How to get over a breakup?

[Anonymous]

I am hurting a lot and don't know what to do. I know they say you should focus your energy on other things and other people but I'm finding it hard being an introvert. I only have one friend and my one hobby is writing which I am dealing with writers block at the moment so I don't have anything else to focus on.

I miss him terribly and it's taken a toll on my spirit and mind.

[Anonymous]

I went through the worst breakup up during lockdown, and as someone who’s also introverted and forced to go through that in isolation, I’d really say to get outside if you can. Being inside all the time when you’re dealing with a breakup is just the worst mentally, there’s no distractions and it’s almost impossible not to think about how much you’re hurting almost constantly. I can tell that right now it’s literally driving you crazy. Go take a walk, visit the mall, go on a drive, anything to get out of the house. Since you’re a writer, start a journal if you don’t have one already and be as vulnerable with your venting as you want. The only real remedy for getting over someone is time, but it doesn’t have to be miserable every second if you can help it.

[Asker]

Thanks for this. I will try to do just that. Journaling definitely sounds like a good idea. So does getting out of the house. Sorry you went through a bad breakup during lockdown. That had to be the worst.

[Opinion Owner]

Thank you, it was rough but if I hadn’t gone through that I wouldn’t have met who I’m with now, so something positive came from it. I’m glad you’re gonna give writing a try, I did both written and voice note journals and it’s nice to vent and not feel judged. Remember, you didn’t fall for him overnight so the healing process will take time, but this will all pass. Be patient with yourself, give yourself a lot of love and you will have this behind you before you know it.

[Asker]

Well I hope something positive comes out of this breakup. Right now I don't feel like that but maybe one day I will. Like you said, I need to be patient with myself and give myself a lot of love. Thanks again. I'm glad you got a happy ending out of it. I really will start journaling and maybe even doing voice note journals like you did!

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, give the voice note journals a try! Something about hearing myself say these things vs just writing them down and looking at them was very helpful. Anyway, I hope you feel at least proud of yourself for not caving and reaching out to him, some people crack under that pressure. You loved hard so getting over it will be hard but you’re strong enough to get through it. Wishing you lots of luck on your healing journey☺️

[Asker]

Thanks! Much appreciated! ☺️

[mark000h]

I'm sorry. 😔

[Wise4myage]

Look for a guy to have some rebound sex.

[In_Trance]

Rail other guys