How do you overcome a divorce when your ex spouse puts all the blame on me?

[Anonymous]

Husband is divorcing me because he claims I’m controlling and I harassment him to much. When it comes to going out with friends ETC

CORRECT. I do. I do it because I have zero trust in him and he has me walking on eggshells in our marriage. I do it because I feel emotionally neglected. I do it because he looks at other women in front of my face. I do it because he has no respect for me and if we argue he curses me out and calls my names.
it’s a toxic cycle. I know.

we talked about divorce and separating for some time to see if that will help. A day later he was in the clubs until 4 am. He is a very handsome guy and I don’t trust him. I’ve been cheated on before we got married by him but that’s besides the fact.

im heartbroken and feel like im going crazy because he making it all my fault and saying I ran my husband off. When everything has a cause and effect in my eyes. I’m human, I’m. It perfect

[Anonymous]

i think divorce is the best option in this case then. you say you don't trust him and you walk on eggshells around him. what kind of marriage is that? marriage is supposed to be safe, and trusting... not constant anxiety. AND he cheated on you before marriage? you should just throw the whole guy away. separation just won't cut it. you need a divorce. he sounds like a narcissist and i hate to see women with guys like that. there's no fixing someone like that. this has been building up for awhile, i can tell. i know it's hard to just break from someone who cheats on you, i know you had your reasons for staying. but now it's best to just stop it. i don't think it's safe or healthy for you to continue like this.

[Opinion Owner]

things will get better once you divorce and time passes by

[Asker]

I’m more hurt now by the fact that everything seems like my fault. He said I’m always yelling and harassing him. Yet I feel like I do those things because of the way I feel. We have a one year old so he’s going to be in my life forever and even though he’s treated me shitty and threatened divorce for years, I still feel like it’s all my fault

[boggboss]

What's there to overcome divorce seems like the best choice for both u he clearly ain't happy and u can't trust him ans also not happy so this seems like the thing to do

[DavidRaul]

I think divorce would be better. You both dont trust each other and his behaviour is ridiculous

[In_Trance]

ignorance