Girls, Okay okay so me an my girlfriend just broke up a week ago, an she said that we need a break an it’s bc I’m goin to AIT for the summer?

[Anonymous]

It took me till Tuesday to ask if she was down to try when I got back an told her it wouldn’t hurt to get the honest answer and she said yes at the moment, she said she couldn’t bare it with out me and we went to see a movie and had sex since the break up. I’m just a really bad over thinker an confused about it all we still talk and flirt to each other but I’m still overthinking it I don't know if it was breakup sex or not and one of the reasons for the break/break up is she want to grow as people and to mature but I don't know man it’s my first real relationship I just need another girls idea on what’s happening and to give their opinion on this.
P. S.- she still feels the same way, and doesn’t want to grow distant

I don't know if I’m thinking about it too much or if she’s just trying to be nice to me just not to hurt my feelings

[SueShe]

If, with the letters AIT you mean Associate in Information Technology, then let me say that you are probably wasting your time because your question is not the easiest to understand.

Somehow, it seems that both of you have a communication issue and you seem to talk past each other. I did not even know that there was something called "break up sex". That makes no sense at all. Why would someone want to have sex knowing they are breaking up?

Both of you need to sit down and calmly go over what causes this conflict and try to find reasonable solutions. If someone says they need to take their distance for a while, that usually means that the relation is over and out.