I miss my cheating ex?

[Anonymous]

We dated for a year. He cheated on me 10 months into the relationship. I found out about a month ago. We have been broken up for 3 weeks. I tried to make the relationship work, but, i am too hurt by the lies.

However, I miss him a lot. I hate feeling the way that I do. I’m not sure if I should try and date him again, or move on?

[21browngirl]

Ones a toxic always a toxic. I have a similar experience. I was in a relationship with a narcissist guy. I dont know how to explain but he overpowered me with his charms and stuffs.. Later I caught him red handed with another girl who was my college friend too. I was in a shock.. he came to me crying and apologizing about his mistake. I was so stupid in his love that I accepted him. Later after 20 days he blocked me from everywhere, when I went to see him.. he grabbed my hand and pulled me out of his home.. and locked the door outside.. I was shocked and was in mental Trauma, I was so dumb that i tried calling him, sent him emails, was waiting for him out his house.. but he never responded. I was in a depression.. Later after 3 months he again came back to my life saying he had some issues in his life and so he broke up, I was again stupid enough to believe him.. Once again in another 4 or 5 months i caught him messaging his another girlfriend.. and they were sexting, when I asked him about this.. he blamed me for doubting him and made me feel guilty for checking his privacy.. Again I plead and cried to him to be back which he did with some favours.. which i cannot share here.. I agreed to all but in another 3 months he left town without informing me and I have not been able to contact him since then.. Its over a year to this story. I still shiver when i think of those moments. So make sure you dont be as stupid as I am, not let anyone come back who is a jerk.

I wish I could have just broke up with him, when i caught him first.. at least my self esteem would have been intact

[Suhailadil]

eye... can u pm me...

[oceanlover29]

Nothing wrong with missing someone that treated you poorly. He likely treated you well at times too and you had good times. It’s not black and white so why wouldn’t you miss him. I miss my ex that dumped me before major heart surgery for years. Should you get back together? Absolutely not unless he is remorseful and is willing to work hard on improving your relp so it doesn’t happen again.

[Asker]

I told him he needs therapy. He started to see a therapist. He decided he wanted to be free and chase other women. I let him be free. He came running back to me the next day. He told me “being single isn’t what i thought it would be. The player life isn’t worth it. You’re what i want. You’re the best thing to happen to me”. I told him i needed time away from him.

I’m afraid a few months from now he’ll say the same thing - that he wants to be single and chase other women.

[Asker]

For some reason. He thinks relocating, getting a new job, and chasing/dating other women will solve his issues.

[oceanlover29]

Sounds like that would be his pattern. Not sure if he’s ready to commit to anyone. I think it be very hard to trust him bc you would not only wonder when next time he cheats is but also the next time he leaves is. Couples therapy would be a solution but he would have to really want to work on it as well as you

[oceanlover29]

He sounds like he wants to run away from his issues...

[Asker]

Yes. He is seeking a therapist. He originally told the therapist he didn’t want to be with me. But, after a day of not being with me (he went out with his friends who are bad influences, he got very drunk, and did some hard drugs). He called me the next day and told me he realizes he made a mistake and wants to work on the relationship.

I told him to give me space. We haven’t talked in a week since that conversation. I don’t think he is ready to commit either. He told me he feels insecure because I’m his first girlfriend, and he hasn’t had many sexual experiences before me. And all his friends are players, and I guess he wants to be one too. As if women’s attention is what a man should base his worth off of... anyways. I just feel if I date him again, he’s going to want to leave me

[oceanlover29]

I don’t know him but it’s been my experience that past predicts future without significant effort to change. When you mix hard drugs and alcohol in well...

[oceanlover29]

i Think it’s great he’s doing therapy. Maybe give it a few months to let that start working before recommitting if that’s what you want. What’s the rush. I think to retry now with no changes on either part is a recipe for disaster; speaking from experience and trust me it’s harder the second time around to get over it

[CuriousJoe9000]

You're lonely, is all. Everyone gets withdrawal from the companionship. You only were with him for 10 months. If he comes back, only then consider it. Dont ask for him back, try distracting yourself.

I know it's hard, missing someone you called friend. I know it's hurting now and I hope it hurts you even more because know that it will only make you stronger. Stay up, homie. ✊🏼

[coachTanthony]

You date him again and you are telling him and the world that your standards are nonexistent and can be walked on at any given time.

You miss the good times and the good person you thought he was. You probably missed a lot of red flags... here is a big one that you can’t possibly miss! Move on!

[Accidental_Genius]

See.. love can be addictive.. U will always feel that you need someone to love after break ups (and it may be interesting to know that this has a scientific reason)
NERD ALRETTTTT 😂
Getting serious again 🤨
Ok so.. I was saying...
And it always happens after break ups... I've experienced this a couple of times and it feels bad.. ☹
But let me tell you something.. If this guy cheated U once, he will probebly cheat U twice.. Or three times.. and more... and more... So.. I know life sucls right now.. but.. you will realise that you are better without him by time :)
What they say about time is actually true!
"Time will fix everything" 😉
You won't believe it right now but U will move on :)

[Chanel1981]

Ask yourself if you actually miss him or the thought of being in a relationship. Truthfully, what's to miss with someone you can't trust?

[Felinegirl]

Try to remember you don't actually miss HIM, you just miss having a relationship with someone and getting cuddles and attention and all that. You can get that with someone way better than that cheater!

[SongBird3]

Its ok that your feeling this way. But you dont miss him, you miss the person he use to be, you miss the routine. Its hard because you know you did nothing wrong.

[Marklaw12]

It happens. You've grown so much together and just like that he cheats on you. There was a miscommunication.

[Asker]

I mean. Yes, I realized now that he never communicated.

[RoastedCharms]

It will take time, but there will be someone better for you. Love is blinding, and it can prevent the steps we take towards better things.

[dummiefellinLOVE]

Love the way relationships are condemned.. You do not know how much this person loves the other or how genuinely bad he feels..
Take your own journey , and if another chance feels right with your heart then do it..
But be aware of the potential and know that without the right communication and bond it can easily happen again..
We throw away , run , and quit way to much these days..
Fight , stay , build something unbreakable

[LoU_Hades]

move on
even if he would come back, he will cheat again and this situation will repeat

[BlackRoseFairy]

Are you missing HIM or the feelings you had with him? Sometimes we get addicted to a good feeling and not the actual person.

[Asker]

I think i miss him.

[BlackRoseFairy]

Ok. In those 3 weeks that you have broken up, have you noticed any changes in his appearance?

[Asker]

No. I haven’t seen him in those 3 weeks.

[BlackRoseFairy]

The reason I ask, is that when you get over the infatuation you had with someone, you start to see him differently. You start noticing little flaws. Things you found attractive are no longer so.. In some cases you might even look back and say "how the heck was I so blind?"
This is a way to know if you've gotten over him or not.

[Asker]

Hmm. That’s true. No, i haven’t seen him in those 3 weeks. I told him I needed time to decide what I wanted.

[sakalator]

It's probably because you seek wrong things in a relationship 😉 if you seek mostly attention, it may be really probable that you want him back. Think about it 🙂

[Anonymous]

Honestly, I think you can never fully trust him again so it's best to move on now !

[anametouse]

Move on. He doesn't deserve your care. Find someone that does

[Sofie1979]

You need therapy and good friends to help it hurts in the beginning but it’s gonna take while I’ve been in your shoes I almost married mine.

[PrincessGrail]

Tell me exactly what happened. Do you believe he’s truly sorry and he’ll never do it again?

[Twenty2]

Have sex with someone else! Sext online. Go on Omegle. Send nudes (if you're considering it, please text me). Just try to move on. If you won't try, you'll never move on.

[Straight_Shooter]

Move on. You don't miss him, you miss having companionship. Find someone who deserves you.

[shereeyaa]

I don't know but I know because I don't know but may be I am wrong but definitely I don't know.

[Anonymous]

Move on. It is waste of time. He is not gonna change.

[Browneye57]

Move on. The world is your oyster.

[Anonymous]

Move on. That guy is a trash