My ex-gf broke up with me in early November, 2 months ago. She didn’t feel loved & appreciated anymore and it appears I’ve taken her for granted. We were together for 4 years and have a 2 year old son together. She’s told me on many occasions that if I want our situation to get better, that she needs to see change. she's also said she hopes we can expand our little family (another kid 🙂) She’s told me what needs to change. And in the meantime she wants space from me for 3 months and to try seeing what it’s like to live alone in California.
3 weeks after the breakup she starts getting involved with another guy, which is classified as a rebound relationship. She’s clearly not over me (that’s good!) when we still have contact with each other and she usually brings up parts of our relationship that were bad. She likes to brag about how she’s so happy with this guy, she’s already had sex with him and already introduced him to her family and our son and it hurts. Our relationship developed naturally while theirs is progressing much faster. A few members of her family are not really for this union with her new guy as they prefer her and I to stay together and work things out for our son. I want that too. I know that deep down she still loves me but is hurt by me, which is why she needs space. I’ve made many mistakes since she got involved with this guy because I can’t stand the thought of her being with someone else after me especially since we have this little family.
Last night she told me that she eventually wants us to be friends but I wasn’t feeling so sure about that because I still want her back and our family to be reunited, so just now I told her no to being friends, that I would continue to be around for our son and continue to work on myself for myself, and that later on if she wants our situation to improve and reunite our family that she can let me know in person.
I’m interested in women’s advice: did I do the right thing here if I want her back? What to do?
3 weeks after the breakup she starts getting involved with another guy, which is classified as a rebound relationship. She’s clearly not over me (that’s good!) when we still have contact with each other and she usually brings up parts of our relationship that were bad. She likes to brag about how she’s so happy with this guy, she’s already had sex with him and already introduced him to her family and our son and it hurts. Our relationship developed naturally while theirs is progressing much faster. A few members of her family are not really for this union with her new guy as they prefer her and I to stay together and work things out for our son. I want that too. I know that deep down she still loves me but is hurt by me, which is why she needs space. I’ve made many mistakes since she got involved with this guy because I can’t stand the thought of her being with someone else after me especially since we have this little family.
Last night she told me that she eventually wants us to be friends but I wasn’t feeling so sure about that because I still want her back and our family to be reunited, so just now I told her no to being friends, that I would continue to be around for our son and continue to work on myself for myself, and that later on if she wants our situation to improve and reunite our family that she can let me know in person.
I’m interested in women’s advice: did I do the right thing here if I want her back? What to do?
