Your friend's boyfriend/girlfriend tells them to stop talking to you, what do you do?

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Your friend has a new boyfriend or girlfriend and their new s.o tells them they can no longer talk to you anymore. your friend stops talking to you. then they break up and your friend tries befriending you again. would you be OK with that?

ButterflyXkisses · Accepted Answer

I would be irritated. I had a friend do this to me multiple times and it always pissed me off but I knew why his girlfriend wouldn't let him talk to me (He was a man-slut and was always hitting on me). I wanted to do this before with my boyfriend, but I don't want to be that kind of person just because of my insecurities, you know? Bc I know my boyfriend loves me and we're getting married so why worry? Just because they had something in the past doesn't mean anything now. And they're best friends, so I couldn't do that. And now she's my best friend and I love her and trust them both. So yeah lol. Mini rant-thing. Rawr!

blumercury · Accepted Answer

hmm...i think it would depend on how close we were. if they were my best friend and we did everything together before they started dating I would understand spending less time together or tagging along as the third wheel, but not just completely breaking the friendship. they must not have wanted me as a friend that much if that were the case. though if he told me that he was blinded by love and missed hanging out with me the whole time and was an idiot, I might give him a chance. but if we weren't very close friends in the beginning we probably wouldn't try again anyway so it wouldn't be a big deal in that case.

smokahontas · Accepted Answer

F*** that, today I knew I had a true friend because we are partners in everything in p.e but then she got a new boyfriend whos in the same class as us, he said that she(my good friend) is going to be my partner from now on, then she looked at him and said, no this is my time where I should spend time with my friend sorry, you need to adpat to it. I know how to pick good friends ;]

Anyways, true friends will stay with you till the end anyways girlcode: "sisters before misters" we can't break that or else you are a bad friend.

Phoenix1991 · Accepted Answer

I wouldn't pressure my friend, I would let him / her decide. I never been told that personally, but one of my girlfriends in the past did that with one of my close friends. I can only imagine that it must put the person in a very difficult position to eventually have to make a choice.

I would be okay with befriending him/her after but I would wonder why they even comply, but its whatever.

blueyaa · Accepted Answer

I would let them back in, the whole time they were in the relationship, I would have been demanding for her to realize that friends come before boyfriends every time.

Luckily, my best friend knows that, she's had her heart broken many times, and I've always been there for her when she needed someone to cry on or just go over and eat ice cream with.

tohrment · Answer

Nope.

The very fact that she/he let a NEW partner dictate who they can and can't see shows that they aren't the type of person I'd want to surround myself with. The fact that they would treat our friendship with such nonchalance and disrespect shows they don't value it. I would see no point in being friends with someone like that. I may forgive, but I don't forget. He/she wouldn't be welcome in my life for any longer.

TheStaff_Sergeant · Answer

True friends are your friends no matter who come in and out of their life. If someone ends a "friendship" because their SO said to, then I wouldn't trust them again with my friendship. She may be easily influenced, but she still knows right from wrong.

Itsjulii · Answer

It seems to me that she disregards you way to easily. Your friend obviously doesn't have her priorities straight and isn't treating you fairly. You have no guarantee that when another boyfriend comes along you won't be dropped like you were previously so I suggest you don't go back to her.

AltTech · Answer

Yes.

I understand how manipulating relationships can be, provided the bridge wasn't burned, I would consider the "old times" over actions a friend took when in the company of a manipulative harlot.

But if it happened a second time, I'd burn the bridge myself so bad that friend wouldn't dare come around looking for my friendship again.

temptationfalls · Answer

1. If my SO told me I would not talk to a friend anymore, I would tell her to pound sand and find a new boyfriend.

2. If a friend stopped talking to me because their SO told them not to talk to me then they are no longer going to be a part of my life. I could care less what happens in the future.

aly-marie · Answer

I wouldn't be happy about it, but I would probably forgive them. I tend to be very forgiving and I don't have many friends as it is, so that would probably influence my decision a lot.

I just think a friend is someone who should be there for you even when you've made dumb decisions. If it was a repeated thing, I may think twice about it, but I prefer to support my friends and hope they learn from their mistakes.

pinar · Answer

depends on magnitude of our friendship an manner of her regret and apologize. If I really love her so much and she is one of my best friends, and if she is in earnest, really regretful. But it is not an attitude what a person can forget easily and forgive. But never mind. Nurture resentment is not good thing.

bobbyjean · Answer

Something like this is not ok; I am going through it now with a guy who has a new GF. And it’s a real sh*tty thing to do to someone you consider a friend. That other person should just learn to accept it   (get to know that other person) and know that there’s nothing going to go on between the two of them, especially when he/she has known the friend for more years then they have been dating. It’s totally stupid.

pr3ttybr0wn · Answer

man f*** that bitch. I can't stand dummies that don't have a mind of their own. you never had a problem with me until your boyfriend told you not to talk to me, so you obeyed like a child...now that you're broken up you think you can talk to me like we all cool? no.

MizzVMN · Answer

Heck no!

If he or she were really my friend in the first place, it wouldn't have mattered.

Now, if my best friend (who is a guy) got a girlfriend, I would take a step back anyways since I wouldn't want to make her feel uncomfortable with our friendship.

--phil-- · Answer

nope. friends should always be put put before boyfriends or girlfriends. what happens if them and their boyfriend doesn't work out? than  you lost a good friend because you couldn't stand up to your boyfriend or girlfriend. so I would not be their friend again. because what happens if they let that happen again? it'd jsut be to much stress in my opinion if you were their friend again

Ashley8282 · Answer

If they stopped talking to me simply because their SO didn't like me than they weren't that great of a friend anyways, look at how easily they cut me out. Shows me I didn't mean much to them and now they don't mean much to me.

True friends have your back and this one doesn't.

starrydaisy · Answer

That person who does what been told is a fool. Seriously, unless that person's friend is being a third party who tries to break them up. It depends on situation though, whether to befriend with him/her again. I will see if that he/she has REALLY grown up and regretted with his/ her past action. If I can't see the sincerity I'll probably just back off. Regardless the case, that person had hurt my feelings, I can forgive, but not forget.

AprilMarie · Answer

Being honest, I think it's crazy! I think you should not be friends with that person, your friend only wants to be friends with you when it's convenient for them. Try to pick your friend or you instincts. I think it's rotten of her to try to be friends with you after the way she treated you.

johnny_hustle · Answer

Will I take them back as a friend? No. Will I open up for a possible chance for us to use each other as acquaintances... Maybe. That's just messed up!

Of course, if that time were to ever come, my thought process is more than likely going to be different than what it is now. It would depend on many different factors.

Standingpretty · Answer

I would respect their feelings...you are better than "someone who does not want to talk to you". If your friend wonders why, tell her. If she was really that good of friend in the first place they will make sure you don't end up hurt. Good luck trying to befriend me after being such a bitch.

KaiMiserabel · Answer

I would still be their friend because it happens, and people get carried away sometimes. We are only human. I would be a little wary of their selection in partners afterward though.

If that scenario ever happened to me, I would actually personally confront both of them about it. And if it they need their distance, I would respect it. Most relationships are temporary anyway while friendships continue long down the road.(:

gonyr · Answer

If you start a relationship with someone you also start one with their friends. The s.o is a bitch/a**hole for saying that.

Its a sh*tty situation, because the friend may be kind of blinded by love in a sense. I'm sure the friend knows they made a mistake. They don't deserve to befriend you but if your willing to forgive you should

kheserthorpe · Answer

I think that whether its a same sex or not friend is relevant here.

In either case, I'd probably take them back as a friend but taunt them a ton about it.

But I really don't expect any sort of loyalty from friends. I don't mean that in a bad way, I just ... you know, we're hanging out or we're not, I don't feel like they owe me regular contact.

Cryostatic · Answer

Your friend allowed a lover to manipulate him/her into dropping you, and that was a mistake.

I'd become friends again, but I'd make it very clear that I was hurt or angry about what had happened, and that if it ever happened again, that would be the end of it.

MrJune · Answer

Most likely, I'll still be friends with them but I would warn them if they did it again, I wouldn't be there for them. I would let them know, its foolish to lose your friend(s) over a girlfriend/boyfriend who could for all you know disappear the next night. Wife/husband, perhaps a different story but I would like to talk about it first.

TurbulentDan12 · Answer

No I wouldn't be OK with that. They obviously didn't value our friendship that much if they were willing to throw it away so easily when they just got a new S.O. I would want a true friend to stick up for me in that case and say that it's fine if we're still friends. Once they stop talking to me, I'm not going to want to rekindle that friendship

dwright1022 · Answer

NO WAY I would not be okay with that at all that's not a friend at all

anony84 · Answer

No I would not be OK with that.   She is not a real friend if she throws me away like a dirty towel just because someone told her to.

Frostie · Answer

Friends first. If the bitch is that insecure, I dont' see why he is with her, unless he is lower than she is. He devalues himself with co operating with it. F him if he is going to do that to a friend.

Deepthinker25 · Answer

if your friend did that, she obviously has a long way to go before maturing. if you guys become friends again one it will never be the same, and 2 you should tell your friend how F'ed up it is to do something like that

Deft_maiden · Answer

If she is worth it to you yes befriend her again. She probably is the type who is attracted to controlling/ manipulating type. So take things as they are. Maybe  talk about why she picks such men.

friendlyenough · Answer

This is happening to me right now, today one of my friends who is like a brother to me (we dont go to the same school) told me he couldnt keep talking to me because his girlfriend had scrolled through our chat and got jealous...
I guess if they broke up I'll always be here for him.. just kinda annoyed that they've only been together a week and already she's controlling him like that.

CrystalHarley · Answer

Hell no. If he/she was a really close friend and just decides to bend at somebody else's will and completely decides to blow me off,then goodbye,I don't wanna hear from them anymore

Anonymous · Answer

sounds like eather  thier boyfriend/gf was a controling but don't let that get to you, eather way they are still your friend, they just have bad judgement when it comes to who to truly listen to or trust.

enigma5432 · Answer

I would probably be friends again and forgive them, but it would never be as close a friendship.

toulouse · Answer

No. I would lose respect & trust. Two essential ingredients for a friendship.

Black_Swan_12 · Answer

Anyone who allows themselves to be manipulated for no good reason loses my respect so I wouldn't be good friends with them but I can probably tolerate them

skyeisblue · Answer

I'd say "Bitch, you are not my mama. I've been talking to him- wait, I've KNOWN him longer than you have anyway, so naaahhh I'm not going to stop."

sasa1 · Answer

if the boy/girlfriend doesn't like you let him. it's his loss. a friend can be helpful sometimes in relationship.

WeaponZero · Answer

The fact that they would allow their S.O. to dictate this and make a choice, and they did not choose you, says where they stand.  F***'em.

Anonymous · Answer

I think I would befriend the person if they showed enough effort to want to hang out with me again. I understand that sometimes one does crazy things for love so I wouldn't hold that against them.

iXenomorph · Answer

Thankfully I know the few friends I had would never, ever do that to me. However if they did, they'd see a side of me they'd never forget.

beerY33 · Answer

I probably wouldn't be okay with it. There's a chance I'd forgive them, though.

rocksongwriter · Answer

There's nothing for you to do except see how your friend handles the situation.

Rachbat · Answer

If it were me in your shoes, I would just look her straight in the eyes and ask: "Why?"

Anonymous · Answer

I would be pretty darn pissed if that happened to me. But, I would take back my friend however, if my friend tried to pull that crap on my again... I would not rebefriend them.

raptor · Answer

My best friend and I actually have a contingency plan for this exact situation.

Anonymous · Answer

I will accept him/her back and maybe just laugh and joke about  it. :)

gingerzombie · Answer

I wouldn't be friends with him/her anymore! That's pretty shady business.

wonder_girl1212 · Answer

no... because that "friend"does not know what friendship is. so what's the point?

sophie-zhou · Answer

If I were you , I will not trust  the guy anymore .

jkjkjkjk · Answer

As far as I'm concerned I will refuse becase he or she doesn't believe you.

XNicholex3 · Answer

No. They can kiss my grits.

ricke92m3 · Answer

Hell no, bros before hos, lol.

omorfomoro · Answer

No. I wouldn't be OK. sorry .

SavannahBanana · Answer

This is why I almost never see my cousin anymore..

Anonymous · Answer

I say smell ya later, p**** whipped loser.

CestLolaVie · Answer

Nope I wouldn't.

HannahC · Answer

heellll no

MissYessi · Answer

Eff no.

Anonymous · Answer

No way!

Anonymous · Answer

ignore it

Anonymous · Answer

his loss

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