Totally agree brutal honesty is better than nothing
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It was childish, it was selfish and cowardly. It was what I thought was best for me at the time. I was the ghoster, but she’s accepted my friend request, and I’m wondering if that’s good?
I would say that's good.
I did apologise to her before I sent the friend request. I told her how I still feel and how I’ve always felt for her, and I hope she understands that I’m truly sorry for putting her through years of pain and hurt (she told me this is what happened).
I forgive them.. yet once they ghosted we won't be back.
The reason I’m asking is because I ghosted someone. I sent an apology telling them exactly how I feel and have always felt, and then a friend request, and they took 2 months and accepted it.
Are you okay now? Is everything fixed? If I may ask, why did you ghost them? Were you in a relationship?
I don’t know how it is...We weren’t exactly official, but it was a kind of a fling that lasted years. I cut contact with her because I didn’t think she felt the same way. I thought it would be the best thing for me to do to move on.
Were you able to find out how she feels about you?
No... she told me she likes the idea of us trying something together but is afraid of the result, and that’s it. I sent her request after I had sent her an apology and told her how I felt. She took 2-3 months to accept it.
When she finally accepted your request and knew about how you felt, if she really feels the same way until now, she should have made you her boyfriend already. Did she ever mention she's mad at you for ghosting her?
Well yeah... she told me that she’s had issues with her relationships and that she’s never quite felt the same again. That she was really hurt by what I did and didn’t understand why I did it.
I don’t think she would have made me her boyfriend on the spot though, she doesn’t trust me at all, and that’s understandable because I was such a dick to her.
It would be really painful if you have feelings for someone and they ghosted you. I think if she still has feelings for you, she'll be able to forgive you and take a chance again. I wonder why you felt that she did not feel the same way for you. It would be best if you just asked her.
I was insecure and young, but there’s no real excuse for what I did.
Hey... don't feel bad. You did what you think was right at that moment. You had your reasons. What was good is that you were able to reach out to her again and leave the door open. For how long did you cut contact?
That's a really long time. Do you still feel the same way about her like before?
Nothing has changed.
Wow... you really love her.
I don’t know what I can call it, I just miss her a lot
So I ghosted her some time ago, and I sent a friend request and she accepted it like 2 months after.
Would you accept a friend request from a ghoster?
And the ironic thing is, most ghosters get upset if you don't respond when they magically reappear. They can dish it out but they can't take it themselves.
What do you mean a friend request? Meaning if I was talking to someone as a friend and then they ghosted and came back?
I’m talking more a ghoster who you were dating...
Oh you mean if I was dating them, they ghosted and then tried to come back as a friend? It depends I guess. How long were we dating? Were we friends before dating? What was the reason for ghosting? I mean, there are a lot of variables, but I might consider being friends after the initial hurt has passed. I would definitely be guarded though about letting a ghoster back into my life.
That's submarining is it not?
haven't heard that term until now, but it makes sense. Because ghosting is cutting off contact completely. But if you reestablish contact, then it was never totally cutoff to begin with
I would say that’s generally true, but in my case I did it because I didn’t think she felt the same way. I genuinely believed it would help me move on. I have never ever hated her, but I understand that’s how she felt when I did it.