I don’t know what should I do about my girlfriend standing up for me?

[Anonymous]

I love her. I do. I appreciate it. She tells me how “your whole life you haven’t been able to stand up for yourself and how everyone did stuff that made you feel violated and uncomfortable and there wasn’t anything you could “

she says I need to be better at standing up for myself and if I won’t do it… she will. She really is sweet and comforting. He.

I see another side of her. There are some situations I’m grateful she stood up for me. But in some situations I really feel she shouldn’t be involved especially in family matters.

She yelled at my sisters friend, her boyfriend, she told my dad something once, she’s yelled at my ex, my friend, and many others. And I mean…. She really yelled too.

She won’t not yell at someone if she feels they’re crossing me. She says “nobody gets to cross your boundaries but me” and she says that jokingly. She’s very respectful most of the time unless it comes to that.

[ImalwaysrightOK]

She's just doing it because she thinks you don't stand up for yourself enough. You should probably be more assertive with others.

[Asker]

Yes I know. She loves me a lot. And I have been better. She’s brought a lot out of me

[ImalwaysrightOK]

Thanks for mh

[boggboss]

Set boundaries

[Asker]

Yeah your right. I try. But I think sometimes she stirs things up worse than before.

[boggboss]

But thats what I mean u need to explain this to her and state how u don't always need her to do this

[Asker]

She’s amazing. She really is. Thanks. She’s trying to help. Just sometimes I think she puts her nose where it don’t belong