Why is it that he wanted to get me pregnant while he was cheating?

[Anonymous]

I never understood why my ex wanted to get me pregnant so bad and then I found out he was cheating all along. I felt like how was I just good enough to become a baby momma, but not good enough to be loyal to? Why was it that he wanted me to get pregnant for and till this day he wished he got me pregnant…

[Anonymous]

Let me be blunt. Are you from a well off family, educated, etc. Have a potential to get somewhere in life?

What he was cheating on you with were sluts. Good for little except sex.

Why he wanted you pregnant is cause he saw some potential but was just too stupid to make sure he had any value to you.

[Opinion Owner]

Either that or he was a foreigner & getting you pregnant would ensure he'd have a visa / residency before he got deported.

[Asker]

That last part you said makes honestly sense. We are both born in the US, but my family was well off better than his and I did have my life much more put together than him. He used to say I didn’t love him I only loved him for sex bc he didn’t provide anything other than that. I really loved him though I saw potential, but he always seemed to get the path of self sabotage.

[Opinion Owner]

That's ironic, he said you only loved him for sex when that was he went to this other women.

Trust me you are far, far, far better off and use this as a learning experience. Many men claim that women are only after their money, etc. Well as you experienced there are plenty of men after women for the same reason.

[Asker]

Yeah now I kind of don’t even want to get myself in a relationship nor have sex this relationship kind of took everything from me. I feel ugly and sometimes I feel as if I wasn’t good in bed that’s why I got cheated on. I also sometimes think that it didn’t change to stay with him even when he had no job he didn’t care about how I felt not even a little. The way he broke up with me was a way for him to know I wouldn’t move on from him and when he came back he’ll try again yet I found out he left me for another girl and cheated on both of us but she knew of it all along so I kinda hate her too.

[Opinion Owner]

First off you're not ugly. The only ugly person in this situation was the guy.

Secondly being good in bed is irrelevant. That only attracts trash like this guy.

If you want a decent man - not trash - then work on your self-esteem, your sense of self-worth & respect. I know it is likely hard but consider this loser as he is... a loser. A deadbeat. Someone who would contribute little to your life. He knew it.

[Asker]

Oh I am trying. I am going back to school. I am going to try to get into nursing school this upcoming year. I am also hoping to get a better job at my job bigger pay. I have a side hustle and I don’t know I’m doing more with life now. He comes and goes into my life doing random little things to remind me he still thinks of me it used to make me sad not anymore. I used to die wanting him to come back now Idek if I do. I love him and I rather love him than hate him because I’m tired of hating people and I am so dumb to still pity him for his life and the struggles he has faced and still continuously faces, but it’s the life he choose. I wonder if this girl will deal with what I dealt with and wonder if she’s going to stay with him with no job like I did for 2 years because I believed in change, but at the same time I want to become a bad ass nurse who has a killer body. I am sorry I’m venting now.

[Opinion Owner]

No worries. Venting is good. Better than letting it fester.

I would do yourself a favor and the next time this guy comes around just tell him... look I'd rather you just leave me alone. I am not interested anymore.

And to avoid any hassle include I'd hate to have to call the police, but I will if I have to.

People like him don't take a hint unless it comes down hard.

[On_cloud_wine]

He doesn’t want your baby, sweety.. it’s cuz the rubber is not as comfortable as raw making love.

[Asker]

The problem was he would even ask when I was ovulating to have sex then like he would plan it we would have unprotected sex all the time, but the last year he would try to have sec on my ovulation week so he was really trying to get me pregnant which I do not understand

[On_cloud_wine]

Yeah, nope, me either!

[Avicenna]

Only he knows. Maybe he thought it would keep you together.

[LazerBean]

Because women are a lot less likely to dump a loser man when they are pregnant with his baby.

[Asker]

You’re probably right he wanted me to stick around

[Bratsondanielle]

So you would stay even though he was cheating of course worthless piece of shit (not you no)

[Asker]

If I were to get pregnant yeah I would’ve. Sadly I still love him, but I think day to day it has been easier to not cry about him as much as I did, but I am still curious to so many things he did and said. If I’m being honest he still says it.

[Bratsondanielle]

Jeez. I'm sorry for you sweetie

[jahaims]

Because he is trash