If he likes the girl will he push her away if he feels like his life is too much for her to handle?
Would a guy push away a girl he likes/cares about?
Yes, my boyfriend did this to me. He's a bit insecure and has always had a hard time believing that I might actually be in love with him. Sometimes he'd act interested and other's he wouldn't. He was very hot and cold, until I gave up on him. It wasn't until about 6 months later, that he contacted me again. We started dating, but even then he was a bit distant and then at a party, he was acting like we weren't even seeing each other, so I took him aside and confronted him about the way he was acting. He accused me of trying to "get with" another guy at the party and I assured him that we were only friends. I was a bit drunk, and I went on this huge spiel about how I would never betray him and how I'd liked him since I was a little girl and I even let it spill that I loved him. You should have seen his face light up hahah It was cute, but I think that was the first time that I finally got it through to him that I was serious about our relationship. We were "Facebook official" the next day lmao but he did try to break up with me again a few weeks later. I woke up to a message from him trying to break up with me, and when I went downstairs, my dad (who's a cop) told me that he'd come home to pick up some coffee and saw someone standing in our front yard, my dad went on cop mode and thought that he was a burglar since there had been a lot of robberies lately. My dad chased him all over town in the police car and then caught him on foot, but only realized it was my boyfriend when he finally got him since it was so dark hahahhah He connected the dots and realized that he was only in our yard because he was trying to come see me. Anyways, my boyfriend was so embarrassed about what had happened that he tried to break up with me so he'd never have to see my dad again. LOL we still laugh about this, and it's been two years. So yeah, a guy sometimes pushes the girl he loves away, but I think these ones just need some extra loving :) lol
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I'm going through something like this. My guy gets hot and cold with me. He got really cold the last time because I told him everything I felt for him. He replied saying he didn't like feeling pressured. Soo I told him I didn't think I was pressuring him but fine to call me when he wanted to see me. I reduced my text messages to two (i normally would have sent one a day) that entire week with only a have a nice day in them and a pic. He called Friday asking when we could meet. I said how about in 30mins only to have him call me apologizing and rescheduling our date. He said he called because he didn't want to keep me waiting and blow me off (he's done this in the past). I said ok and I asked my guy friend if he thought he was playing me. My guy friend thinks he may be scared since he went through something like that with his girlfriend of two years. My friend had been hurt badly and he was in a totally depressed mode when he met his now girl. He said she would try to get him to open up and he always gave her a hard time because he was scared to love her until he finally gave in and let her in. My friend thinks this is what's happening with my guy and for me to be patient and just keep loving him that eventually he will come around and if not to move on. So I'm basically doing this but it's not easy because I've already given him 4months of life plus all of me (yes sex too) and honestly am not sure how much longer I could wait for him to realize that I care about him and won't hurt him. Maybe I'm just a fool.
This is a good question and there are 2 sides to it. On one hand is things are difficult he may want the extra company and someone to share problems with and talk them over, but on the other if he has a lot of issues he may think it is unfair to introduce someone else to them as well. Talk with whoever it is none of us can speak for him
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This only happens in the movies... Unless he is going to war or dying of cancer, if he likes her he is going to find a way to have her in his life. You do what you want to do. If he wants her, he will find a way.
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I've actually had a guy tell me he pushes people who get too close. You see I've become very close friends with this guy and I do feel like sometimes we want to be more but he said something that I didn't understand why and when I approached him about it he apologized and said he had a bad habit of pushing people he cares about when they get close to him. I told him he has nothing to be afraid of, that I didn't want him to push me away and that if u let the right people in you can be so much more happier. We've never been so close now and I can honestly say he has become one of my best friends. :) sometimes people are afraid to get hurt or to even hurt someone they care deeply for. The best thing we can do is show them how much we are there for them and that they are only hurting us more when they push us away.
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Guys are fearful just like girls but they have different ways of showing it. While women want to cling, men push away because it's easier than saying, ''hey, i'm really effing scared''. Men like to be providers and care-takers... at least they want you to feel safe with them. If they're going through something and feel like it's too much for you to handle, sure, they can shut down pretty fast. This is why communication and honesty is so important. If someone really values you, they'll take the 5 minutes to talk to you and explain wtf is going on with them.
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Sounds like he decided something about you which he doesn't like and is using small issues as an excuse to argue. It could be something of no real importance, but seems important to him. Rather than admit he is shallow about this, he finds alternate issues to blame it on. Try asking him about his fantasy girl. You might get some clue if he starts describing somethings that you don't do, or don't look like. Once you know this, you could play a role and become more like that ideal. In the end you have to be yourself and he should love you for that. His petty arguing is a sign of insecurity. If you cater to his whims, you might find yourself at the start of a long relationship where you are mostly adapting to his needs. I don't think that is so great. That's my guess what might be happening.
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Some people unconsciously sabotage their own relationships because of a psychological (I mean like- trauma, past heartbreak, false generalizations) problem they need resolved or something that is internally displaced like self esteem their ego. It can unintentionally ruin a person's life.
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If the girl is in a shopping cart.. or some sort of cart, a go-kart perhaps.. y'know and it's a ride, then yeah. A cart in a derelict mine is a gray area though.. that's significantly dangerous.
Also if he's trying to help her learn to ride a bike, or skate.. it may seem cruel, but the intentions are pure. -
People make all sorts of excuses to protect themselves. It’s more likely his life is too much for him to handle at the moment and adding you to it just isn’t something he willing to juggle at the moment. Passing it off as him protecting you is just an excuse. You’re ultimately the one that has to decide how much you want to deal with so he’s obviously the one that doesn’t want to deal with the burden of a girlfriend when he has a lot of other stuff on his plate.
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It's not your call. Pushing her away may be more painful to her than dealing with your issues. If it's too much for her to handle, she'll (hopefully) let you know. She needs to make that decision. A lot of women are used to dealing with other people's stuff. She may be stronger than you realize. 😉
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Guys in that situation don't push away because they have too much to handle. If a guy likes a girl enough, he will find a way. If he's pulling away like that, he's either trying not to hurt the girl by making an excuse rather than telling him he's not interested (I've done it, it's a coward thing to do), or he's concerned she's not going to put up with his schedule and he will get hurt.
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It is possible. We can all be overwhelmed. I would think it would be the opposite though. He would push you away because his life is stressful and full right now, and adding you to the mix just makes it too complicated to do correctly.
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Insecurities. Fear of getting hurt. Feeling she can do better... I did this to an amazing girl, and to make things worse, I snapped at her for something miniscule... It ended, and now, I'm a piping hot mess. She's with some scumbag druggie, now... I wish I could turn back time, and let her in.
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It's not a good thing but I do that sometimes, but it has nothing to do with the other person. Sometimes knowing someone cares about me is too overwhelming when I'm having my own issues so I do it sometimes but it's not because I don't like them.
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She freakin' thinks she loves me, but she doesn't know about all the freakin' baggage that comes with me. I can handle all her freakin' baggage, including where all her freakin' kids came from, drug use, and every fuckin' thing else, but she's not ready to handle all that freakin' comes with me. Dammit. what a freakin' double freakin' standard!!!
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Hmmm, he might do. Most guys tend to do that when they think something is becoming too much to handle or theyre worried about something. Your best bet is to talk to him about it face to face :) good luck!
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Guys do not push girls away unless they don't want anything to do with them.
If he has a lot going on, he might attempt to talk to a girl about it but sometimes they want to solve it on their own. - 521 opinions shared on Guy's Behavior topic.
That's the dumbest thing I've heard. If a guy likes a girl, there's nothing that would push him away.
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Hmm, damn, I clicked on the wrong one again. -.-
Hmm, of course not. A guy that truly like a girl would do anything to not push her away. I believe that. -
Definitely, I don't do it cause I think she's weak or anything, I'm mostly just being protective. I want the best for her and therefore I don't let her be a part of what's happening.
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A mature guy would tell you straight up that he isn't ready for a relationship with anyone. Hard to say if he'd still think about her. If he isn't ready there's nothing you can do to make him ready
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he may do it if he feel like he not a good fit for her or if he hurt her or hold her back in some way. he may do it to protect her from himself. it like that song ask me how i know by garth brooks
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He might to protect her. Like Do Min Joon pushed away Cheon Song Yi to save her from heartbreak for when he goes back to his own planet ><
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