Should I wish my ex happy birthday?

[Anonymous]

We broke up last year. Yes an entire year ago and we had only talked once since then. We ended pretty much as if we had never been together. No goodbye, no reason, he just disappeared. Even though I did eventually get my explaination I never felt like the breakup was official because it wasn't. 2 months after he ghosted me he told me the reason but thibgs never went back to being the same. We both just left things in the shithole, neither of us attempted to mend what was left of the relationship between us and even though I loved him and he did give a heartfelt apology (tears and all) we never became friends again. Everything went down the drain and I did get over it eventually. So we did not talk. But today was his birthday. I had been kind of thinking about him throughout the week because I knew his birthday was approaching. I fb stalked him today (I'm ashamed😭) and to my surprise the only person who had made a post about him or said "happy birthday" to him at all was his mom. Part of me was thinking "hell, maybe his new girlfriend told him happy birthday!" (Idk if he has a girlfriend or not). My second thought was that he and I were more than friends at one point and he had always expressed to me how unimportant he felt especially on his birthday. I wonder would it be so bad to tell him happy birthday? Or should I stay in my lane and just leave things where they left off and forget it.

[Watericeearthair]

Up to you really, I think if you wished him happy birthday as a friend I feel like he would be happy, by time a year has passed I feel like he got over the relationship, so I feel like it would be appreciated.

[Anonymous]

If he doesn't have the time to explain why he left or the time to even try and fix things, you shouldn't bother. If he can't see how amazing you are (and you are) then he doesn't deserve your attention.

[fghijdgk]

if there isn't any hatred or animosity between u to then it isn't a problem

[Asker]

I thought about it and I don't think there is enough good intentions for me to want to make that kind of move. Yeah, I want to say happy birthday because I want him to know I thought about him. But then again, thats not a good enough reason. For a long time I was very angry at him, even after the whole explaiantion I felt like he owed me more. Like I wanted him to give me my time and my virginity back as well as my trust and pride. I realize its impossible to get any of that back and blaming him for it only made me really bitter and wounded. I did eventually shed those ideas of feeling owed a better outcome but there was a period where I hated him for how I felt. I blamed him and I just was salty as fuck and embarrased and rejected. I would feel way too awkward to write him anything knowing that I had so many complicated feelings about him and I told all my friends about how much I was over him too even when I used to be lying. If I text him I would just feel stupid so I will just hope he had a good day and leave it alone

[fghijdgk]

yea, sinse there was anger and hatred for him, and that u wouldn't talk to him again, then u shouldn't talk to him again...

[ecfresh]

Don’t do it, just live your best life. He is your past

[harsh1997]

Want to do different+noticable+surprising+your ego satisfaction... then DON'T

[moorborn]

Depends on how u left things she might like it or think ur stalkin her

[Anonymous]

No, he's your ex. Disregard him.