Why is it that man become heartless after going though a bad break up with a Girl they really loved... and seem to treat all the other girls that come after like crap? Why do they do to the girls what their xgf did to them? Why do they close their hearts to other girls ?Why is it hard for them to give it (love/ GF) another chance?
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We close our hearts because we don't want to be hurt again. The treating girls like crap has nothing to do what our ex-girlfriend did. We don't assume all girls are the same, just because ONE girl did something.
So if ONE girl that I love suddenly f***s me over, I don't assume all girls are like that. The first girl I ever loved was a liar. She lied about so many things, and I was seriously upset when I found out. She thought honesty was useless. That doesn't mean I wonder all the time if a girl is lying to me or not.
Eventually, guys who close their hearts, eventually open up. It just takes time. We have to feel it's safe. We have to be comfortable. And sometimes it won't just happen on its own. YOU have to make it happen. YOU have to make us feel safe. YOU have to assure us that you won't hurt us, and only then will we open up.
And I say we, because I'm also like that. Although my heart's not broken, it's closed due to all of the girls who take advantage of how caring I can be.
As for the treating like crap thing, it's to do with our experience with girls as a whole. There are A LOT of f***ed up girls out there. But it's not their fault. I can't blame them, nor can anyone else. It's just the way they are. Just how most guys will always be jack-asses who sleep around with multiple girls all the time, girls will always be attention-seeking stuck-ups who feed on the attention of nice guys who give a damn. Both sides get p*ssed at the other for doing what they do, but hey - what're you gonna do? It's just the way it is.1