I accidentally came across photos on his computer of naked women. My fear is that he is encouraging it. I know he would never physically cheat but does this class as emotional cheating? If it was standard porn I would not care. I'm unsure whether to confront him as he is going to focus on the fact he thinks I was snooping. Please give me your thoughts!
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My advice hinges on what you mean by "on the computer" and the nature of the photos.
First did you find these pics in his email? All it takes is putting your email address up on the wrong site or opening the wrong email to end up with spam porn. I don't know of any filter that works 100% of the time so that wouldn't be his fault.
If the pics are in his history then he could either be clicking on links that get redirected or he could be actively looking for them. If he's actively looking for porn then you should tell him that you found by accident that he's been visiting sites that make you uncomfortable. Tell him how these photos make you feel.
Second involves just what sort of pics these are. Could they be artistic nudes? You say that you wouldn't care if it was standard porn. What is it about these photos that disturbs you? Are they depicting some sort of fetish? Just as above you should talk to him about it. Ask him in a non-accusatory way to explain these pics to you. Tell him that you want to understand why he likes them.
But if you think he is in contact with the women in the photos then it's a whole different problem.
First try to find out if he is really in contact with these women. Check his history. Is he contacting them or are they finding him? What might he be contacting these women for? Try to find evidence before you say anything to him.
Second The upside of looking is that you will either have something to confront him with that he can't deny or you'll find he's faithful to you. The downside is that either way you will be guilty of snooping. He will throw that in your face if he's guilty. But if innocent you would have broken his trust.0