Is it right to give a second chance to an ex who got me pregnant then left and now he's returned after a year of raising my child alone?

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I think it's impossible because he ran away at first and he's back

ohshee · Accepted Answer

What have you learned in the last past year about yourself. From the day he left to this day right now how much have you grown how difficult was it to get here. And how proud are you of yourself. I think you have done probably pretty good with a lot of hard work and determination and making a choice who you want to be in this life do you want your child to be in this life it's your choice I personally would say no way. Now whatever you decide you have already decided it I can tell you that much if you were to do that the only way to do it it is for one year however long he's been gone he has to prove himself that same distance did he would be a good father and a good provider and that doesn't mean living at your house with you that means he has to prove himself from someplace else. Can he do it or is he just using you because you have a place to live. I mean there's so many things then he would have to do. Could he do it I don't think soFor me I wouldn't do it . He has shown you who he is once. That's all I would need to know I'm not going to give someone another chance to tell me or show me twice.. there's some things in life you don't have to tell me twice LOL

ChrisMaster69 · Accepted Answer

It’s a really hard call as non of know what he’s like.

he may have ran off as he panicked at responsibility, could not handled it.

he may be back genuinely to be part of your life again.

alternatively he’s back as he sees you as easy sex and can just bugger off if he ‘knocks’ you up again.

if he’s genuine and your friends and family think so, then yes.

if however he’s not and everyone thinks it sus and your gut tells you no, then definitely not and tell him to go away.

JuliaStyles · Accepted Answer

You didn't give very many details, but apparently he didn't want to do his share of changing diapers or losing sleep when the baby was crying every two hours to be fed. Basically he didn't like responsibility. Now after the heat has died down he wants to come back, but I'm sure if it inconveniences him again he will disappear again. If it were me I'd say, "Awww, hell no!" but he is the father so it is really what you are willing to put up with - again.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

I would be skeptical because is he interested in helping your child or only in helping you? You have to consider whether a guy who left you will love and properly care for your child. Your also fairly attractive and can find another guy who is more responsible, just make sure he is good to your daughter / son, whether you choose your ex or another guy.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Aww that's a sweet picture, it's not right to leave a woman
who gave birth to your baby and expect things to be right
sorry but things just don't pinpoint that way when a man
gets a woman pregnant he needs to take on his responsibility
and he can't keep coming in and out of their life you either want
be there with them or not

jspl90 · Answer

trust is hard to gain easily broken and even harder to regain

I would say allow him to be a part of the kids life but make it clear very clear that because he left once already he need to prove himself repeatedly over a period of time to soend tine with the kid

chriscdi · Answer

I think that child is better off with a mother that loves him then with a father that will get in her life a year after it's birth and wait until shit gets hard and then runs off on not just you again but on his child, people don't change unless they wanna change and people rarely want to change

Anonymous · Answer

The statistics show a father figure is extremely important for your child's development and future, without one they are far more likely to have healing with crime and be lower on the economic spectrum.

Try to make it work if you can, I certainly don't want to stop you for leaving him if he cheats or wrongs you again. But finding another father figure whilst having a child is said to be almost impossible.

Avicenna · Answer

Well, if he's sincere and responsible enough to stick around and be a responsible parent, you and your child would benefit greatly. But you need to be sure he understands what you both will have to do to make it work.

Hiitsme23 · Answer

Why did he leave in the first place? I agree with the guy who commented about him needing a place to stay

SunnySensei · Answer

If you can believe that he is a changed person now then you can Miss, but if you have even a little bit of doubt then you should not.

RasberrySlushPuppy · Answer

i guess he got his shit figured out and wants to make a good go of it.

Pterodon · Answer

Nope. You should’ve got court ordered child support

bulletbob555 · Answer

Yes but keep an open mind until you know the motives.

Anonymous · Answer

Being that he is the father of your child a second chance is okay. But a short leash is necessary.

CantGetItUp · Answer

Hey guess what, you don’t have a choice. You’re almost 30 and a single mom. No other man wants you so make things right with your baby daddy.

Hotboy_booblover · Answer

U shud.. nothing to lose.. things will work out best

Luckycharms12 · Answer

No let him be a dad that's it

888theGreat · Answer

cute baby, yes you should

neeeeeeeko · Answer

I think it'd be okay

Erron_Black · Answer

Not right. U want second kid?

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

No!!!

karaspara · Answer

Worth a shot

mapavrili34 · Answer

No its so bad

emmaheimer04 · Answer

You can try!

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