How do you get over a divorce and why would that spouse not feel remorse?

[Alwayreckles93]

So now I am officially divorce now. I have mix emotions sadness , Anger at the same time. My ex husband (29) will be turning 30 within a few months cheated on me with his Amway upline woman who happens to be 12 years older then himself not sure what things they have in common. In court he kept smiling trying not to laugh and smirk everytime the judge had asked him a question. He put Amway and his stupid hoe first before his family. I felt like someone had slap me in the face when I saw the two of them walking out that courtroom smiling holding hands. How can someone not feel guilty remorse? How can that would man go to sleep at night knowing she ruin a marriage? My ex-husband answer was that his Amway platinum advice him to live his family and get himself an Amway female.

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Sorry of my grammar I am angry at this moment.

[TrueConfection]

I'm sorry to hear this happened to you. I have never been divorced, so I can't advise you there, but I would be really angry.

A friend of mine got divorced and less than a year later she met a great guy and ended up married to him. Maybe this Amway woman has made room in your life for someone special that you are meant to be with. There is a silver lining on this! When bad things happen, it means better things are coming your way. You just have to keep your eyes open!

Feel free to dm me if you need to vent.

[Alwayreckles93]

Thank you you are very sweet. Yes it is hard I'm on that recovering staged at the same time I can't believe things ended this way as years back I did see myself growing old with him.

[TrueConfection]

It's amazing how low people can go. Just remember you have someone amazing to look forward to!

[Alwayreckles93]

Thank you for your kind words.

[Jake99999]

I went through a divorce as well. Don't look backward. Its over.

Forget him, he is a jerk.

Think of one positive thing you can do each day to move yourself to a new life.

Don't dwell on it you will only make yourself miserable. You will get past this early pain and later on you will eventually find yourself in a new life and maybe the happiest you have ever been, with someone else. That is what happened to me.

It took a few years but I ended up meeting the love of my life and we have been so happy for 5 years now. Keep the faith. The sun will shine again for you. And DON'T LOOK BACKWARD.

[Alwayreckles93]

How long did it take you to recover from a divorce?

[Jake99999]

Well there was a separation first that lasted almost 2 years, then finally the divorce was done. After the divorce was official I just moved forward with my life to start over in a lot of ways. I didn't spend a lot of time looking backward, but it took time to adapt and feel good about meeting someone new. Switching gears to being single again and starting over in a lot of ways is not easy. And if you spent a long time married to someone (never expecting to be divorced, obviously), its a bit of an adjustment. Just be kind to yourself, cut yourself some slack, take things one day at a time.

[exitseven]

Sounds like amway is a cult and he somehow got swept up in it.. I am sorry this happened to you. It does not reflect badly on you at all. It has never happened to me but I know a few people that went through it. It is a lot to get used to but it will get better over time. Let yourself off the hook for anything you might think you could have done differently.

[exitseven]

Thank you for the MHO.

[rienna888]

Wow, i'm so sorry to hear that. You're way younger than your husband, so you have a lot to improve and a lot to live. Your husband and his mistress will get their karma because they're terrible people. He will regret it one day, trust me. Now you just have to better yourself and then show him and make him regret it by being the best you can. It's good you lost him early, so you could find a better man cuz sweety you deserve MUCH MUCH BETTER. He will probably and most likely cheat on the woman he went with because he's an idiot and you cannot cure stupidity.

[Alwayreckles93]

Your are very sweet I'm actually 28 lol This website can be kinda crazy for some weird odd reason it says that I'm 20 but I was born in 1993 so I'm 28 lol

[rienna888]

Oh, still very young. He showed his true colors, which is a cheating scum.

[Alwayreckles93]

So true is was said Once a cheater always a cheater. Young well he is only one year older then me he is even old enough to be your husband.

[loveslongnails]

You'll get over it in time. Forgive yourself for picking a loser - that will help a lot. There's no magic formula for getting over the anguish, but realize the irony of it. Obviously you're upset for many reasons, but when you saw them together - didn't that say so much more about his poor character than you could imagine? Aren't you GLAD you're NOT associated with that, or him, any more? Blessing in disguise sort of thing.

[Exterminatore]

Time will help heal. God will help heal. I think your husband is very cruel.

[Alwayreckles93]

With God every thing is possible. I haven't lost faith , It is a slap in the face seeing my ex holding hands with that other woman right infront of me like as if nothing happen.

[Exterminatore]

I’m sure it is. He may have done it on purpose. From what you’ve told me thus far he’s dealt treacherously with you several times.

[NYCQuestions1976]

Most of the time, you get over divorce (and most breakups) with time.

[_Just_A_girl_]

If there's children stay together
Moving around is not going to help the little ones 💓

If it's not cheating then things can work out, like decided on the day you wore a suit/ white.

[Iron_Man]

You live in learn throughout life. Next time try meeting a man that’s grounded in faith and make sure that you know him well before you give your heart a way

[Slim57]

Well the cheating gave it all away, cheaters are selfish and non empathetic and mental in the head where noone matters but themselves

[Djaay]

Don't even blink an eye or worry. Move on to BBT. God has a way of scattering those who aren't any good for u.

[msc545]

Amway is a cult. Not surprised this happened.