How do you think it is for average-looking guys to talk to even average-looking girls (most of whom think that a guy needs to be a 9 or above on the SMV [social market value] scale for her to even consider him)? Women are often absolutely brutal in how they reject guys.
But the reality is that you are shopping outside your price range. A guy who struggles to afford a used Corolla cannot be shopping for new BMWs, much less Ferraris. The salespeople there will look at that guy with barely-hidden contempt. The world does not care how much the guy wants a nice car - he either puts in the work to earn it, or he drives a used Corolla.
The same lesson applies to women. If the average guy would rate you as, say, a 4, then you are only likely to attract guys who are a 4. You might get an occasional 5, but the chances of getting a 6 or above are slim-to-none. If you're a 6, then you can get a 6, and maybe occasionally a 7, but you can forget about 8's and above.
Women today have this idea that they can all get the hot guys, and they're all fighting over the top 20% (and often the top 10%) of guys, and ignoring all of the other guys completely. Guys might fuck a girl who is 3 or 4 points below him, if she's convenient and doesn't make it a hassle, but just because he'd fuck her doesn't mean he'd be in a relationship with her - most guys and up in relationships with girls that are within 1 point of his own level. And the Top 10% of guys almost never get into relationships at all, unless the woman is a 10 across the board, and often even not then. They have so many options to choose from that it doesn't make sense for them to reduce their options by committing to only one.
Try shopping in your price range - and be realistic about what that is - and you'll have much better success. And if you want higher SMV guys, then you have to raise your own SMV first, just as guys do.
No you're not being dramatic, you're being dumb. You need to lose weight if you want to attract "nice looking guys".
I used to be fat and no girls liked me. But I wasn't dumb enough to demand their interest. Instead I recognized it's my responsibility to lose weight if I want to be attractive to women. Same goes for you.
In my experience, like attracts like, and if we want to attract a certain standard we often have to change to reach that level.
And it is not just how we physically look but also how we behave and dress. All of those things need to be changed. One problem is that in many cases like this the person them becomes somebody they aren't and they start to feel uncomfortable about themselves.
In many cases you may find that by simply changing the way you dress this can make a huge difference without having to deal with all the effort of more exercise and a different diet. I am sure there are people who can help you with this although I could not guess what they advertise themselves as.
It’s not about preferences at that point, it’s about standards.
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that's the nightmarish reality of being fat. I am personally against the whole "curvy" movement, when we get fat we do get less attractive, and I'm in the same wagon, always losing and gaining weight. It's also unhealthy. Thing is, if you compliment the guy and he treats you like that, he's a piece of shit.
Date a cute hispanic or black guy. They go crazy for white girls and would be willing to date more figures and be less picky
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