It physically hurts?

[Anonymous]

I'm struggling so hard with this breakup 😥 each day just gets worse... miss her so much... and eventually, I can feel myself at some point, caving in to the pain and hurt and messaging her and telling her everything that I've been holding in...

[Anonymous]

Hang in there, it’s completely normal for you to be feeling all this. I think it’s best if you just let all of your emotions out, don’t hold it in. If you get the urge to text her then just type it all out on your notes but don’t send it to her. In the meantime, you can also focus on yourself, keep yourself busy. You’ll eventually be okay 😊 but right now just let the emotions flow

[Asker]

I have typed it out on my notes and I even wrote 2 notes in pen.. with one note being like 18 pages... I have another note that I'm gonna write tonight. Only a small one though... but it's just killing me not telling her how I feel. We had no communication for 2 weeks until she broke that last.. haven't talked since

[Asker]

Broke that last week ***

[Opinion Owner]

That’s a good start, you’re pouring your heart out on your notes which will help you heal faster. You can try re-reading your notes and maybe deleting or burning them.

I would suggest for you to wait at least a month or two before initiating contact, that way you’ve already had some time to mourn the relationship and deal with some of the hurt. Don’t rush tho, just be gentle with yourself.

[Asker]

Well here's another thing... so when she broke the contact last week, it was on Facebook, she commented on 3 of my posts and then deactivated her account hours later... then I asked if she blocked me (I wasn't sure cuz her profile was gone) she said no just deactivated... but why? Especially only hours after talking to me on my posts... the timing of it all just didn't feel right... then she sent me a snap the next night (only of her cat) lol she knows I love her cat, but still... and then now her snapchat score hasn't changed in days... she logged out? Not sending or receiving any snaps? I sent her a message the other day on snap, opened it after like 7hrs, so not logged out? But not active on it? She didn't view any of my stories I posted over the weekend (she'd always view them), so I'm just so way confused by everything

[Opinion Owner]

I think she might just be taking a break from social media especially after seeing you on it. That’s what I did after I broke up with my ex too, I saw him posted and I commented out of habit but then it reminded me of our relationship and it hurt, so I decided to deactivate everything to get some space away from anything that might remind me of him (even though we were still friends)

[Asker]

But then why send me a snap the day after knowing I'm gonna send a selfie back? If seeing me is hurting you... I want to ask her about her cat and see how she's been but now with no fb and with snap being questionable, all I have left is text or call... and I couldn't even tell ya the last time she texted me... last 2 times I texted her (it's been awhile) she replied to the text on snapchat... so I mean, ugh... then I have a meme that I wanna send her that's perfect for her cat and I have bunch of other cat memes that I wanna send her that I think she'll like

[Opinion Owner]

That’s what I did with my ex, I sent him a picture of my dog but then I realized that things are different now. The same with you, one of the hardest part of the break up is realizing that you won’t be able to share jokes or memes with the person anymore and you need to slowly see things differently now with her. I ended up still being in contact with my ex even after we broke up and it made things more difficult for me to properly move on.

[Asker]

It really sucks and it's the hardest thing I've ever gone through... I miss her more than anything. I'd kill just to see her again and hold her in my arms 😥😥 I want her back, not gonna lie about it...

[Opinion Owner]

That’s understandable, a breakup is a very hard thing to deal with. If you want her back, maybe you can talk to her about it and see if you guys can work something out?

[Asker]

I wish... but I know right now that's not gonna happen. It'll haveta take awhile for that to even be an option for her. I have no idea if she's ever even gonna back to an ex before... her therapist told her that we're toxic, whether or not she believes that, I don't know... we never fought or anything like that, we always got along so well and connected so well. It was unreal how good we connected, cuz we're like polar opposites

[Opinion Owner]

Well then maybe now is a good time for you to do some self reflection. What about the relationship was toxic? Maybe you can work on that and after you’re done then you can try again with her.