Because there is a past there, there is comfort. It is easy to be tempted to go back to what is comfortable and what you know worked for you. I personally know how hard it is to get away from ex's especially if their pursuing you still. Its hard to move away from the comfort of that person, and onto the uncertainty of a new one. Sometimes they may get confused about what they want, and go back to their ex for a bit, other times they just know that the sex with the ex was good, and guaranteed, especially if she is still chasing him. And I guess some guys are just plain assholes and want the girls fighting over him, or to try and get some from as many girls as possible. I would just avoid guys with ex's who are still in their lives and find a guy with less baggage, its really not worth the games.
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You shouldn't be having sex with your ex like that if you're not OFFICIALLY back together. But I guess you still have some lingering feelings for him? Sex & love is COMPLETELY different with guys. For us, sex = love, but for guys sex =sex.
Emotional attachment? More attraction? Better sex? Could be a number of things. Of course it isn't the right thing to do.
Guys like sex and since you've already done it with him he feels comfortable doing it again with you. If he is really interested in the other girl it is really no different than masturbation to him, he's just doing it to get off until he can get off with the new girl. I read your comment so I know you're the ex and that isn't what you want to hear but that is what I think is happening from a guy's point of view. You should end the sex as of now because it seems like you're interested in more than just physical satisfaction and he may not be with you anymore. It doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you or you are undesirable to other men as far as relationships go it's just this one guy didn't work out. It happens and you should just move on the best you can.
To those guys who don't know what they really want, two pairs of shoes are better than one, 9999 pairs are better than 9998.
In this case, I would say it is more a question of "why would you hang around (allow him to hang around you) such a guy?" than "is what he is doing right or wrong".
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Because of willingness on the exes part, and need to be sexually satisfied for him.
Just sex, nothing more. Fulfilling needs while getting a girl that is probably better than the ex.
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