3 year relationship with girl, I am her first boyfriend.
She wants the relationship to progress, I just want to chill out.. I have a bit of a fear to commit.
Mutually agree to break up, because she was unhappy. Love and respect her a lot, gives me time to think. And she says she wants to look for a more serious relationship.
She asks if we can still be friends, but she doesn't want to see me because its "too difficult"
I respect her.
After break up, Tell her every day I love her, and ask her how she is.
I notice and from mutual friends I hear she is partying a lot, on every dating app, going on dates etc.
It hurts me deep inside, but I still try to respect her because I feel like a jackass for not wanting to progress our relationship.
After 2 weeks I break down, I miss her lots.
I want to marry her, start pursuing her.
first subtly, then she starts rejecting me. I am confused, confess my feelings and undying love for her.
She says she is not sure I am honest with her. I tell her I am. Try to prove it.
She strings me along, keeps dating other men, partying etc. I am slowly going insane. Pursue even harder to prove I am dead serious about her, also I am scared she starts sleeping around.
She notices how much I love her, she keeps me in the friend zone.
While she is dating other men.
hurts a lot.
This goes on for 3 months where she grows more and more distant, and I grow more and more obsessed with her and depressed because nothing seems to work.
she says there is nobody else
Eventually I hear she was sleeping around, she knew I would resent her for that. However she keeps on doing it and she doesn't care nor respect me at all any more.
She says I am a closed chapter.
I am devastated.
How could a woman do this? She used to be head over heels for me, she said she was looking for a serious relationship, I told her I wanted to give that to her 2 weeks after we broke up.
Why would she string me along while sleeping around like that?
Why didn't she just come back?
Most Helpful Girl
well its pretty common... some men will take the girl that is in their lives for granted cause of fear of commitment >:( >:( i wonder why they wanna be with a girlfriend if they can't commit? why not ask for a friends with benefits instead
and YES girls change after they feel neglected/rejected... every actions have their consequences4
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Most Helpful Guy
Have you ever heard the phrase you can't turn a hoe into a housewife? Those old sayings exist for a reason. You are making yourself miserable by pursuing something that is not only unrealistic but also unhealthy. You don't need love or anything like that and it is going to cause you a ton of grief if you continue to pursue it especially with women in that age range. But your desire for love is normal.0