My boyfriend asked another girl for nudes through Instagram, is he cheating?

[Anonymous]

Yes

No

[MrOracle]

He's not cheating - cheating means he's physically doing things with another person - but he's also not being loyal or trustworthy. Those are important enough on their own. Don't use the wrong word - words mean specific things, and this isn't "cheating", it's disloyalty.

Now, you should talk to him about it and tell him how you feel and what you think reasonable expectations are, for BOTH of you. Then, listen to his side. Having heard both sides, either you can work out a reasonable set of expectations, or you can't, and if you can't, then you shouldn't be together.

[Lady_Frost]

He's not physically cheating, yes, technically that is correct. However he is being unfaithful, which equals to emotional cheating per this example. He is not committed to her.

[MrOracle]

@Lady_Frost I'm fine with using the term "unfaithful", but "emotional cheating" isn't really a thing, and if you use the word "cheating", it's too easy to get into a semantic argument because you are misusing the term. As I said, words mean things, and it's better to be accurate, and less likely to get involved in a pointless argument when his behavior is the important thing to discuss.

[markscott]

If your boyfriend is asking other girls for nudes, it's time to find a new boyfriend.

[fauchelevent]

In my opinion, it's cheating. Watching porn and stuff is different - there's no interaction with another person, let alone a romantic relationship. In the case of asking another girl for nudes, he's actively engaging with another woman and building up an interaction, that's more personal so I wouldn't be accepting of it.

[Lady_Frost]

Ditto!

[pooper89]

Yes, that’s cheating. He’s directly asking another woman to send him sexually explicit material. If he wanted to see naked women he could find that through a simply google search. Cheating actually does NOT have to be simply hooking up with another person.

[Screenwriter]

I think this is crossing a line. Doesn't mean he's sleeping with this girl, but the fact that he knows her IRL is problematic. It's like he's getting porn from friends. Not nice.

[Lady_Frost]

Well, that is emotional cheating already. He is definitely not being faithful to you.
If you know what's good for you, get rid of him.

[Boardergirl]

yes. I would move on. Who knows what else he has tried to do with our your knowledge. That’s terrible.

[Boardergirl]

Of course it’s not physical cheating but it’s a breech of trust with in a relationship.

[spartan55]

Regardless of what you want to call it, he should now be your EX.

[GhettoGirl]

Sounds like he might still be picking and choosing, get your nudes in quick.

[Jooying]

Mentally yes. Maybe no physical action but he’s thinking about it.

[Annie12234]

Yes, it’s totally cheating and dump him! Find someone else!

[PrinceOfAljazeera]

nope is not cheating its just picture, we all watch porn right? so yeah nothing wrong with asking for nudes from another girl

[Clarke498]

Is he cheating? No, i don't think so. Should you break up? Probably.

[PondyPand]

Do you count it as cheating basically?

[HeavyRoller]

Yes. Next question? :)

[Jayjacob76]

That's the first stage of cheating get rid of him

[teamvic]

Yep I'd say so

[ItsTheNephilim]

You think?

[deadman69]

No duh