Who takes breakups harder - men or women? For whom is it worse?

[Toyasaya]

[ChurchOfIron]

In my opinion, it's based on availability. So, hot guys wouldn't take a breakup as hard as an undesirable guy would; hot chicks wouldn't take a breakup as hard as ugly chicks would.

But, generally, it's harder for men, in my opinion. Men also tend to be idealists when it comes to love, whereas women are more practical about love. I realize a lot of people will disagree with me here, but that is how I view it, and I'm not making an absolute claim here. You can view it whatever way you wish, of course.

It also just depends on how much they were each attached. If a woman sees this guy as uniquely special, it can be pretty harsh on her. If a man sees her as uniquely special, it can be pretty harsh on him.

I knew a guy who killed themselves after a breakup. I also knew a chick whose boyfriend died, and she just... became a mess. She took benzos to forget. Benzos are basically the "fuck life" drug where you just become nothing. It destroys memory. She cut herself, badly, and ended up in rehab multiple times. That might be a bit different, but I think the concept is similar: enduring loss.

Regardless of who endures more, both can suffer pretty bad from it.

[Givemeguidance]

I’m beautiful. Have had my heart broken twice.

[Givemeguidance]

I took it extremely hard. Haven’t been the same since.

[ChurchOfIron]

@Givemeguidance I'm sure that's true. But, generally speaking, it's easier for beautiful women to find other partners, so it's easier to at least get distracted from that pain. Guys often don't have anyone to jump to, so it kinda just sits there and builds. And there's always exceptions to every rule, too, with human behavior.

So, maybe that could be it. Just based on whether or not someone is able or willing to find someone else to fill the hole left by the previous one. *shrug* In my experience, rebounds are very healing. Or, if not healing, then distracting.

How did you react to it? How did it affect your life?

[Frankenstein99]

I read a scientific study on this once. It was concluded that when there's a breakup a woman feels it more intensely but gets over it quicker while a man doesn't feel as intense about it. but it takes him longer to get over it. And that sometimes he never does.

[Kelly_aleksandra]

I think it's equally the same, but it just depends on how the person felt about the person too, for example if the guy felt more in love with the girl, but she didn't feel the same way. However, she could be in another relationship where she's more in love with the guy but the guys isn't

[Anonymous]

It depends who ended it, I ended a relationship of 4 years, and after a week I was completley fine, but my ex was still looking to reconsile 3 months down the line, another ex broke up with me after 18 months and it Tooks me months to fully recover. So it depends really

[Anonymous]

I’m going to go with men.

I think the way men take hurt for longer is worse. But even if I considered it the same, there’s also the issue that from what we can tell... as best we can measure it, men appear to be “more in love” with their partners than women are and I think that differential in sentiment would manifest as greater difficulty in enduring breakups, especially in the long term.

[Lance1965]

Women take it harder at first but recover much faster while men take it a little easier but it takes them a long longer to get over it. A lot of women just jump right into another realtionship while it can take a man years.

[McKellar]

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[4pple]

It's usually worse for the person who got broken up with, independent from their gender. I always took breakups really badly

[Nicklock]

I think that girls take it the hardest at first but if they were comitted to each other the guy spends night alone months after regretting being without them. I think guys take it long term but girls take it harder

[GeorgeGeorgenson]

Men i think because it hunts them later on while a girl thst has many friends to comfort gets over it being cold blooded.

[Iamagoodguy]

Men women get hit hard but it fades hits men softer but last for a lifetime

[HM313]

It is proven that it is worse for men more that women.

[skateranon123]

men cause girls typically go out and suck another guys dick the next day a guy is stuck with nothing

[Anonymous]

Men. Because they have a harder time dealing with emotions and letting them selves feel the pain and hurt.

[Synesthesia256]

It really depends. I didn't feel bad after my break ups but my first and last breakups were really diffiucult for me.

So both of them take it worse time to time

[Burgerboy21]

It's never dependent on boy vs. girl, but rather dependent on who was more committed to the relationship.

[Lokith001]

For me it purely depends on how that person made me feel, I was devastated when I lost someone who I didn't even date, but sometimes a relationship ending makes me feel relieved, it mostly depends on whether it was a healthy relationship or not

[Anonymous]

Men. Most relationships are ended by women. While men drink to drown their sorrows, girls are already on some new dick. That’s just the way it is.

[HH123]

It depends but normally I'd say the woman but that might just be because it's more obvious when woman are sad and men usually keep it in

[jessture]

Women take it worse, starts with the nonstop cryptic posts on facebook and its all attention seeking from there

[Anonymous]

If it's a committed relationship both is pretty terrible. Although I think it's less hard on guys at first but gets worse over time if there is regret. Regret can be cruel.

[VikingWarLord]

Ask males getting ass raped in Family / Divorce Court that question.

[think_logic85]

The one who gets dumped in most of the cases.

[I-VAC]

I think it is personal how "hard" you take the break-up. For me personally is very hard and that's why i tend not to go on dates at all 😢

[Anonymous]

Personally i could not handle a breakup. I think that it is honestly better to stay with someone, unless there is constant fighting or serious issues. But breakups are hard, i mean its a tough questiob

[heisenberg1995]

For the both it's harder
If they both are really comitted

[boggboss]

Females do as they tend to fall faster and harder

[Dalesmith]

Depends on who loved the other more not the gender

[SjE78]

Both depending on the person

[Seppelson]

I guess it's harder for guys

[LimitedBenefits]

women take it worse, female nature you know

[laughinglad999]

Could be the girl or the guy

[opurba]

Both...

[gowtham12]

Men mostly

[CoffeeWC]

Women

[AlbanianYoungLady]

Women

[bluezeo]

both of them