I heard that the best 'revenge' is to act like nothing happened in front of my ex. But I can't do that. I just don't want to talk to him at all.
I haven't seen him since the breakup but I won't be able to stand the sight of him. I don't want to have anything to do with him. So I can't talk like nothing happened. I can't act all cool like it didn't tear me up. It's already been 2 months but I tear up every night. When I imagine bumping into him, I feel like throwing up if I try to act like nothing happened. The best I can do is to just say "hi" if he says something and say "I don't feel like talking" if he asks questions. But is that alright? Would he get some sort of satisfaction, like "awww, she's hurting. how sweet"? Is there a reason why I have to act like nothing happened...?
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I think the better advice is that "the best revenge is living well". And if you're living well, secure in who you are, it won't bother you as much to be around your ex. So if you know you can't stand to be around him then that's a sign you shouldn't-you need to heal. And unfortunately you won't know how healed you are until you test the waters of socializing around him again-way in the future.
I think it's totally acceptable to tell him you don't want to talk when he tries to start a convo with you. You are communicating what you are/aren't comfortable with and doing it politely. Anything less (like flipping him the bird) would just make it more dramatic and emotionally charged for both of you.
Last, don't worry about what he is/isn't thinking about your reaction to him. You don't know what's going on in his head anyway, so why make guesses. If he wants to puff up his chest with pride because you're hurting then he has immature validation issues. If he gets angry that you won't talk to him-tough. He gave up the right to have access to you in his life when he dumped you. If he says he just really cares about you and wants to know that you'll be okay let him know you have other resources that are more reliable to draw from. His decision, his consequences. It doesn't mean you should try and punish him by withdrawing from contact with him-this just isn't about HIM anymore. It's about YOU. And you want to be happy, healthy and well. Good luck0