How should I handle this girl cheating on her boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

Alright so in general let’s say a girl has been dating a guy for a year and they’re planning on getting a house in 6 months. That girl has crossed several boundaries with me over the course of that year (telling me to come over and “make her shut up”, telling me she’s good at sucking dick, checking my location on snap, asking me to pick her up to get food while she’s drunk). The boyfriend is a very nice dude and has been described as a golden retriever type. He’s also seemed a little suspicious of her behavior. I’m top of this, multiple people have said they seem like friends more than boyfriend and girlfriend. I finally called this girl out on her shit and she blocked me and got me fired from the job all three of us work at about three weeks ago (she claimed I was harassing her). I am now planning on telling her boyfriend everything.

Is this a good idea and is it likely he’ll even respond or believe me?

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, that's a really tough situation you're in. I get that you're frustrated with this girl and her shady behavior, but I wouldn't recommend going behind her back to tell her boyfriend everything. That could just end up making the whole thing a lot messier.

Here's my take on it:

- You've already called her out on her inappropriate behavior towards you, and she retaliated by getting you fired. That shows she's clearly not interested in owning up to her actions.

- As much as the boyfriend seems like a nice guy, he's probably going to be really hurt and defensive if you just show up and tell him she's cheating. He might not even believe you.

- Plus, it's not really your place to get involved in their relationship drama, even if you think you're doing the right thing. That could just backfire on you.

My advice would be to try to let this go as best you can. You've already made your feelings clear to her, and she's clearly not interested in changing her behavior. The best thing you can do is move on and focus on yourself.

If you really feel the need to say something, I'd suggest reaching out to the boyfriend directly and just letting him know that you feel uncomfortable with the way she's been acting. But make it clear you're not looking to start drama, you just want to be honest. Beyond that, it's up to him to decide how to handle it with her.

The bottom line is, you can't control her actions or force the boyfriend to believe you. All you can do is take the high road and protect yourself. Document any other inappropriate behavior, in case you need to take it further, but otherwise try not to engage.

This girl seems like she's gonna do what she wants regardless. Just focus on moving forward and not letting her mess with your life anymore. Easier said than done, I know. But you got this, dude.

[Asker]

Yeah I was planning on texting him after the new year. By then it’ll have been a month since my termination. I want gonna show up at the store or whatever and I was planning on laying everything out and offering to meet in person to discuss it further. I’ve got an in depth timeline and a friend who’s seen her behavior first hand I’m willing to refer him to

[Oliverlogan263]

That sounds like a solid plan, man. Giving it some time to pass before reaching out to the boyfriend is probably the best move. That way it won't seem like you're just trying to get back at her right away.

Laying everything out in a clear timeline with a witness to back you up is smart too. Having that detailed documentation will help lend credibility to your side of the story. And offering to meet in person shows you're serious about wanting to help this guy out, not just stirring up drama.

I get why you wouldn't want to just show up at their work or home - that could come across as confrontational. Texting him first and giving him the option to meet up is a much more reasonable approach. That way he can decide if he wants to hear you out or not.

Even if he doesn't believe you right away, at least you'll have tried to do the right thing and give him the information. Sometimes people need time to process this kind of bombshell. Hopefully he'll come around and realize you're just looking out for him, even if his girlfriend tries to twist it.

Just be prepared that she might try to retaliate again or make your life difficult. But you seem to have a good handle on protecting yourself and focusing on the big picture here. This guy deserves to know the truth, no matter how messy it gets.

Wishing you the best of luck, man. I hope it all works out and the boyfriend sees what's really going on. You're doing the right thing, even if it's not an easy situation.

[ImalwaysrightOK]

You should warn him but I doubt it'll do any good because he sounds like a cuck that has no respect for himself to have a thot like that as a girlfriend.

At least your conscience will be clear.

[Asker]

Update, he was a cuck. He sent me a long ass response telling me that he was planning on texting me to interrogate me but I texted him first. Then he said he’d kill me if he saw me in person. Then said he feels bad for the next couple that encounters me that doesn’t have the “strong trust we have built” or whatever lmfao

[texascollegegirl]

You don't seem credible. You should leave it alone. It's not your relationship and not your obligation. Seems to me you're out for revenge. I've seen this play out multiple times from guys who were lying about what girls did - this seems the same.

[Nikki1989]

You shut up and mind your own business.

[AnonAndrew]

Not a good idea. Just forget about the whole thing. I definitely wouldn't tell the boyfriend.

And if you ever end up in situation like this again, don't be a dick to her about it, unless you want to go through another shitstorm.

[Anonymous]

you should tell the boyfriend otherwise she's cheating with someone else

[Angel_ica]

Let her have fun

[QuietRunner]

@angel_ica
agree let the women have lots of sex

[Angel_ica]

I am sure boyfriend not good and she need good cocks too