Reason for breakup between me and my ex girlfriend, did I do the right thing?

[NedimNedo98]

So I (M25) broke up with my girlfriend (F24) couple of days ago. We've had some arguments and fights before where she was jelous when she found my likes on pictures of some of my female colleagues on instagram. She was also picking fights about me still keeping some gift my ex gave me for my birthday, but we resolved this months ago. So the main reason I am writing this is the last fight we had that caused the breakup. She started calling me names and insulting me because I still don't have a job (I just finished college) and don't earn money because she used to work before and she got a job now. The worst part was that she texted my mother and told her that I was a spoiled mama's boy who is not even seeking for a job, she told her that she is better than me in all aspects and also that I was not raised right by my mother. She told that to my mom. I am wondering if I made the right decision leaving her? I edited this because I also forgot to say that she blocked me on social media recently, but has not blocked me on Viber or WhatsApp, so I'm not sure what does that mean. She also always played victim when I respond to her insults because I never started any of those arguments in the first place and points fingers at me as I'm the reason for any of those arguments, especially for this last one. I really don't understand why she acted this way when I always treated her with love, care and respect. It seems to me that she always found some reasons to start fights over texts but never in person. In person everything was perfect and we never argued, but over texts I always had to be careful what I am going to type so she does not switch her mood and start a fight

[OlderAndWiser]

1. You don't sound as if you have a lot of qualities to attract a woman at present, and at least some of her criticisms sound as if they are true.

2. On the other hand, she doesn't sound like the deluxe version of good girlfriend.

3. She probably just forgot to block you on Viber and WhatsApp.

4. Why would you want to be in a relationship like this. It sounds like you fought quite often. Was the sex that good?

[Finchie40]

It’s not about being right or wrong , because the truth is , you were both wrong , she had her reasons for being upset with you and you have your reasons for being upset with her , so your relationship together sounds like you were just pointing fingers at each other , instead of pointing fingers at yourselves first , so since you both couldn’t settle your differences , you did the right thing by ending that relationship , because you both couldn’t compromise on your differences,

[bobalife]

I’m sorry, it’s tough, but you definitely did the best thing by breaking up because it’s not okay for a partner to start being verbally abusive… name calling and even calling your mom to say those things /: break up over arguments isn’t usually the right thing because it’s in the moment, but her language and stepping over boundary with your mom was not okay at all

[Daniela1982]

You don't have a job but have female colleagues? This story is made up, isn't it?

"I still don't have a job (I just finished college)"

[getwiththepg]

People he went to school with I assume

[Daniela1982]

@getwiththepg Those would be classmates, no colleagues.

[NedimNedo98]

Yeah I meant my college colleagues or classmates 😂

[melnc]

That's the best decision you've made. I'm surprised how you were able to finish college in that situation with that girl, but you did. Start living your life, and when you do, she'll come crawling like a dog, then... let her know she was just holding your back

[Paris13]

You Need to Focus on You Now. Get your Life together. Not sure How True No Fighting in Person but Even So-----Time to Go. It sounds Toxic. xxoo

[Avicenna]

Well, based on what you posted, yes, you did the right thing by breaking up with her.

[Flatmanlewis]

Sounds like you did the right thing. I’d say, move on and learn the lessons. If she will disrespect you, disrespect your mother, then she has her own issues she needs to sort out before she can have a healthy relationship.


Having said that - social media rarely helps relationships. May be worth considering dumping it when you meet somebody worth your time, or at least learning how to manage it properly.

[DextroShade]

You just dodged a massive bullet. Now get on your purpose and don't worry about women until you start making money. There is a high chance she will come creeping back around then so I recommend you either block her or string her along for recreational use only.

[BoopBoopBeep]

You did the right thing, but FFS get a job. Go work at McDonald's. Anything. I'd be damned if I was ever living off someone else's generosity. I cleaned offices in high school and I'd do it again in a heartbeat before I didn't work.

[JacobJordan]

Hell yes you did the right thing. If she can disrespect your mom she is a class A c*nt. That being said mate you can't be liking other girls pictures when you have a girlfriend. It is disrespectful

[CozyCoffin]

You did, especially since she brought up things that were supposedly resolved and insulted you so much. She just revealed how she truly thinks about you. What a toxic person to be with.

[Karyn83w1]

Sorry but she is the problem. You just need to let her go. You deserve so much better than her but that’s my opinion

[2_beHappy]

Geez, you sure did well breaking up with her.

[Anonymous]

You made the right choice. She sounds like a girl with a lot of problems/pains, which she's inflicting on you. You are better of without her.

[Loki97]

Focus on stabilization then find a girl that makes her look bad and makes you feel appreciated

[Toya33]

You definitely did the right thing and she should not have said those things to your mom about you.

[Billlewis]

It sounds like you did the right thing.

[rosemilk]

yep! and now she's the next guys problem

[LaurenM1997]

You done the right thing

[laly520]

u did the right thing

[Anonymous]

She is mean what about her working

[In_Trance]

Yup. Move on

[flyingToast]

you did right !