Would you relocate for love?

[Tiptoetamm]

Would you move away from everything you know for love? I would for the right man.

Yes

No

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+1 y

The poll is close but more people have desired l said yes. I like to see people will make compromise for their lover

[btbc92]

I believe that one should already be established where they would like to live before even thinking about trying to move or relocate for "love". Either you have love with a person or not. Because you never know if you're making a mistake. If one is going to move somewhere, make sure you're going for the right reasons. I am not moving have way around the world over a guy I don't even really know. I personally would not because you're running great risks of not just a breakup, but endangering your life. I rather visit places first before making that big commitment. And the person should already want to get married to you and if they can, come to get you themselves. I personally would not move in with a person to who I am not already married to. And I would already have a small place in mind first before even thinking about marriage.

[Tiptoetamm]

I mean you've been talking for awhile and in love with each other

[btbc92]

That doesn't guarantee anything. If you're not already walking down the aisle, you lose not only your job, your family and friends, your childhood, or just uprooting yourself from where you are, you run the risk of getting lost. I wouldn't suggest falling in love. That is just hormones. Love is a choice. And if one wants to take that serious step, it requires serious moves and gaurnetee there is a future. If there is no guarantee of it, then one decides to either pull back or proceed with caution. Unless you already wanted to be there, it may be a waste of time and much heartache. People are adults and do what they want. But I never dated or been involved. This would also be a major factor too. However, if one asked my advice, I would tell them to be serious because, at the end of the day, both parties are responsible if it doesn't work out. I for one need to know if there is a future. Talking is not enough. Like in industries, you must already have your foot in the door. For me, as I said, I rather not date somebody far away and I am not in the same location. I prefer that I date where I am already living at. For an example. I am not dating a man in Scottland if I am not already planning on living there in the first place. If I am looking to date a man in Hawaii, I am going to move to Hawaii before even thinking about finding a man, and already is secured. That is the smart way to handle it before again, your just running the risk of further problems.

[btbc92]

Never be in love. That's kiddy and teen stuff. By now you should already be emotionally mature to understand what is required for you, otherwise, the risk for breaking up over petty things is higher. I rather be smart and wise, than reckless and foolish. That is a lot of money and time your investing with a person. You need to make sure he is your one and only and be only your one and only.

[btbc92]

Everything is a risk. But you want to make sure you take the right risks. Anybody can swoon and play with your emotions until the fantasy bubble pops, and reality hits. Then what? You'll feel robbed. And I rather not do that to myself.

[KAT247]

If it was the best for both of us location-wise, absolutely. If where he lives is better than where I live and we agree on that, or vice versa.

[Tiptoetamm]

I like that perfect example of compromise

[BrosephBrostar]

Gee, maybe it's because there are obvious observable phenotypical differences between people of different geographical heritages that we've collectively deluded ourselves into thinking don't exist.

It's funny, because the people who are shitting their pants at this revelation already acknowledge that fact with exactly one trait, skin color, and then typically get mad at you if you claim to be "colorblind".

Of course, none of this means that you have to stop judging people based on their character. It's madness to try to claim otherwise.

[BrosephBrostar]

That was not the topic I thought I was replying to.

[Tiptoetamm]

Lol its okay

[Muffdiver21]

Yes i would. cos you never know where your soul mate is in this world.. would do anything for love

[Tiptoetamm]

I like that answer i totally agree

[Muffdiver21]

I belive your soul mates somewhere in this worldand and u just need to find them where ever they are. if it means relocating to be with them then thats what u have to do for love. proves how much u love them and want to b with them in my opinon

[AmandaYVR]

I have, yes. Upended my whole life for him.
I believe in love.

[JustinTimberlegs]

What a blessed man!

[AmandaYVR]

@JustinTimberlegs Thank you!

[FinalFantasyBro]

It's depends on how far am I moving for my future girl. Is it completely far away like a foreign country to the point I can barely see my family again, probably not I do want to find my idea girl but I still love my family to much to move out of the country. Also I wouldn't know how to adapt this new country I would have to learn a new language and everything.

But if it only a different city or state I probably wouldn't mind considering most of my extended family also lives in different states but I would at first like to experiment before making that heavy decision. Like let say my future wife has plans for us to relocate to let say Boston, Massachusetts. Can I at least first go out there for a vacation a couple times to see if it is a place I wouldn't mind permanently living in.

[Tiptoetamm]

Yeah I couldn't leave the country but across the country yes

[FinalFantasyBro]

Just imagine how difficult immigration much be, you gotta get citizenship. You need to learn the country's language, gotta find a job in that foreign land, yeah I am actually nervous just thinking about that.

[Tiptoetamm]

Yeah but its possible

[FinalFantasyBro]

Yes it is

[PrettyPriya]

Absolutely, I would. As long as we would be financially ok until I found a suitable job, definitely.

I know he would too as he kind of already has done that. He chooses to stay here more than he has to because we have a committed relationship. He could rather travel back home more often but stays here. 😊

[Tiptoetamm]

Absolutely

[TonyMetal___86]

Nope because i believe that the woman is the one who relocates for her husband because that's the norm...

1st of all a woman follows the husband and not the opposite way and she will hold his family name after marriage...

2nd usually a man is the ones who works to provide ans feed his wife and family, which means if the wife is going to be a housewife, she won't be tied to her job location..

3rd personally everything that i own and have, also my job are all here, if i'm going to throw all these, i might end up without nothing and wouldn't be able to offer my wife and family any thing!

If i had to leave everyone for her than i have no problem but i can't leave the sources of our lives which will provides for us a stable life!

[Anonymous]

Yes, but I think other things would have to change. Like for work, I'd have to have a good idea that I could make my career a success in the new area. I think we would both have to be pretty serious about the relationship.

Many girls I meet don't seem interested in moving out of state, even out of the area. And with me being kind of a traveler, that's going to be hard to progress if they refuse to move, and I can't find much around here.

I personally want to move out of state. The market isn't good for anyone with my skill set. So if I were to stay here, I'd either have to travel for work (and she's got to be ok with that), or she would have to help make things easier for me to want to stay.

[ArrowheadSW]

I would only after long consideration. With our modern day of internet dating, this is an issue. I've known of people who did relocate for love, only for it to end not-so-good. It is hard to get to know someone all that well ahead of time, if it is that long-distance.

[Screenwriter]

It's according to who it's more important to. Does it mean someone loses a lucrative, career decimating job? Is there a giant, close family someone would be leaving behind. There is no black and white about such a move.

A lot of factors have to be weighed. Than again, for some people, they'd move at the drop of a hat!

[JustinTimberlegs]

I'm not sure, I did before and it didn't end well. Maybe if I was very very sure of the long term prospects, but I'm a lot more hesitant nowadays.
I thought we were gonna grow old together but that still fell apart so for that to happen again I would have to be really really convinced that it's something real.

[TheUniqueOne96]

Yeah, as long as we lived somewhere nice and all, especially if they were the perfect partner:

Describing My Ideal, Dream Girl

[Iloveyouplease]

Of course!!!

If by relocate you mean moving to another country, my answer is yes.

It's a tough road but I'm willing to go through it, if I really like someone:)

[Iloveyouplease]

*country or place

[Tiptoetamm]

Either across the country or another country

[Iloveyouplease]

Yeah

[Nightroads]

My wife said she needed a new lease on life something completely different. We both grow up in a city of 400,000. Now we live in a town of 2,400. I have a new work industry. And we have a new way of life. Anything to benefit my family.

I would relocate, yes.

[bambi_01]

I would but it really depends how long I’ve been seeing the guy for and how serious we are. With my work (I’m in the military) it’s hard to move around to places you want to go. So I’d only go through that kind of hassle and paperwork for someone I knew would stick around for a long time :).

[Relux47]

Unless I die or get fired I’m not going to quit my job, this girl that I used to talk to had told me that she has too much to leave behind so she was not about to leave anybody or anything behind for me. Family is all I got and a majority of the time it doesn’t even feel that way.

[The_Outlaw]

Yes. I considered it just last year before the thing imploded. But the distance didn't matter at the time. She did. It's just unfortunate that it went the way it did.

[gag2021]

Sorry for you it didn't work out, BUT, It's better to find out sooner than later that it wouldn't work out for you! The sooner you find out the better!

[Tiptoetamm]

@gag2021 your so right

[t-8900]

Yes and I'm taking my dad with me. I dont abandon my own and he's the only family I got.

[Tiptoetamm]

That's sweet

[t-8900]

i'd die before abandoning anyone that has a claim on my heart.

[Tiptoetamm]

That's awesome im super loyal to as long as they don't fuck me over

[t-8900]

i dont have the capacity to fuck somebody over. My whole life that's been my story. I want to be fully committed to the person I'm with. I'd do everything I could to show her I loved her and wanted the best for her, and gladly lay down my life to protect her. I just can't with these fly by night relationships, that's never been what i've been about. I'm a wolf, I pair bond to my mate and die with my mate.

[Tiptoetamm]

I completely agree I've only been in long relationships my last lasting 11 years. I prefer one guy to spend my time with have amazing sex with and build a life together

[t-8900]

i respect that. My relationships only last 2-5 months because i want to wait till marriage and girls can't wait for it and leave me every time lol. I guess I'm not worth the wait

[Tiptoetamm]

You will find the right woman who's also waiting until Marge

[Tiptoetamm]

Marriage

[t-8900]

the one I'm talking to now seems to be on the same page with me. I'm very thankful for that as I lost all hope that it was still possible in 2021

[Tiptoetamm]

Yeah here I'm talking to a very nice man and again we are on the same page

[MrPickles13]

I would relocate for someone I loved I know I would. It wouldn't be an easy decision and it would also require a fair amount of discussion and all that stuff. But if I truly loved them I'm sure we could work it out.

[MrPickles13]

I should have said that I know long distance is a thing but I don't know if that's a thing I'd want to do for a long. It seems like it would be very difficult. More so if I loved them I'd want to see them often..

[Tiptoetamm]

Agreed

[MrPickles13]

I admire people who are strong enough to do long distance. But I know that I'm not.

[Tiptoetamm]

Yeah I would only relocate across the country

[MrPickles13]

Yeah same maybe if it was good for both I'd consider a country swap.

[Tiptoetamm]

Yeah states for me

[menina]

Yes, absolutely! I hate the place where I live so I know I would be happy elsewhere. But of course it would depend on the country/city/town. There are places that I wouldn't go because I'm black or because I'm a woman.

[user1516]

Yes. I don’t like the city where I currently live right now so I’d be down to move to a different state or city lol.

[Tiptoetamm]

Im with you

[PeacefulRainDrop]

I have thought about it but when push came to pull I chickened out... I still care for him but I couldnt trust him to move to a different country and trust he cared me not looking to sell me into the sex industry or something

[JennBITx]

It would be hard for me to do this. My job allows me to live anywhere in the USA, but it would be hard to just pick up everything and leave. I am far enough from family and can still drive there if needed