't let him talk to me (He was a man-slut and was always hitting on me). I wanted to do this before with my boyfriend, but I don't want to be that kind of person just because of my insecurities, you know? Bc I know my boyfriend loves me and we're getting married so why worry? Just because they had something in the past doesn't mean anything now. And they're best friends, so I couldn't do that. And now she's my best friend and I love her and trust them both. So yeah lol. Mini rant-thing. Rawr!
hmm...i think it would depend on how close we were. if they were my best friend and we did everything together before they started dating I would understand spending less time together or tagging along as the third wheel, but not just completely breaking the friendship. they must not have wanted me as a friend that much if that were the case. though if he told me that he was blinded by love and missed hanging out with me the whole time and was an idiot, I might give him a chance. but if we weren't very close friends in the beginning we probably wouldn't try again anyway so it wouldn't be a big deal in that case.
F*** that, today I knew I had a true friend because we are partners in everything in p.e but then she got a new boyfriend whos in the same class as us, he said that she(my good friend) is going to be my partner from now on, then she looked at him and said, no this is my time where I should spend time with my friend sorry, you need to adpat to it. I know how to pick good friends ;]
Anyways, true friends will stay with you till the end anyways girlcode: "sisters before misters" we can't break that or else you are a bad friend.
I wouldn't pressure my friend, I would let him / her decide. I never been told that personally, but one of my girlfriends in the past did that with one of my close friends. I can only imagine that it must put the person in a very difficult position to eventually have to make a choice.
I would be okay with befriending him/her after but I would wonder why they even comply, but its whatever.
I would let them back in, the whole time they were in the relationship, I would have been demanding for her to realize that friends come before boyfriends every time.
Luckily, my best friend knows that, she's had her heart broken many times, and I've always been there for her when she needed someone to cry on or just go over and eat ice cream with.
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Nope.
The very fact that she/he let a NEW partner dictate who they can and can't see shows that they aren't the type of person I'd want to surround myself with. The fact that they would treat our friendship with such nonchalance and disrespect shows they don't value it. I would see no point in being friends with someone like that. I may forgive, but I don't forget. He/she wouldn't be welcome in my life for any longer.
True friends are your friends no matter who come in and out of their life. If someone ends a "friendship" because their SO said to, then I wouldn't trust them again with my friendship. She may be easily influenced, but she still knows right from wrong.
It seems to me that she disregards you way to easily. Your friend obviously doesn't have her priorities straight and isn't treating you fairly. You have no guarantee that when another boyfriend comes along you won't be dropped like you were previously so I suggest you don't go back to her.
Yes.
I understand how manipulating relationships can be, provided the bridge wasn't burned, I would consider the "old times" over actions a friend took when in the company of a manipulative harlot.
But if it happened a second time, I'd burn the bridge myself so bad that friend wouldn't dare come around looking for my friendship again.
1. If my SO told me I would not talk to a friend anymore, I would tell her to pound sand and find a new boyfriend.
2. If a friend stopped talking to me because their SO told them not to talk to me then they are no longer going to be a part of my life. I could care less what happens in the future.
I wouldn't be happy about it, but I would probably forgive them. I tend to be very forgiving and I don't have many friends as it is, so that would probably influence my decision a lot.
I just think a friend is someone who should be there for you even when you've made dumb decisions. If it was a repeated thing, I may think twice about it, but I prefer to support my friends and hope they learn from their mistakes.
depends on magnitude of our friendship an manner of her regret and apologize. If I really love her so much and she is one of my best friends, and if she is in earnest, really regretful. But it is not an attitude what a person can forget easily and forgive. But never mind. Nurture resentment is not good thing.
Something like this is not ok; I am going through it now with a guy who has a new GF. And it’s a real sh*tty thing to do to someone you consider a friend. That other person should just learn to accept it (get to know that other person) and know that there’s nothing going to go on between the two of them, especially when he/she has known the friend for more years then they have been dating. It’s totally stupid.
man f*** that bitch. I can't stand dummies that don't have a mind of their own. you never had a problem with me until your boyfriend told you not to talk to me, so you obeyed like a child...now that you're broken up you think you can talk to me like we all cool? no.
Heck no!
If he or she were really my friend in the first place, it wouldn't have mattered.
Now, if my best friend (who is a guy) got a girlfriend, I would take a step back anyways since I wouldn't want to make her feel uncomfortable with our friendship.
nope. friends should always be put put before boyfriends or girlfriends. what happens if them and their boyfriend doesn't work out? than you lost a good friend because you couldn't stand up to your boyfriend or girlfriend. so I would not be their friend again. because what happens if they let that happen again? it'd jsut be to much stress in my opinion if you were their friend again
If they stopped talking to me simply because their SO didn't like me than they weren't that great of a friend anyways, look at how easily they cut me out. Shows me I didn't mean much to them and now they don't mean much to me.
True friends have your back and this one doesn't.
That person who does what been told is a fool. Seriously, unless that person's friend is being a third party who tries to break them up. It depends on situation though, whether to befriend with him/her again. I will see if that he/she has REALLY grown up and regretted with his/ her past action. If I can't see the sincerity I'll probably just back off. Regardless the case, that person had hurt my feelings, I can forgive, but not forget.
Being honest, I think it's crazy! I think you should not be friends with that person, your friend only wants to be friends with you when it's convenient for them. Try to pick your friend or you instincts. I think it's rotten of her to try to be friends with you after the way she treated you.
Will I take them back as a friend? No. Will I open up for a possible chance for us to use each other as acquaintances... Maybe. That's just messed up!
Of course, if that time were to ever come, my thought process is more than likely going to be different than what it is now. It would depend on many different factors.
I would respect their feelings...you are better than "someone who does not want to talk to you". If your friend wonders why, tell her. If she was really that good of friend in the first place they will make sure you don't end up hurt. Good luck trying to befriend me after being such a bitch.
I would still be their friend because it happens, and people get carried away sometimes. We are only human. I would be a little wary of their selection in partners afterward though.
If that scenario ever happened to me, I would actually personally confront both of them about it. And if it they need their distance, I would respect it. Most relationships are temporary anyway while friendships continue long down the road.(:
If you start a relationship with someone you also start one with their friends. The s.o is a bitch/a**hole for saying that.
Its a sh*tty situation, because the friend may be kind of blinded by love in a sense. I'm sure the friend knows they made a mistake. They don't deserve to befriend you but if your willing to forgive you should
I think that whether its a same sex or not friend is relevant here.
In either case, I'd probably take them back as a friend but taunt them a ton about it.
But I really don't expect any sort of loyalty from friends. I don't mean that in a bad way, I just ... you know, we're hanging out or we're not, I don't feel like they owe me regular contact.
Your friend allowed a lover to manipulate him/her into dropping you, and that was a mistake.
I'd become friends again, but I'd make it very clear that I was hurt or angry about what had happened, and that if it ever happened again, that would be the end of it.
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