Safe confrontation?

[Anonymous]

My bfs location has been shown multiple times at a specific house. How can i make sure when I go to this house to question the people that live there if they know him, to do it safely? As in not get police involved. I will be polite.

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I have asked him. He says his phone dies, location is messed up when service is bad and shows he’s somewhere he’s not, claims he doesn’t know where it’s at/has never been there. He Eventually told me to ask the people who live there

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I just want to know for my own sanity and peace of mind

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Why not ASK HIM who’s house that is?
What if it’s a guy friends, or family?


Just ask… I’m sorry but if someone showed up at my house asking questions because they saw their boyfriends location at my house, I would call the police and think you’re an insane, stalking, controlling lady. Immature too. Just confront your boyfriend ffs.

[Asker]

I have asked him. He says his phone dies, location is messed up when service is bad and shows he’s somewhere he’s not, claims he doesn’t know where it’s at/has never been there. He Eventually told me to ask the people who live there

[WhatTheHeckkkk]

Sounds like a big mess, on his part. Phones don’t that, even if the service is bad. If it shows him at a location, specifically a house, then he is/was at that house.

If he’s telling you to ask the people who live there, he knows he’s fucked and he probably told the people there to expect you to come by.

Just a mess. I would break up if there’s no trust and respect.

[Asker]

Thank you. I also thought he may warn them. I feel like he thinks I’m stupid. I just wanted proof that I’m not insane/being gaslit. I feel like it would give me peace of mind and closure to move on. I also thought about waiting in front of the drive (long dirt road) on the road leading to the house instead of actually going up there and see if I could catch him coming/going

[Nidal_AA]

This has no good ending... U go ask them they could have 2 answers
1) they confirm he is there cheating, then u get your heart broken and realtiknship ended
2) they deny
A. They could be lying so u will still be unsure
B. You will now feel u been unfair to him
...
...
My advice would be dont be in a realtionship with someone you dont trust

[Nidal_AA]

I told you there is no way you will get some mind peace after this.. Sorry

[Asker]

You think it best to just move on and never try to find out? I also thought about staying on the road leading to the house and not actually go down the drive (long dirt road and the people who live there wouldn’t know) to try to catch him coming/going.

[jshm2]

How about you check yourself and not act like his mother or wife?

Seriously who the fuck do you think you are trying to control another person like you're his personal pimp?

No wonder you're only his girlfriend, he needs to ditch you quick.

[Asker]

Control? So you think it’s okay to lie and cheat and lead someone on/waste their time? And you think I don’t deserve to even know the truth?

[Secret6620]

This is not a good idea.

If you can't trust your boyfriend, you need a new boyfriend. You should be able to ask him outright why he's going to this house.

[Asker]

I have asked him. He says his phone dies, location is messed up when service is bad and shows he’s somewhere he’s not, claims he doesn’t know where it’s at/has never been there. He Eventually told me to ask the people who live there

[Avicenna]

Not possible to ensure that