u there would be a few things for me to consider...
first, yes... the severity and nature of the crime would be a first thing to consider
I would also have to consider the reasons as to why she did it in the first place, or how did she end up in trouble
and it would matter very much to me as well... why didn't she tell me about it, before, or during, because I sure would have done something to prevent that
if she had bad intentions, if she hurt others in the process, if she was careless about others and consequences... then I would have to reconsider my relationship, because she would no longer be the kind of person she was and I fell in love with
but, if it went differently, if things started to happen, became difficult, if it was a struggle and lead to a series of mistakes and unfortunate events then I would just see it differently and could try to work it out with her and for her own good
For me marriage is on a very different level than dating so when you say, "I'd break up with them", I say: eh. Ideally people don't marry somebody they have doubts about or who they think they'll dump/trade-in if trouble happens. When you're dating somebody you can dump them because they told a bad joke or smiled too much with the wrong person. Ain't how it works in marriageville. You pick the right person before you go to that town. Then you are 2 people on the same team. Now that doesn't mean you should support them if they do something that goes against your core beliefs but you can't just jump ship because times are difficult either.
I want to say that it would depend on the severity of it. However, after really giving it some thought, I can't for all cases. See, simple crime like being caught with illicit drugs would be an issue for me.
It isn't so much getting past the criminal conviction for a slip-up with drugs as it is the bigger problem. Why is he doing drugs? Does he have a problem? Something like that tends to be a habit.
Yes, the rather minor penalty for a drug charge (in a lot of cases) is not much to worry about. It is more what other problems do I have on my hands now that I have found this out and can he change?
For me, it would be very circumstantial to the actual TYPE of crime committed, as well as the severity. Naturally, something far more severe and I am walking away, but even a minor crime could be part of a much bigger problem.
Depends on what they did, why and to whom or what.
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It would depend on the nature of the crime.
Of the 80,000,000 (million) laws in America, a very large percentage of them are unconstitutional yet they still punish people for them and jail them as political prisoners... no, I am not kidding, this really happens in America!
No, I would not divorce her. I would be disappointed, though. And I would want to have a talk with her to figure out exactly where and how she went wrong.
Now, if we were still dating, then I might break up. Depending on the circumstances of exactly what happened.
Depends on severity of the crime. As someone striving to get into law enforcement this is a question that is ALWAYS on my mind. For example, legally I could NOT date a felon since most departments do not allow officers to hang around convicted felons. Even the few that allow it I could never live with her because felons cannot be around firearms unless they have successfully petitioned to be allowed near firearms, which most of these appeals fail. So pretty much ANY felony eliminates a potential partner.
On the misdemeanor side, most of those offenses are not a huge deal to me. As long as she does not have a domestic assault or any type of theft charge she would have a chance. Even someone who has committed a DUI can get a chance with me if there is enough time passed and if there is evidence it will not happen again.
No. The sins of the past do not dictate the future. People can grow from their past mistakes. I for example have a criminal background, and now I’m a Soldier working in Military Intelligence. Making mistakes doesn’t make someone a bad person (unless they willfully engage in continuing that lifestyle). Be cognitive of behavioral patterns sure, but I wouldn’t use it as a weapon against my partner.
I wouldn't look at her past if she has reformed /changed her views to become a good human being. Everyone makes mistakes, but to realize and accept they were wrong and are not going to err again in future is an act of courage and a strong will power ! Everyone deserves a second chance !
My personal opinion? Depends on what the crime was and how they live their lives since then. People make mistakes and can recover.
But professionally speaking, I have to let her go. My clients and any future clients will run background checks on me and anyone on my arm. So if she's arrested, it ends the relationship.
The business my fiancée runs is even more strict with the same rules. We both understand a record ends it for both of us.
Obviously depends on situation but mostly no. Partner kills a pedo damn wish I could marry twice would be my thoughts.
Just like the day that I met you
The day I thought forever
Said that you love me
But that'll last for never
It's cold outside
Like when you walked out my life
Why you walk out my life? (My life)
I get like this every time
On these days that feel like you and me
Heartbreak anniversary
'Cause I remember every time
On these days that feel like you and me
Heartbreak anniversary
Do you ever think of me?
Hell no it wouldn’t bother me it would be more beneficial and more I would be more intrigued in her and make me not want to go get them other pussies!!! me and I would find out what crimes she can do and how good she can do it and I let her teach me what she can do and I am a real fucking criminal so I would teach her some of this shit that I know how to do but I’m not a criminal anymore I take that back I’m kind of getting a little older and I’m just cuttin back so yeah you know yeah I like them criminals …..
What if it was aggravated assault and battery which is a felony would you end things? What if it was a situation where your husband was defending your youngest daughter would you still end things? From what you’re saying your husband would be better off without you
No, in fact I would probably break her out of the Big House.
It depends on the crime and the severity of the crime
Obviously it would depend on the crime. Maybe he killed someone who is trying to kill me.
But I work in the prison system, and there are guys in prison for life, and they get married. You don't get life in prison from being a boy scout. And women will marry them.
Hell we'd be partners in crime, they can't legally make a spouse testify against you in the USA.
Really though if he snuck off and did some thing on his own, would depend what... cause I sure as hell ain't paying his fines.
It really depends but then again I wouldn't be waiting for them if they were jailed. I'm not doing that shit if I'm so sure they didn't do it. Watch "Next 3 days". I'm that guy.
I'm the same as you. If it's serious or heinous then we're breaking up. But if it's understandable or dumb I'd stay as long as they learned their lesson and don't plan to do it again.
Possibly. Crime is rooted in cannibalism (though some good people, lacking knowledge of anything better and a support system, commit it).
For a smart very sexy girl, I'd help her get out of that (great sex between ys being assumed, obviously)
Yes. At my age, I'm mature enough and make enough money to not get caught by the law. I mean come on.
It depends on what they did if they beat the $#!+ out of a pedophile with a pool cue or a tire iron I might actually get really turned on
Depends on what they did, rape, murder something with a child we be done.
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