Why are most men undatable?

Question

So I have a stable career, live out on my own, have my own car and am currently saving up money for a house. I worked really hard to get here. I've been meeting quite a few men lately that are in their 30s and still live with their parents because they can't afford to live out on their own because they're either irresponsible with their money, are lazy and unambitious or just immature. That really turns me off. I broke it off with my one ex because he's still mooching off of his parents, but yet really wanted to have a baby. I dumped his ass very quick. The dating pool is very disappointing these days.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

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DishLady · Accepted Answer

There are men and women who struggle with a variety of issues. It's unkind and unfair to claim that one gender is "undatable". One might say that those who are perpetually weak and insecure about themselves are not suitable for dating or relationships -- men and women.

Lionman95 · Accepted Answer

I would say the issue is that many guys don´t grow up. Part of the issue is that while women have a biological clock guys live in the method of go with flow as many guys think they have all the time they want and realise later how much time they could have achieved. In this modern society many guys are screen addicted since their main hobby is gaming or video games. Guys aren´t good in school either through teacher bias that considers boys to be worse than girls in marks or because they don´t like the school subjects and can´t concentrate.
So a society develops in a way where girls get the good grades and are supported by the teachers while guys are left to care for themselves. Aside from that guys are unambitious as they develop a focus on the online world over the real world. The biggest issue for guys in modern days it´s way more attractive/fun and exciting to play video games than go to college or university. So many guys get lost for various reasons. I don´t think that feminism is the issue in itself as some guys would say I would rather say that a part of the problem is that society doesn´t care. Society has a sweet spot for female problems but a black spot for male problems as academia teaches that males are the privileged and women are the oppressed. So guys live life on their own in a way that avoids taking responsibility hoping that one day they find a reason and a way to change.

ChicoFromThe305 · Accepted Answer

People have different circumstances and it's not the same for everyone, some have deeper struggles than others and I understand your point of view of wanting something better than what's on the table with these men because you yourself are in a better position but remember not to only seek for materialistic things because you get what you give and if you seek for materialistic, you will most likely receive it as well, meaning you'll can find someone with these materialistic preferences but they might be materialistic themselves and care more about how you look than what you have to offer (is an example) dont forget to include the non materialistic things in your preferences as well and dont forget wanting a person with a rotten heart to grow a good heart is much harder to achieve than it is for anyone to find any form of materialistic thing, for example a rich rotten man has an easier shot at finding more wealth than he has of having a change of heart, just don't choose blindly is what I'm saying considering what should be on the table isn't only materialistic things.

ohsheeT · Answer

Sounds like it's time to get out of the pool..

Change the location and the things that you're doing where you find these guys take yourself to another level..

Or put yourself in positions other places then you're being and doing things right now it's just a matter of time this is your process of going through to pick who you want it's just a moment in time this moment will pass and another moment will come

Avicenna · Answer

Bad finances are definitely a legit reason not to date someone. That said, I think part of what you're experiencing is that the guys who are single are single for good reasons (this is definitely the case with women as well).

kylee2437 · Answer

Because you only named good qualities about yourself, and not the actual true self of you and why you attract who you attract, better yet seem like you have a perfectionist personality which is problematic when you are dating for love.

VanillaSalt · Answer

Why are most women undatable?

The feeling you feel at my words are probably negative. I suggest you think about how your questions come across when you ask them if you actually want answers and not be met with hostility.

Now to answer your question because most men aren’t seen as good enough by most women… well in this case you. You probably wouldn’t date me… I’m somewhat short at only 5’7”and slightly overweight at 200, I only have an apartment not a house, I work one job and work overtime when it’s available but I haven’t seen much need to grind, I don’t clean my own home I hire maids, I don’t cook my own meals though I’m working on it more these days… Oh there’s so many things you wouldn’t like about me.

But you know what you would like? All the things you miss because you choose the men you choose. The faithfulness, devotion, the intelligence, the consideration… I’m 37 and have had 5 partners in all my life (few too many for me). No baby mommas, not much debt, hard working always finding a way to manage my shit.

Imagine what you miss from the guys you overlook. Although I don’t recommend men date for relationships these days. These days marriage don’t have the value it used to. Nobody understands the meaning of commitment. And when it ends… No men are better off dating for sex and friendship. I hate to say that but it’s true.

So maybe you overlook many men but maybe a lot of men just ignore that you even exist. You don’t bring value to a man’s life so you can’t expect him to go out of his way to pursue you. The only ones pursuing are the ones desperate to get sex or a relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

This is the wrong place to be asking this. This site has many "men" who are basically one notch above Neanderthals. They only want women to be their slave-just cook, clean and pop out children while lacking any intelligence or the self esteem to stand up for yourself. They can't handle anything else and they luckily are all going to die alone but they infest this site with their caveman rhetoric on a frequent basis. It will take some patience to find what you're looking for but they exist. Some even on this site but the cavemen are louder.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

Put yourself in their shoes... and then you'll understand. Like, what's the point? Like I get your point and I agree, but I don't blame a guy for simply being like "fuck it."

But try it... like a mind experiment. Pretend you're a man and then ask yourself why? Better yet... make a male dating profile and you'll find out real fast.

If you can even get a woman to have more than a one sided conversation, she's either

A) Is going to want to fuck because you used a total Chad or Tyrone as your picture or

B) Want to use you for everything you got

Total sluts and users looking to rob you... take your pick.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

I believe the expression is "failure to launch." Basically, a lot of guys get into a situation where it's really difficult to go out into the world, and no one is actually forcing them to do it.

Most guys see growing up as a pain in the ass option with very little reward for putting in the work.

lightbulb27 · Answer

poorly trained children...

think of what men used to get as training at home... on the farm, with fathers. many fathers were killed off in wars or lost or families broke up... some % of guys lack parenting. Introduce computers and video games. Introduce trashy girls...

and ya got a mess...

Anonymous · Answer

Men have just as many complaints about women in the dating pool these days. It's very hard to find a good woman worth dating seriously. And most women who think they are high value really aren't when judged by the things men actually care about in a woman.

I suspect you are an example of that. You have a career and a car, so what? Do you think those are important factors to a good man looking for a good woman? They're not. Most women today have lost sight about what good men actually value in a woman.

Before complaining about not being able to find a good man, you should take an honest look in the mirror and ask yourself what you bring to the table that men actually care about.

SugarSugarplum · Answer

You're living in masculine energy. Masculine men don't find that attractive.
Providers/protectors don't give a fig about your income, wealth, and career. In fact, only a lazy soyboy looking for a sugar mommy would.

Cultivate your feminine side if you want to attract masculine men.

Anonymous · Answer

Do you have kids? Recieve any child support? I ask this because this is the problem many men run into. There are a lot of immature women who treat breeding like a revenue stream. I'm just saying this is not unique to women. Guys who are good guys run into this problem to. The last woman who wanted to date me decided to quit her job at 40 and start growing weed in her closet like it was a viable career change.🤦‍♂️ she may have just been having a midlife crisis but damn, buy a corvette and try relive your youth like a normal person. Don't turn into a drug dealer.😆

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

And this little rant crying about how you think no one is datable is mature? Good men are out there. Always have been, always will be. You just don’t know where to look for them because you’re too busy being an immature, victim minded little girl. You talk about having a stable career and your own place as if that’s something men find attractive. That’s what WOMEN find attractive in a man. Maybe you should try to get to get to know men better, find out what their real attractions and desires are before stating that most of them aren’t datable.

Anonymous · Answer

Because the economy is bad and there is no incentive for men to push themselves and make any sacrifices anymore. Most are purposeless and grew up without proper upbringing or guidance so they just wing it. The overwhelming majority of men I know did not develop properly emotionally.

Anonymous · Answer

There are two possibilities:

1. You are right. You are a good and worthy woman and most men are shit.

2. You are wrong. Most men are not shit, but you always find and pursue the men who are not worthy.

I'll bet the answer is #2.

Anonymous · Answer

I have a good career and earn almost $400k. My cars and houses are paid for. I'm saving to start a non-profit. Would you want to date me? Probably not. My introduction, while true, makes me sound like an ass. I patterned it after yours.

Look at yourself closely, we all attract people who are like ourselves.

Truthatanycost · Answer

Given how vast and wide this world is and how many men there are out there who are suitable. If you keep on meeting the ones that are undatable then maybe there is something else going on with you, as well as with them...

Nikki1989 · Answer

You answered your own question. Most are all those things.

HighValue · Answer

Most women are un-dateable due to their immoral behavior and bad past. The main problem is often a difference in morals that is irreconcilable. Far more men are conservative and far more women are liberal. That is the main problem.

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

That's a generalization that I understand but again it's a generalization.  Perhaps you should change the type of places you are looking for men since they seem to have common denominators...

DrPepper12 · Answer

It is. You ladies lost about 15% to now being out of closet.
The rest are a mess. Mommy issues, no career, addiction, cheaters, FUGLY, no riz, can't commit, emotionally stunted. Im so sorry. It really does suck. Are you bi curious? 🤔

LiamJHayden · Answer

I sort of get it. I own my house, some rental properties, and a business. I don't care how much she makes or has, but I do know that if she is an irresponsible spender we won't last long term.

Anonymous · Answer

It depends on where you live and your own culture. The houses in California are expensive AF. It's normal in Latino and Indian households to live with your parents till you get married. I think what matters is how this guy treats you and loves you and if you see eye to eye on your future.

Apple1996 · Answer

Men now a days are too deeply in their feminine. They don't give a fuck to try to be a provider or even support themselves now a days.

patois · Answer

So you major life accomplishment is owning a car and you're shitting on guys that are struggling in a weak economy? Crazy as hell.

Unit1 · Answer

Very lucky for you you have a reliable source of sufficient income enabling all these privileges of yours in times like these. Not all of us were given the same fortunes in life.

OhLongJohnsoning · Answer

I don't want marriage or kids, so, that's why I have a hard time finding a girl But, I do agree, most men are undateable these days, lazy I'm straight, of course, i was just mentioning, and agreeing

Pohjolan · Answer

The dating pool is way better for you than what your grandmother had available in terms of sheer numbers if nothing else.

Obviously you are not attracting the men you want to attract. What makes you a catch?

SpeedAnswerDemon · Answer

Probably like dudes that live with their parents Or like really young guys, I don't know

NamerOfStars · Answer

They aren't- the richer ones just want nothing to do with you.

DextroShade · Answer

You should probably take a good look at yourself and figure out why you only attract dudes who live with their parents. Do you even know what men who are worth a damn expect from you?

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

You're overly generalizing entire gender. Plenty of men are doing good for themselves. You just can't attract them or just having some bad luck right now.

McLlovin · Answer

Welp maybe you need get out of your area wherever that maybe.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't know any man above 24 that lives at home. But men are expected to be able to provide for a family by themselves so most good men are working or sleeping because they are tired from working.

noohair · Answer

The feminist movement emasculated guys for 60 years. This is the results. Babymen.

dudegreat91 · Answer

What's wrong in living with parents, if he's helping them out when they're old

war_daddy · Answer

men are losing motivation because of feminism and divorce rape

CubaPirate · Answer

Because they're like toilets. In that they are already taken or full of shit lol 😆

dolemite58 · Answer

Date men who don’t live with their parents then 😂

Anonymous · Answer

Because the elites are running mass depopulation exercises

omniscientman · Answer

You're undateable because their financial situation means so much to you. I could never

Anonymous · Answer

The reason is unbelievably simple. Men aren't motivated.

Julian7312 · Answer

I hope that's not "most" men who are that age.

Sugar100 · Answer

You never had a boyfriend?

Tim2nice · Answer

Why are most women undatable?

DaddyDiablo · Answer

Sometimes I wonder this

jahaims · Answer

Most people are worthless

JesseP1nk · Answer

Good luck with that attitude :)

In_Trance · Answer

For the same reason most women are

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