How can I get over a breakup?

[Anonymous]

I met her when I we were 15, and we're 21 now. We dated most of that time, albeit long-distance over emails online, breaking up twice. The first time I saw it coming, and I distanced myself before she broke up with me. It didn't hurt too much. We didn't talk for a while, then became friends again and got really close. She confessed, despite my obvious friend zoning. Because I was scared to lose her, we started dating again. I fell in love with her and worked three jobs for a year so I could move to her town. The second time we broke up was a little over a year after I had moved.. I saw it coming and fought to make it work. Unfortunately, our ideas of commitment differed. I was insecure. She was selfish. We were both really stressed over our own lives. That one hurt worse than anything else I've experienced. It's been almost a month now. She was my closest friend for almost 7 years, and now.. I wish we never started dating again. I loved her as a friend and I hate we became anything more than that because now I don't have her at all.

[Anonymous]

A month apart has nothing on the 7 years you’ve spent in and each other’s life, meaning that it’s going to take some real time to get over this. Not even just because of how long it been, but the sacrifices you’ve made, I. E working 3 jobs to move closer. I think acceptance place a big role in being able to move on. In some ways you may still be in denial, like hopeful that she will come back around, or that it’s not really over, you guys are just having a rough patch. But thinking that way holds you back from healing and moving on. I get that she was your best friend, but given the romantic dynamic, I think taking some time away from her to get over wanting to be with her would be good.

[RACSKC0B]

Don't listen to @Guy13.
Yours is a shit situation, I wish I could offer you some advice, but I never figured out how to handle it well. I will say I only allowed it to happen twice. I singly advise against doing it a second time, for me it was worse then the first time.
I feel your pain though, because ontop of a relationship ending, you also lost the person whom you would have normally expected to help you get through it. But they're gone too. As I said, it's a shit situation, for sure.
So now, I adhere to a strict rule of "No porn, with friends."
The only advice I can offer you, my current best friend gave me after a girlfriend and I broke up.

The best way to get over an ex, is by getting under someone new.

Good luck, it'll get better, just takes time.

[Guy13]

It’s time to take your diapers off and put on boys underwear 🩲 little tike 👦

[Anonymous]

One step at a time bro, one step at a time. Keeping busy helps too.