If a guy really liked a girl but pushed her away because he is scared of getting hurt, what is the best thing the girl can do?

[Anonymous]

Do I give him space or do I text him every once in awhile? I see him every weekday morning in person and we talk then. Should i still keep in contact or would it be better if i gave him a lot of space so he misses me?

[vi_raat]

In my group Is a girl. I'm very fond of her. She's also into me. We held hands and pecked kisses sometimes. But never expressed commitment. Last month after her marriage I received a gm message from her. Saying... "I waited 2 years for u, now I cannot." worst and depressing message I ever had.

[satyanadella]

think on brushing away his fear...

[Asker]

How do i do that?

[satyanadella]

what is fear? or being scared?
what is its opposite? like not being afraid?
as much as human emotions are hard to define... it turns out comfort drives away fear !!
and we are comfortable with what we are "familiar" with... i am comfortable with my guy friends because i can talk crap to them and these assholes do the same... talk crap... we have reached a very high point of comfort and familiarity... so is the case with my family and so i the reason why we are afraid of strangers sometimes...
YOU should instead of pursuing him romantically just work on strengthening your friendship... open up to him and then he'll open up to you...
there is no such thing as fear of commitment or fear of breakup... he's probably just concerned if you're genuinely going to be there at the end of the day like his mom...(no matter what she's always there even after they live separately for years, she'll always be his mom)...

[satyanadella]

AND if you're really interested in this guy, then to be that girl to him, you're gonna have to be more than just girlfriend material, you're gonna have to be everything - chill like a friend, care a sibling, hell even be protective as a guardian

just being romantic won't help... work to develop a relationship that is like his college bros... have casual conversations on all topics he's interested in,,,
remember the goal is to make him as comfortable with you as much as he is with the people he doesn't feel afraid if hurting him..
and then the "fear of getting hurt" won't even cross his mind even once before starting a romantic relationship with you..

[satyanadella]

i had never given such a long advice to a stranger... instead of focusing on my physics test... this is what i'm doing... trying these funny apps... i pity myself !!
least you could do is reply if it helped or not and yeah spelling and grammatical errors on such elegy is inevitable... hope you don't mind :)

[Asker]

This has helped a lot. But what if he doesn't make time to hang out in person other than when he sees me at the gym? We text a bit and joke around but that is it. This whole situation is killing me. My guy friends confirmed that this guy just has a wall up around his heart and is scared to let anyone in. Why did i have to fall for a guy like this? I ended up hurt, not him. We had been having amaxing sec, our chemistry was so good and he even admitted it, had so much in common and just got along so well. Why did he push me away when everything was honestly perfect? It makes no sense.

[satyanadella]

if everything was going well, then you should just be straight forward !! ask him why he pushed you aside !! make him confess that he has a wall !! then assure him you won't hurt him...(don't tell him you were hurt for what he did)... tell him to give it a chance or something,,, not verbally through actions !! as to develop more comfort which eventually brushes away any fear,, find excuses for long conversations and talk casually, non-romantically... talk a lot... conversation is the key !! and yeah don't show him all your attention... with building comfort... let him have the opportunity to approach you !!

[satyanadella]

if he feels as comfortable with you as he is with himself, he'll never fear of any breakup or bad outcome no matter what his past is... and eventually somebody will break down the wall in the end... why not you?
by the way, if i were you, before doing anything i'd conform if he actually just has a wall and is not actually, not - interested in me !!

[msg812]

winning his trust.

[Asker]

How do i do that?

[msg812]

declare your love with all your sincerity and be always kind and sincere with him. do somethings special for him e. t. c

[AlexDelux]

No, stay in contact

[Asker]

won't that be annoying to him tho?

[satyanadella]

nope... just don't overdo it