Guys, would you move across the country for the girl you loved?

[Anonymous]

Recently, I decided to move across the country for the guy I love...

away from family, friends, and anything comforting.

Would you leave your friends, family and life behind if you really loved someone with all your heart?

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+1 y

by the way I've known him for 2 years


the move was planned and was not a spur of the moment type thing

[anon1111]

It depends on how old you are and how stable your life is.

If you've finished school already, can find a job without a problem, and don't have any responsibilities to leave behind, then it MIGHT work (you have to be really sure that this is the person you will spend the rest of your life with though).

It also has to be with someone you've already been with for awhile. If you move to be with someone you think you love but haven't been serious with for that long, it will probably end in disaster.

The reality is that this whole "drop everything and go to your love" fantasy sounds great in theory and always works out in the movies, but it is destined to fail 99% of the time in real life. Your life is more than just the person you love romantically. You need friends, family, hobbies, goals, a career, etc. to be truly fulfilled in your life. Simply being with one person who makes you feel good inside is not enough.

[Cigam]

Only move if you can live on your own. Don't rely on him as a place to stay. People have to know and be able to live independently, and if you have someone you love, then that's a plus. Overall though yes I would have left, but I didn't have the money and such, and since then she has changed personalities and is not the loving person I once knew. Just don't move solely for the love of him, unless you have a plan if he dumps you or if you have to leave him.

[TheStrangeOne]

If I really loved him, then yes I would do it.If he proved that he would make sacrifices for me then I would definitely do the same for him, no matter of the consequences.You need to have give-and-take in your relationship, because the two people should consider each others' needs/wants to be equally important.I am not going to lie though, the ability to maintain a healthy relationship is going to be difficult.Plus the fact that you are far away from your parents and your friends it makes it even more difficult.But if your relationship is genuine and your bonds are strong, then you will both overcome every problem that will threaten your relationship.Anyway, good luck I hope everything goes well.

[Asker]

Thanks for this answer, it was very helpful

[TheStrangeOne]

No problem, anytime ! : )

[Anonymous]

I couldn't do it. Unless we were engaged or married or something. I wouldn't throw away my life for just any guy

[Asker]

I threw away my life? that's pretty harsh.

[Opinion Owner]

I didn't mean that. I just meant that's what I would be doing. Giving up my job, school, friends, family all for a guy without any guarantees

[Asker]

But I have a new job,school, and friends here.

it's not like I threw my life a way, I just started a new one

i'm just saying would you leave the comforting old life behind in order to start a new one?

life doesn't have guarantees.

[shimmer580]

What was your outcome? I'm in a similar situation.. still haven't decided if I should move or not though...

[Anonymous]

in a hart beat if I love him or her that much I would do it because he or she could be the one that I what to spend the rest of my life with but I would leave my self an out it did out work out with him or her buy having my own place throw so that I have a little bit a free dem so if some thing did happen then you have a place to live and don,t have to rell lie on him or her for a place to live

[Diegoba123]

I am in that situation, I can't seem to figure it out, I'm afraid that if i don't move ill always regret it and ask myself what if i had moved. I am 19 and live in florida, she lives in michigan, I wouldn't have any friends at first, and id have to go look for a job, i would also have to learn to be 100% independent. I love her so much but it is a tough decision when you're afraid of how you'll end up.

[brandonc308]

It depends if I was with the girl for a while (maybe a year) and then she moved across the country. Then maybe. If I barely knew her, then no.