Are you confrontational?

[AlexEfron]

I've always been a little too confrontational, especially if I feel threatened.

I've had a lot of trouble with this attitude as I often disregard the position I'm in and the position others are in. There have been times when I have challenged higher authorities, knowing very well that I would be the loser no matter what the outcome is. It just, gives me a mental satisfaction that I wasn't silent. I spoke up for myself and I conveyed my disagreement.

Almost had a similar incident yet again today. I'm well aware that they have the upper hand and there's no point trying to point fingers at them. But it's fun. Even if I lose, I'll publicise your wrongdoings to others 😂.

How do you handle conflicts? Do you get confrontational? How does it end for you generally? Any suggestion/advice for me?

[Flatmanlewis]

Yes and no. I love a good conflict. In fact I’m i sort of in the business of confrontation. It took some maturity in life before I recognized that I was too confrontational. That confronting every person or situation that I disagreed with was problematic and had a detrimental impact on my overall life. In fact, in the process of those confrontations where I liked to imagine I was sticking up for myself or staying true to my values (or the easiest lie - that I was just a straight forward and honest guy) I realized I was like a silly dog barking at everything.


I started to accept mentorship and came to realize bucking authority for the sake of not wanting to listen authority was NOT doing anything except making me look immature and petty. I grew and I learned. I funnel my confrontational side in a positive manner - friendly debates, martial arts, training, and challenging (or confronting) myself.


Now, especially in the business of conflict, I avoid it as often as possible. Conflict can be resolved peaceably and I always seek that. I prefer to avoid confrontation in my marriage, with my kids, and workplace. On the street the potential outcome for a confrontation to turn deadly is all too real and something I’ve had front row seats to a few times in life and no longer wish to repeat unless absolutely necessary.


So, I’m short, yes. I am but I’ve channeled it.

[AlexEfron]

I often tend to lose my cool when knowing well that I'm making a fool out of myself 🥲

[AaronKrieger]

Sure, but not in aggressive way about 90% of the time. It usually done for the sake of communication, so I guess being "direct" would be a better word. My goal is not to cause an argument. It depends on how much I care, what the situation is, and if it is worth it.

For you? Make it a habit to think before you speak, so you can objectively outweigh the pros and cons. It is the same as choosing to not debate with someone online, since you know it will be a waste of time. It'll take time, but it is possible.

[AlexEfron]

Indeed. I'll keep it in mind

[DizzyDesii]

I like to talk it out. I CANNOT let shit go until we have tried to talk about it. But I try to remain calm. If you raise your voice at me, I’ll kindly suggest you not. You do it again and then its fair game. Ima light that mf up with my words!

[AlexEfron]

I don't raise my voice. But I do get agitated

[Wallythewalrus2]

It can be a problem for me at times. I guess, it’s more of me being short tempered in certain situations and I have a really hard time backing down. In the last two weeks, one person actually called the cops on me and two others threatened to call them. It’s rare that it comes to that but I’ve had a rough couple weeks.

[NathanDavis]

no, I'm a manager

[AlexEfron]

🤣 I remember you

[NathanDavis]

so do I...

[AlexEfron]

Sooner or later, I might be begging you for a job

[NathanDavis]

well... you just have the best first impression possible... lol

[AlexEfron]

First impression is what counts 😎

[IslaTheWitch]

I can be :D

[ab2shifty]

Yeah, a lot back when I was younger.