My boyfriend wants to spend less time with me?

[Anonymous]

For the past 6 months we were working together four days a week, same shifts and would spend the night with each other 4 nights a week. Never went a single day without each other. I was having troubles with our job and spoke of quitting but worried about not seeing him as much- he assured me that he would still make time for me every day no matter what. So then I quit and he says that he’ll see me this weekend- which meant that we would not see each other for four days straight. I ask him about it and he gets mad and defensive saying he needs to get his chores done and stuff- I feel concerned.

[Logorithim]

Him getting mad is what would concern me most, not that you don't seem hm for a few days. Try to come up with some activity that he likes.

[Asker]

Why is him getting mad the issue?

[Logorithim]

So you're more concerned that you won't seem him for four days. Why does that bother you? Just because you'd miss him, or something else?

[Asker]

Look at what someone else said they said he’s probably cheating

[Logorithim]

That's possible, but what does he mean by "getting his chores done".

[Asker]

He says he wants to do his laundry and dishes and game with his friend

[Logorithim]

For four days? Sounds like BS to me. Ask him if you can come over and hang out while he's gaming.

[Asker]

It just seems to me like he doesn’t need that much time- I just worry that he doesn’t love me anymore. He doesn’t really have balls so I don’t see him ending it with me

[Asker]

But what if he says no he NEEDS his own time- I just want to know why this is happening

[Logorithim]

That's a more likely explanation than cheating. Talk to him and see if you can tease out if he wants to end the relationship, but don't ask him directly.

[Logorithim]

Wouldn't there have to be a reason he'd want to break up- since you sense it, what would be the reason (s) why?

[Asker]

I have already asked him and he says he wants to stay

[Logorithim]

I guess then that there is nothing else you can do. You've already communicated your concerns.

[Devons]

You're overthinking it. He probably got defensive because you immediately assumed the worst out of him. Don't worry about it.

[Asker]

THANK YOU. This is probably the right answer. I appreciate you- sometimes I over analyze things and I need reassurance. Thanks

[tk42jm]

Do you guys work together and live together?

[Asker]

No we don’t live together

[Asker]

And we don’t work together anymore

[tk42jm]

I'm sorry that's my fault I should have read it all, so he keeps delaying visiting you?

[Asker]

He said that he would make time for me every day and now he’s not

[tk42jm]

And every time you ask him why he gets mad at you?

[Asker]

No. I asked him one time

[tk42jm]

Then he got mad?

[Asker]

Yes- he says he needs his own time

[tk42jm]

But he's alone all the time cuz he doesn't hang out with you anymore right?

[Asker]

Yes he’s just at home

[tk42jm]

Maybe she doesn't want to talk to you anymore I don't want to say he's cheating but that could be it too

[Asker]

He texts me all throughout the day

[tk42jm]

Then I don't see what the problem is Then

[tk42jm]

I mean every one that's tried to come up with a solution to help you figure out what's going on you back him up and say no that can't be so it's confusing and hard to help you with your solution

[HereIbe]

He's got a side chick.

[Asker]

I Don’t believe that

[HereIbe]

Why else would he be defensive about it? He's got something to hide from you, and it's probably either a side-chick or a side-boy, or he wouldn't get defensive.

[Asker]

Maybe because he doesn’t love me anymore? I don’t see him cheating.

[HereIbe]

Either way, move on and move up.

[Asker]

I don’t even know the truth though

[HereIbe]

That doesn't matter. Move on and move up.