So me and this guy were starting to get close and things seemed to be headed on the relationship path but then he pulled back all of a sudden and he seems to just be awkward and uncomfortable with his feelings and keeps pulling me closer and pushing me away. I’m fairly certain from things he’s told me that he's just scared to get attached incase he gets hurt but also has low self esteem and thinks he doesn’t deserve a good relationship. I’m just not sure if I should keep talking to him and engaging with him and trying to make him feel comfortable or give him space. He keeps telling me he’s distancing himself cause he’s got a lot going on in his head so I’ve given him space but we barely talk now and I’m worried that we’ll just grow apart so not sure what to do.
I'd give him an ultimatum. I can relate to this guy. So few women care about a guys feelings. Most women think guys risk nothing when entering into a relationship. I don't trust very easily with women. But I am cognizant of her feelings as well and so should he be. Now you said "I'm fairly certain from things he's told me he's afraid to get attached". This is kind of important. Because did he say that? Or did he imply that. Because the two are worlds apart. It takes strength to show vulnerability to a woman and admit when you're weak. To let her draw that conclusion on her own is something else entirely. If he showed that vulnerability to you then he trusts you enough to do at least that. You two can build from there if he wants to heal. And that's the heart of the matter. It's OK to be broken if your willing to heal.
I can tell you from personal experience I avoid most damaged women. Not because I don't for them. Not because I don't want to lift them up. But because most want to wallow most want to just use me as am emotional sponge.
My advice to you is KNOW YOUR BOUNDARIES give but give to a point. After that it's up to him.
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Just cut him off. He's clearly not in the right mindset to have a relationship.
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He wants to focus on his career prolly.
Run. There’s no such thing as scared of feelings
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