Would a guy avoid a girl he likes?

[Anonymous]

do guys ever avoid a girl they like because they're shy or don't think she's interested? have any guys done this? I wanted to know because there is a lot of info saying that guys will try to be around the girl or contact her in some way, but I wanted to know if any guys on here don't do that, even if they really like the girl. it would help me figure out a lot of things, haha

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to explain the situation better, this guy and I had class and we'd alway sit together and talk A LOT. we'd hang out outside of school with our partner too, but if we ever had to study alone he would mysteriously disappear.

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then the next time I'd see him, he'd be laughing and talking with me again. he also gets really shy looking if we're walking up the block together (alone), like hands in his pockets and staring at the ground. he'd hold doors for me and walk real close too

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he also seemed upset the last day of class when I didn't notice him waiting for me. he was like 'yeah, I saw you, but then you just disappeared...' and the sad face. and he always smiles real big when he sees me, like I just completed his world haha...idk

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he doesn't make effort to contact me unless I text him first and we'll talk for a while through text. I asked him to play pool when we first met, but he lives off campus and already went home, at least he claimed.

[maddhatter]

i don't know about guys, but I usually stay as far away as possible from the guy I like, even when I know he likes me too. It's stupid, I know, but my inferiority complex combined with my shy-ness (I guess) makes it hard for me to talk to people I don't know that well. as for your problem, if he knows you, I don't see why he'd be shy...but maybe he's afraid that if he admits he likes you, you'll reject him and the friendship will be over.

in which case, I HAVE been there.

if you like him, chances are you'll have to make the first move.

[Salarial]

I have the same problem. Yikes! Luckily he made the first move.

[Anonymous]

If he is shy he might avoid you and if he thinks you are not interested he might avoid you too. I have had guys do this to me as well. Maybe you should make the first move because some guys like girls that do that.

[electro-girl]

Maybe he just isn't that into you?

If they don't call or msg you or hang around you chances are he dsnt really like you...

ask him to meet up with you and see what he says...

[Asker]

See, that's the thing. whenever we had class, he'd save me a seat and smile at me and we sat next to each in our other class and he was always excited to see me. we hung outside of class with a mutual friend and whatnot. we'd text randomly too and hold conversations. he seemed to like me, at least as a person in general, but now he's just... gone. I don't know =[

[Jolly-Green-Giant]

Well sadly enough that sounds exactly like me. I was in his shoes about two years ago. I had the same dilemma, I liked this girl and we would have class and all that great stuff then hang out. Honestly it would probably make his world if you gave him a little confirmation that you like him. I waited for some sign (probably missed a few obvious ones) but some guys want reassurance before taking a leap. Worst comes to worst you will just have a little awkward couple seconds and then you could laugh about it.

[Asker]

What kind of "confirmation" would you need?

[Jolly-Green-Giant]

I don't know. Just kind of a wink or something sometime. Maybe hold a hug for a bit too long.

[JustDance]

yeah, its dumb but some guys do it... those guys probably think that if he starts talking to her, he might get into the "friend zone" because he doesn't know how to flirt well or talk to a girl he likes. but don't take this as a bad thing, most shy guys have difficulty trying to communicate to the opposite sex.

[Asker]

Well, I asked him and this other girl to watch a movie with me and he was super excited, but when the day came, he never showed. I called him up and left a voicemail and he hasn't gotten back to me and it's been a month. what the hell?

[JustDance]

:S I dunno.... I feel bad for you :( you gotta find out, send out your spies

[Asker]

Haha it's fine. this guy is just confusing. I'm not dying or anything, but it's just so irritating that he's bipolar. pick a side. hate me or like me. lol. besides, I made the movie a group thing to make him more comfortable, I guess, and he STILL stood me up. plus he's kinda 'emo', so maybe his emotions are just out of wack...idk

[martyfellow]

Actallly if the girl is too popular most of us will just walk away, to see if she will follow us!

It's the quicklest way to know if she has any real interest! It's dumb to hang around when she shows no interest or is too busy with everyone else.l

[RedDrag0n]

Well, maybe the guy wasn't just ready for it yet. I know that doesn't mean he has to avoid you, but its his decision. Maybe he thought hard about the implications of what was happening and realized he was just not up for it yet, even though he liked you and all. My best guess would be, him just probably taking his time to sort things out

[doctorwhofan23]

I try to avoid girls I like both because I am shy and I do not think she is interested. So a guy would not always try and be around a girl he likes.

[sweet17]

But if you avoid her, she'll never know that you're interested and you'll never even have a chance...

[doctorwhofan23]

I know but the whole Idea of talking to girls causes anxiety. There just seems to be too much pressure.

[Asker]

Damn, man, that sucks. I bet you're an awesome dude too. you really shouldn't. you can let a girl know you like her without words. you can try to be friends first. spark conversations about politics or something and then do stuff like invite her to a group thing you're having like a party, where she can bring her friends. check up on her during the night, ask her if she's having fun or is thirsty. idk... you really never know. she might really like you and thinks you hate her haha

[doctorwhofan23]

I don't know really I just need help talking to girls. I doubt there is even a girl out there for me.

[Asker]

That's BS, man. there's definitely a girl out there for you. I'm having a hard time finding a guy (or at least getting this one to admit he likes me or something, haha) but I do believe that there is a person out there waiting on you to come along and complement their world. we girls are human too! just talk to us. please, we're begging the men out there to just SPEAK, you included, haha. there's a girl on here right not, asking questions to see if you're into her! LOL

[doctorwhofan23]

I know but I just experience anxiety when it comes to talking to girls so I kind of just try and avoid them which is not cool because I like talking to girls I just feel anxiety when I do it.

[Asker]

What are you so anxious about? like...what's running through your mind? is this just with girls you like or women in general?

[doctorwhofan23]

With women in general at least women my age. I just have like a million thoughts running through my mind. I just worry that she will not like me that she will make fun of me think I am weird and well this list goes on.

[Asker]

If it becomes negative somewhere along the conversation, it's okay. end it and you'll get over it. nobody's marrying you right this minute, ya know? I have had a million conversations with guys that have been awkward (because of me or him) and I get over it soon enough and move onto the next whenever they come along. at least i/he tried, ya know?

[doctorwhofan23]

Trying is not good enough though I am very shy and it is killing me I just want to be able to talk to girls but my shyness gets in the way and I can't. I feel like I will never find love.

[Asker]

Are you only self-conscious with girls or all the time?

[doctorwhofan23]

All the time but it is more extreme around girls.

[Asker]

Well, maybe you should start appreciating yourself more. if you think you're a decent person who deserves a decent girl, you won't be so self-conscious when you're around somebody. of course you're going to be shy/nervous regardless, but you'll be able to function knowing that you are worthy of getting this person. if you think somebody's better than you (or just think too lowly of yourself) you're not going to want to talk to them/know how to talk to them. you know what I mean?

[doctorwhofan23]

I know what you mean I feel like I can't talk to girls personally.

[Amrit]

Same here Dude ! I agree with you !

[tyrantfuryre]

I've done it a few times before. It was because I was shy.

[Asker]

Even if she seemed to like you?

[tyrantfuryre]

Well I'm terrible at reading girls, but if I knew for sure that she liked me then no, I wouldn't avoid her.

[Amrit]

Same here !

[metaldave20]

we really won't avoid you if we like you, only if we ask you out and you say no, unless were persistent

[magicgirl]

The guy likes you, Yes guys try to avoid the girl they like but they're always around the girl.

[Anonymous]

Yes they would. I think he likes you but is just REALLY shy and is not sure how you feel.

[tatyrobi2c]

i think that you should know the answer already or your stupid.

[Asker]

It's you're, not your - but I guess you'd know that or you'd be stupid, right? =]

[Tae_m]

Yaaas!! That's right girl.