Should I forgive my boyfriend for cheating on me with his ex?

[Anonymous]

I've been in a serious relationship with my boyfriend for going on 3 years. This week I found out from a friend he had been sleeping with his ex for 4months. I contacted his ex she said yes and to ask him I wasn't to sure to believe her because when he left her 4 me she was suicidal. I asked him and he panicked and asked me to marry him. I believed him and sent her a nasty message and said we were getting married then she said she had prove ends up she had saved messages from when it started. It started Jan to June they even went camping . He said it was only a few time and it was because I was talking to sum1 else. He begs 4 me to come back and promises it was a mistake and he was just upset and he gave me a ring and said he would tattoo my name on him. I denied both but I'm so hurt but I still love him and can't decide what to do. He stopped their fling (no strings attached sex) in June because he realized I was the 1 and he kept me around because he knew he could find no 1 better. During his fling with her I tried dumping him and he would freak out. I no he loves me because he won't leave me alone and I know he attempted to kill himself but his parents found him before hand. (hes normally not and never has been like that I think he just went in2 panic mode when I would come back)should I stay with him with out the promise of marriage to see how things go or just move on? I seriously need to no as soon as possible because he's not going away with out me telling him if I want him or not believe me he reminds me every day. Any opinion is so wanted!

-thanks!

[2243978]

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[may1stattitude]

It's on you. Try to examine your feelings - can you still trust him? Can you really live with him and take it to the next level having these situations as part of his baggage? What's with the comparison between you and his ex-girlfriend? Even though you were talking to someone else, he shouldn't have done that. Making love is sacred.

What's with the sudden marriage? Don't fall into something too emotional. Let him take his time and you both should clear your minds before deciding to be one. Marriage is not a joke. Take your time and let him clear things in his head. Then when you both had time to breathe, communicate and share with each other your wants and needs.

Good luck!

[lollipopgirl23]

he's not sorry that he cheated , he's only sorry that he got caught. he asked you too marry him because he felt guilty and was scared that you might leave him. he seems desperate and scared of being alone. he lied & cheated on you for 4 months. if his ex didn't have proof you would be walking around like everything was all good meanwhile she would of been laughing behind your back. you can stay with him if you want but now the trust is lost. can you really trust him now after he's been lying to you and having sex with another girl. he will probably kiss your ass and wait till everything is great between ya two and then cheat on you again. so I say leave his sorry ass.

[dfrazmabel]

first of all DONT GET MARRIED, well not yet at least. the worst thing is to make a commitment when things are so iffy. You need to know that you love him unconditionally and he loves you back. It does seem that he love you but that doesn't mean that for those 4 months he didn't love that chick or that he won't do it again. You really need to spend some time sorting things out with and tell him all your thoughts. The worst thing you can do is just forgive him and move on and act like nothing happened. Just spend a few hours talking to him and make sure you are certain about wot you want before you move and make sure he has some kind of punishment or he may be tempted to do it again at some time

[Asker]

Yeah I no I denied the ring and the tattoo offer. believe me I've been bitching since I found out he nos he's not getting off easy I'm seriously making his life hell right now but he still calls and tries to see me.

[20Questions]

Please please don't marry him, its good you denied the ring but...I think you need to get rid of him. I don't wanna be overly judgemental but it really doesn't sound like he's gonna change anytime soon cos I mean, a cheater is a cheater & only God can change the heart of a man.

And you said he tried to kill himself...do you really want to be with someone so emotionally unstable? I think you should finish with him and tell him to sort his life out, find God or whatever, you'll be doing him a fa

[20Questions]

-vour!

[anabur]

AAAAAAAAGH! No you shouldn't forgive him! He only proposed because you made him panic by finding out he cheated. He's the guy who sh*ts on you but "Oh I can't stand to lose you, you mean so much to me." At the very least, tell him that you're not getting engaged to him anytime soon. IF he cheated on you, you DO NOT need to jump into marrying him. If he's the one for you, he'll still be the one for you in 2 or 3 years, right?

[mija66]

I just want to tell you that in my opinion, once a cheater, always a cheater, I had a guy just like that once, and no one will ever know how much I love him, and would of did anything for him, even let him cheat to stay together, and that is exactly what he did, six years later, we still talk once in a while, I am way over him and moved on, but he has a new girl, and she actually contacted me (another state away) to ask me questions about him, and if he was cheating on her with me, or anyone that I knew, that shows you that he never changed, I know you don't want to hear this, I have a broken heart too, but you should run as far away as you can from this guy, you are better off, and will find love again, and it will be better and true. Trust me!

[Anonymous]

not at all!