Will my ex boyfriend ever forgive me?

[Anonymous]

my ex boyfriend broke up with me a month ago we have been on and off since this last time we were off he said he needed 3 weeks before he would talk to me. I didn't understand why so I kept texting him blowing up his phone now he is mad and is saying mean things like he is over and f*** you and he never wants to talk to me again. I think he is just saying that because he is mad from me blowing up his phone do you think if he still has feelings that he will come back if I stop contacting him and giving space and or do you think he won't come back and what he is saying is true

[Anonymous]

I did this with my ex. Its a big mistake to do that, but you probably just wanted him back. Acting like a crazy desperate person is very unattractive, and pushes your ex into a corner. Where they feel trapped, and people that feel trapped become resentful and angry towards the other person, hence why he said those things.

What I suggest you do is send him a message to give you some closure saying something like at first you thought the breakup was a bad thing, but now you see where he is coming from and you've accepted it and are moving on. Say you remember all the good times you guys had, and that you didn't want to end things on a bad note.

He will see you are being the bigger person, and if he cares about you he will contact you back. But don't contact him back. Give him a chance to miss you, and let him realize whether he prefers life with or without you. I did this with my ex, and stopped talking to him as often, no matter how much he texted me. We now talk everyday, and I'm going to stay at his house this weekend. But I understand that bad breakups need time to heal, so I only expect friendship. It is possible to work think out. It was actually me asking questions on here and reading that I wasn't the only one going through it that made me move on from my initial begging to get him back.

So just leave things for a couple of days, then send him a message like I mentioned above, then leave it. He will either contact you or he wont. If he doesn't it wasn't meant to be, and you just have to accept it and move on with the lessons you learned from this relationship. Good luck x

[Anonymous]

Well the thing is you didn't leave him alone when you broke up, you bombarded him with texts, never giving him time to think and maybe have a chance at possibly to sort things out. I know that you did what you did cos you were most likely hurt and confused and wanted answers and for him to communicate with you, whilst he wanted time away to think, time to figure out the next move.

Bombarding him with texts only inflamed him, and made him angry at you for doing what you did. You now need to give him a wide berth and not communicate with him, you most likely will have to wait for him to communicate with you, if he doesn't contact you after a month then you can just send one text saying just wanted to say hello to you and to ask how you are? Just leave it at that and wait for his response. If he doesn't send one, then I am afraid you will have to move on. You can't spend all your life waiting for him and wondering if he will come back.

Just keep busy. Go out with friends, take up a new hobby or interest. Have fun.

[Lizzie1990]

I've been in pretty much the same situation, me and my ex-boyfriend were on and off and then during our last break up he said he needed space, but I missed him and was scared so did the opposite and rang him and texted him and basically annoyed the hell out of him so he turned nasty. But when I left it for a while, and we didn't speak for 2 months or so, he texted me and apologised for it all and we're back now working on our friendship. So just leave it for a bit and let him calm down, sometimes guys just react in the heat of the moment and say whatever they think will make you leave them alone when really they don't mean there just stressed and need some time and space on there own.

[courtkid1012]

Probably the worst thing you could've done. All you can do now is apologize and be nice, then leave him alone. If it's only been a day or two then I guess you should just text him or something saying how you're sorry for not respecting his wishes, feel badly, and won't contact him until he wants to talk. Then you actually have to do that. If it's been more than a few days then maybe you shouldn't text him apologizing and just let him be. If he cares he'll talk to you, if not then you'll forget about him in it all.

[cutekid]

Him telling u'f**k u'doesnt mean he still doesn't like you,it might be because he's been having some problem with life stuff or because you got so into him and forgetting he's your ex and nothing much in common anylonger,but truth is that somewhere in his heart,he knws he's so wrong for saying that 2 you and someday he's gonna text or call 2 apologize but just give him some break,.thats all

[florida19]

Someone help me here, my ex blocked my phone number after a big fight back in July. We live together, we can text and he can call me. When I asked a few times first was you can call me on private. Now not too long ago I asked him again cause he mention something about friends. He said he would unblock me the next day, but gave me excuse and said I can still call him on private. Its been 3 months now and he didn't unblock my number yet and almost two weeks since he said he would. Will ever let me talk to him normally?

[show_time63]

I think you should just let it rest for a while, don't text him, don't call him, he will wonder what's up, let him be the one to initialize any further comunication, if he doesn't, it's time to move on, to keep blowing up his phone will only make matters worse

[TornApart]

maybe, maybe not. it depends on the person. but normally they do forgive.

[Anonymous]

If he is into you he will come back if not he's moved on.