Anyone who tells you not to get involved, has either cheated on someone or is the one with the person whose cheated. Or it's just that they have no heart or self respect for other humans. Otherwise they wouldn't allow another person, who doesn't deserve it...to be hurt or disrespected in such a way. If you know something, it's your responsibility to say something. Just like in the legal system, you can get in just as much trouble for knowing a crime was committed and lying or withholding information, even if you didn't commit the crime. You are aiding and abiding that person in continuing to commit that crime. It's not as severe as a criminal act, but it's still a shame and disgraceful behavior. If you know and you have any kind of heart, I'd tell her. Now whether she believes you or not is not your problem. Just tell her & if she chooses not to believe it, just step away from the situation. I've done this before and the girlfriend chose to not believe me. But I did my part by telling her and that's all I care about.
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Ohh man I was in your shoes before this is what happened to my. My close friends boyfriend cheated and got some girl preg with twins...I didn't know how to tell her...and so I didnt.. it ate me up for years..
Every time I saw him I gave him dagger eyes.. and he wondered why... I didn't say one darn word and it was eating me up slowly.. by this time the girl had the twins.. then my friend announced that they were getting married.. my heart dropped..
So I confronted Jon and told him that I gave him 24hrs to tell Trina that he had kids with someone else...He denied it of course said that it was all a lie and that I didn't like him so he turned my friend against me..
We stopped talking completely even though I gave her the name of the girl and her number to call her and talk.. We stopped talking after that and she married him. ...1yr into their marriage they got hit with child support.. and now we recently started talking again.
Id say yes, a lot of people think its best to just stay out of it but really you are already in the middle of it. Either way someone has already been hurt and the longer the person stays in the relationship thinking its all peachy keen then the harder it will be for them later down the road. Here is the thing tho who would she believe and how could or would you prove it to her so she has no doubt in her mind that you could be lieing... Tell her get your mind at ease! She needs to know! I would want to know
It's always dangerous to tread in other peoples love affairs. Even though the intention might be good.
I'm not defending anyone... but
Everyone makes poor judgments in their life and hopefully they learn from their mistake and never do it again. That said... who knows if this guy made a poor judgement but by doing this realised who much he values his current relationship. This could result in that they would live happily ever after, or whatever. But if someone comes along and decides what is right for other people they may also steal away all those coming years of happiness.
I'm not saying that you should neither shouldn't tell her. Just know what you are doing.
Most of my girlfriends have cheated on me so I know all about that.
its really good to know you care about this girl, and in a sence I think it would be a good thing to tell her and the simple reason is the longer she's with him and the more he cheats its just gonna really hurt her, so the quicker someone tells her the less painfull its gonna be, but you have to beaware that she might call you a liar and say "ur only tellin me this cos you want him" and trust me that is quite common 4 that to happen, but tbh your doing her a really big favor and helping her through that tough time.
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you should, but just be aware that her reaction is going to be one of pain and possible resentment, this may be directed towards you. But if you don't know her well then is probably won't affect you too much. Do the right thing, a girl did the same for me when I was 16 and she is to date still one of my best friends.
Well it is up to you... as a good friend, the best thing to do would be to tell your friend that tim cheated on her... But also remember... like many of the other answerers said, you may be the one in trouble at the end.. and the couple walks away happily ever after, you will lose both your friends... Most people think you are trying to break them up... So basically, its up to you... what you really feel like doing.
if my friend is a friend, I would want her to tell me that my boyfriend is cheating on me otherwise I feel that she might be manipulating something or she doesn't like the girl that the boyfriend is cheating with or who knows, it doesn't sound good when you know something your friend should know and you're not telling her.
but that' s my opinion and that's how I would feel. I probably would dump the friend who's not telling me the truth.i say it depends. it depends on if you're friends with tim's girlfriend and how much you care for her. it also depends on what kind of person tim is. if he's crazy and is willing to go through dangerous lengths to get payback, then it's not worth saying anything. you get the point. you can also leave an anonymous tip if that puts your mind at ease.
Up to you. I've learned to stay out of other people's sh*t though. Most of the time in the end, you (the 3rd person) end up getting sh*t on, called a liar, end up losing friendship, etc...and the guy and girl in the couple end up walking away with nothing changed.
In this case, you could tell her, have it come back on you and she could end up trusting him more.
Strangely...
Get what I'm saying?
Anyway, personally, I wouldn't say a word.Putting yourself in her shoes for a minute was a smart idea. You would definitely want to know, from ANYONE if your boyfriend was cheating. She might not believe you, but at least you did your part. That's the least you can do.
well if you are good friends with this girl it would be the right thing to do. however you don't wanna get caught up in any drama. maybe if you talk to her just kind of mention something casually that will make her think about it but not look like you just told her or are talking sh*t. she does need to know though
i've been in this situation before and my advice is you keep it to yourself because chances are she's not going to believe you. If she's not a friend of yours Its not your responsibility, trust me you don't need this stress of getting involved in this kinda drama... and it could hurt your friendship with your friend that he cheated on her with.
You're jumping to conclusions and you're convicting the dude based on hearsay. What proof do you have that Tim cheated on his girlfriend past your fairly unreliable "friend"?
That would be nice of you but I say probably not because she might not believe you and might start drama with you because she may think you're trying to ruin her relationship.
lots of people told you not to get involved, in my opinion I would confront him and give him 24 hours to confess the truth. If you confront her then you snitching on your friend.
I think you should not tell anybody. It's not your business, it's their lives and mistakes. If you tell your friend you may lose both of your friends: who cheated and who was cheated on.
Its a double edge sword. Yes you should adn no you shouldnt. People will always want help when it comes to finding out the truth with a cheater. But people will always dislike the ones that do help. Its a choice you'll have to make. Good girl, or Asshole. If it were me, drop a sutle hint about it.
AlexI really hope you do.. inconvenience / 'stress' are not valid reasons to keep this to yourself. Though, what was your friend doing with this guy anyway if she knew? (Does she actually know?)
Yess you should, its the honnest and best thing to do, if you were in her position you would want to know right?
It's hard to tell something like that, but maybe you should open her mind to see that Tim is not such a nice guy...
Do you know this other girl well? Ie, is she a friend?
If she is, tell her. If she is merely an acquaintance, don't bother. It's not your problem.I agree with how you're feeling about the whole situation, I'd feel the same way. So, If it were up to me I'd have to tell her.
If I was in a relationship and someone knew my man was cheating on me.. I would want to know.
Usually a person receiving news like that doesn't believe it and only gets upset with the messenger.
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