How to move on from someone you truly loved and wanted a future with?

[Anonymous]

[Goforit1010]

I thought that way too during the separation and divorce. Like pulling the rug right out from under me!

I then realized that time is a river that pulls you along in life. You're ALWAYS moving forward. But you have the choice of facing backwards, always wondering what life was like before OR... facing forward and looking to what may be ahead for you.

I then realized, I can start over. I can meet other women. I can decide the type of woman I want to be with. Dating at 35 vs. dating at 18 is a MAJOR difference! Some women only got lunch with me (not even a real date). Others, I went on several. The woman I met and married told me, I was the only one who managed to survive to date #2. For the past 23 years, she is my LOML.

Our marriage has NOT been all roses and fun. There have been many times when I wanted to take her out and just bury her in the back yard. She's felt the same way about me. But we both saw value in sticking it out, working through our differences.

YOU... have to decide what you're going to do. No one else can do that. There's no time limit. Just determine when you're ready to face forward while going forward.

[slatyb]

You realize that a real relationship is better than a fantastic never-will-be.

Christine Lavin wrote a song about it that goes "The reality of me cannot compete with your fantasies of her." So it's up to you? Are you going to live your life waiting for what never will be, or will you try to meet someone and have a real relationship?

[MrsTurkleton]

You accept that this is truly not the person for you, but that they helped you to realise clearly what you want out of life.
You know what you will and will not accept, & you know where you want a relationship to go…. I don’t think we can meet the right person until we have all that in place

[MrsTurkleton]

What stops us from moving on os the belief that there was one person for us and we lost them ….& therefore there can be nobody else who can fulfil our needs in the same, or in a deeper way.
If you are not open to the possibility that there will be somebody else who can give you everything that you need, you will be stuck.
It doesn’t have to be now. Everyone needs time to grieve a loss…. the loss of a person, The loss of everything we had envisioned with them …. but there will come a time when you are ready to feel all those things again with somebody new.

[Anonymous]

I had to move on after my wife of over 17 years commited suicide as a result of her mental illness issues. Sometimes things that happen in life force us to move on because we don't have a choice. It's easy to say, but I can't live life looking in the rear view mirror of what I had and loved.

[dudeinohio]

Time. And behavior modification. Put yourself first now. And life life as yiu would without him. Eventually, you'll be ready to date again.

[abc3643]

Let me know. I've been working on that for 29 years 10 months and I still don't have an answer.

[PuNishant]

Life goes on with or without them.

[Pterodon]

When you find out let me know

[Iron_Man]

Why would you

[Anonymous]

Boo hoo. women don't love. Your a liar. get lost