How to get over a breakup?

Question

What do you do when your date tells you that there is no future together? Or after a breakup and the end of a relationship? What do you do to fall out of love? What helps you?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I believe that everything is mental. From my experience, whenever it was hard to let go of someone , I noticed that all of my focus was on them, what they're doing, why did they leave me, what's wrong with me, is the other person better, and the list goes on and on. Whenever I noticed myself not caring or falling out of love it was because I was focusing on myself such as what I deserved, what is was that I wanted out of relationship, how I was treated, etc. It sounds corny when we hear "focus on yourself" but it's true- focusing on yourself helps you heal.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

I've met more than one person who say they turn to their religion for comfort after a break up and I know people who turn to their friends or their volunteer work for comfort. Sandra Bullock lost a crazy amount of weight after her divorce from the cheater so I'm assuming she lost herself on gyms and diets.

Fireguy17 · Accepted Answer

Stay busy, go out with friends, it gets better as time passes and then there he is, the one that takes your breath away and will treat you like a goddess.
Then you won't even remember old what's his name.
Don't sit home and mope, it's too easy to do.

BoopBoopBeep · Accepted Answer

What's the saying? "Best way to get over someone is to get under someone else"...

idrilcarnesir19 · Answer

Honestly for me it was to get used to not being with them. So I went out and made new friends even through tinder. I decided to do something I was afraid to do which was go out and eat alone and go to the gym alone. I took care of myself and made it so I’m happy with myself. I learned to enjoy my own company and also meet new friends, so the stories I tell isn’t always about my ex. Find a new hobby, check something off your bucket list. Be selfish and treat yourself! Once you do this? You’ll be able to move on and find someone and learn next time not to be too attached to someone and not know how to walk after they leave.