Why does it hurt/suck so much?

[Anonymous]

today i watched one of my best friends drive away to move to a new state with her family. it was one of those type of friendships that we will hook up but knew that a relationship wouldn't work. even though I knew a relationship would never come about it I still started to develop feelings for her. I pushed my feelings to the sides to remind friends with her. the more we hook up and hang out the stronger the feelings I had for her became. even though I knew this day was coming I didn't expect it to hurt this much. why does it hurt so much? how can I get it to stop hurting

[Anonymous]

It's completely normal to feel sad and hurt when someone you care about moves away or transitions out of your life, especially if you had developed feelings for them. Grieving the loss of a friendship or relationship can be a painful process, but it's important to allow yourself to feel your emotions and process them in a healthy way.

One way to cope with the pain of losing a friend is to focus on self-care and positive coping strategies. This might include spending time with other friends and loved ones, engaging in activities that bring you joy, practicing mindfulness or meditation, or seeking support from a therapist or counselor.

It's also important to acknowledge that it's okay to feel sad and to give yourself permission to grieve the loss. Over time, the pain will likely lessen, but it's important to be patient with yourself and allow yourself to heal at your own pace.

Remember that friendships and relationships can evolve and change over time, and it's possible that you and your friend may reconnect in the future. In the meantime, prioritize your own well-being and focus on cultivating positive relationships and experiences in your life.

[RavVid]

Time is the short answer. It should hurt by the way if she was a good friend.

[Anonymous]

Friends can stay friends no matter the distance. Maybe get on those dating apps and see where things go. Never now. But maybe talk to someone about how you feel. Could be understanding and what to do know without that girl.

[Anemone978]

It sounds like you love her.. it will def take some time to get over it..

[Anonymous]

This is part of why I could never hookup. Send her a love letter and see if she feels the same