Should I let my love know the girl I cheated on her with?

[Anonymous]

I cheated on my girlfriend in our ldr.. i told her

And we broke up.. but after months i talk to her again and tell her that i still want to rebuild our relationship.. she asked to know that girl first by sending her instagram profile.. should i do that? I think this will hurt her more.. but i dont know why she ask that

[Anonymous]

It's understandable that your girlfriend may want to know who the other person involved in the cheating was, as this can help her to understand what happened and make an informed decision about whether she wants to try to rebuild the relationship with you. However, it's ultimately up to you to decide whether or not to share this information with her.

It's important to consider how your girlfriend may react to this information and whether sharing it will ultimately help or hurt the process of rebuilding your relationship. If you believe that sharing the other person's Instagram profile will cause your girlfriend unnecessary pain or further damage the trust between you, it may be better to respectfully decline her request and focus on rebuilding trust and communication between the two of you.

However, if you do decide to share this information, it's important to be open and honest with your girlfriend about your feelings and intentions. Let her know that you understand the gravity of what happened and that you are committed to rebuilding the relationship with her, but also be prepared to answer any questions she may have and to take responsibility for your actions.

[Anonymous]

Why the f do you care if it hurts her to know who the girl was? You sure didn’t care she’d be hurt when you fucked the other woman. You should thank God, the universe, the devil or whatever someone like you hold holy that she’s even talking to you. If you want any chance of being with her again then you do anything she asks for to rebuild that relationship and build the trust back up as much as possible (because no there will never be complete trust ever again) including telling her who it was. You play your cards completely open. You even let her have all your passwords and a location tracker if she asks for it. Heck you even put a camera in your bedroom if that’s what she wants. You’ve already proven that you can’t be trusted so don’t expect her to trust you, expect to forever (not just a few weeks or months, this will take YEARS) have to go out of your way to prove you’re not going to hurt her again.

[Anemone978]

I would send it.. she probably wants to gauge if it is worth trying it with you again but she might want to talk to the girl to see what all went down, if you lied about anything, etc. but most likely if the girl is prettier than her, she is never gonna get back with you...

[arodriguez664]

I would tell her no. I don't know about you but I would compare myself to that other girl and destroy my own self esteem. Would she be okay with not knowing?

[Asker]

She told me that she will get better if she know her.. but i am not sure.. i am not a cheater i really regret that.. but i want her so bad and shw will not get back to me if i refuse what she want

[Asker]

I am afraid that would hurt her more

[Anonymous]

how dare you still call her "my love" when you cheated on her. you don't love her. i think she should wise up and leave you for good! stop talking to her and stop hurting her.