Should I tell my girlfriend I cheated on her?

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I feel really bad about it. She doesn't know about it and would 3nev4 know unless I tell her. I want to tell her because she deserves to know the truth, but she'll most likely leave me. I would never do something like that again, it was a mistake. Should I tell her?

provokeesmokee · Accepted Answer

Not telling her means she finds out about two lies: your cheating and your hiding it.

2/3 strikes in a single move.

Powerful chess, shit relationship tactic.

By fessing up, you still break her trust. But only once. You look comparatively better than lying about it and fucking up later and getting caught not just cheating but continuing a lie.

There's no win condition here, bud. Just whether you get got now and get away relatively scottfree, or you let this ferment and it explodes on you in every worst way.

Looking forward to the revenge tale on her part. Sucks to suck.

dustybiker2 · Accepted Answer

And now you live with the guilt. Respect her enough to let her know what you did.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Being honest and upfront is better than not being honest and upfront , if she chooses to leave you? then that’s her choice and decision to do so , understand she isn’t the one that cheated on you. Everyone faces consequences of their own actions , understand you truly don’t love and value your girlfriend because if you did? You wouldn’t of cheated on her , not telling her the truth just makes you a selfish person that only cares about himself , By you telling her the truth at least gives her an option on whether she wants to stay with you or not

DrPepper12 · Accepted Answer

Ask yourself: would YOU want to know? Knowing that you would probably break up with her.

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Navigating these waters of confession, eh? Let's break it down. Honesty, in a relationship, is like the oxygen to its flame - without it, it's only a matter of time before things suffocate. Feeling terrible is your conscience tapping on your shoulder, reminding you integrity is key. Yes, spilling the beans might lead to some stormy weather, and she might choose to walk away, but wouldn't you rather be with someone who chooses to stay with you knowing all of you? Think of it this way: confessing not only unburdens your heart but also gives her the respect of making her own decisions about what she wants for her future. Remember, true love isn't just about feeling good; it's about doing right by the one you treasure. So, my charming advice? Rip off the band-aid. It's scary, but it's also the first step towards genuine healing, whether together or apart. Good luck, love warrior!

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DishLady · Answer

I’d tell her if I were you, but be prepared for whatever her reaction might be… and know she’d be justified in leaving you.

Jbear27 · Answer

Let’s be honest. If this is a one time fluke with crazy blackout circumstances that will never be repeated and it happened outside your social circle so she would never find out… then I might consider not telling her. If the guilt is eating you up then you’re really just wanting to tell her to ease your own ego which is self serving at best. It’s going to make you feel better while making her feel like shit. Respect her and break it off and tell her you’re not ready for a long term exclusive commitment. Let her find someone worthy of her time without destroying her self confidence and image.

Nirmroth · Answer

The relationship ended when you cheated or at least its now in her hands. If you love her give her the power you took from her by letting her decide whetever she wants to forgive you or not.

Everyone does mistakes, be a man and deal with the aftermath. Thats showing responsibility and respecting your partner feelings.

Purpleronnie · Answer

There is no question of if , only how and that’s to make sure she understands that it was 100% on you , don’t go making excuses or making her feel in the slightest that her actions or inactions led to you doing what you did. The only consolation here is that your words seem to point to at least semblance of guilt and remorse , so maybe there is some hope that you never treat another person with the same disrespect and disregard you have shown your now ex-girlfriend

genericname85 · Answer

yup. take responsibility for your actions. own up to your fuck up. tell her and best you can do is: break up with her too. because assuming she's still in love, breaking up will be hard tho it's the right thing to do for her. so do her that favor at least.

BadApple69 · Answer

You want to tell her because you feel guilty not because she needs to know.
You said she will leave if you tell her… is that what you want? If not then don’t tell her. We all make mistakes and as long as it’ll never happen again then put it behind you and move on.

“Let he who has not sinned cast the first stone”

delsworld · Answer

You have no right to allow her to ignorantly stay with someone who's betrayed her. She should be given to opportunity to forgive and you should respect her enough to know that nobody deserves to stay with someone who has betrayed them.

SugarSugarplum · Answer

I don't know how you can cheat on someone and still claim she's your girlfriend. The relationship ended when you cranked your tool out. Your heart doesn't love her anymore.

avery58 · Answer

Yes, you should be honest with her and let her make her choice, it's her life too. You'll feel guiltier keeping it a secret.

sawno · Answer

Absolutely, honesty is the key to making it work long term. If she forgives you your relationship is saved, if she finds out later there is no way she's ever going to forgive you and your whole relationship is based on a lie.

spartan55 · Answer

Dude, it wasn't a mistake. It was a series of choices and decisions that ultimately led to you cheating. You should tell her because she will find out anyway. Take your medicine, you fucked up.

MisterWack · Answer

Be honest and upfront, don’t hide it and apologize.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

You told her... now you're in for a world of shit.  Gud luck brah.

Yannae · Answer

If you love her, you have to. If you don't respect yourself as a person or respect or love her at all, keep it to yourself.

TommyMountainFigure · Answer

Why is it that cheaters only ever feel bad AFTER they've cheated. It's just too damn late to have a conscience now!

Ez-Bri-Z_v2 · Answer

Of course you should tell her. Wouldn't you want to know if she cheated on you?

pethouse · Answer

I see that you told her. Good. She deserved to know.

femalenpc · Answer

Picture she cheated on you and do what you'd want her to do. It's not more complicated than that.

Peridot25 · Answer

Since you told her, did she end things with you? Hopefully?

PatKirby · Answer

The relationship died, she just doesn't know about it.

lorenzomichael · Answer

No dummy don’t say shit. Don’t ever say that, what’s wrong with you? Unless you’re falling out of love with her. Then fuck it do whatever you want.

Anonymous · Answer

Never say never again.  Why does she deserve to know? Sounds like it's more to do with your guilt.

the29thhuman · Answer

You’re a loser. Typical too. At least you’re not sorry about it

Vegasrunner · Answer

Absolutely not. It doesn't benifit you at all.

Account · Answer

You should face the consequences of your actions.

Jessikaah91 · Answer

Honesty is the key!

PeachyPie93 · Answer

How did telling her go?

MacDaddyRico · Answer

If you don't I will

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

How did she take it?

HelpfulWoman · Answer

YES.

HawkPerception · Answer

Scumbag

Darkchild25 · Answer

Sounds like you had made up your mind anyway

Jason2469 · Answer

Lol. No. Retard

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