Why did he pretend to be a single and try to cheat with me?

[Anonymous]

I have a good job as I work in marketing, worked in Canada for 2 years and setup that life entirely myself, I am in shape and have tons of great hobbies but yet this guy puts me in the hookup category even tho he's never left his hometown

[molonski2]

Well , I think its pretty obvious , you have a lot going for you and you can't blame him for having a crack , at an exceedingly attractive females he wishes to boont..

[Asker]

Sick of him how dare he do that. Im 100x more interstitial this his wife she's just a movie and wine drinker

[Asker]

Interesting**

[molonski2]

hahahaha you surely are kidding.. Who cares? He wants to boont you , natural.

[Asker]

How did he take his current girlfriend and getting married to her despite her just drinking at the weekends

[molonski2]

I have no idea , now he knows she is a skank

[Asker]

🤣🤣 ohwell he's stuck with her

[molonski2]

maybe?

[Sunnyday56]

Nah he's got a kid on the way

[Sunnyday56]

he's deffo stuck aha

[molonski2]

@Sunnyday56 That doesn't change anything , kid on the way or not

[molonski2]

He may be stuck , but things change

[VikingWarLord]

I'd have to see a pic, but my bet is, you look more average than you realize.
We men definitely categorize chics depending on their looks.
You may be in shape but do you have an average face? Small Tiits? No Azz? etc?

[Asker]

he's with an average girl aswel

[VikingWarLord]

Yeah we can play the average chics like a fiddle.
So you admit you're average looking?
Send me a pic to my DM and I'll be brutally honest if I think this is what he's doing to you.

[Asker]

I'm the side chick in this actually... but he's still not leaving her

[VikingWarLord]

So she must have a bit more goin on for her in terms of looks than you?
Send me a pic of YOU and HER, I'll be brutally honest about what he sees.

[Asker]

They are both engaged and have a kid. We never met up tho only sexted

[Asker]

I have already sent pictures you actually said we looked similar yesterday 🤷‍♀️

[VikingWarLord]

Why didn't you say that? LOL wtf

[VikingWarLord]

You put Canada in this, and yesterday you said you were from SCOTLAND

[Asker]

I was in Canada for a short time yes for work

[VikingWarLord]

Your story doesn't match from yesterday because you said he was dating you and then left for the other chic

[Asker]

No no he was leading me on in the end. I didn't meet up with him because I was still abroad but I'm scottish

[VikingWarLord]

Well gawdam I had your story totally fuuckin backwards

[VikingWarLord]

How many dudes have you been with in your life? Sexually and relationship wise

[Asker]

I was seeing 2 guys but just turned casually because I didn't enjoy hanging out with them and wasn't going anywhere

[Asker]

I've had quite a few guys that were interested in a relationship but I said no

[VikingWarLord]

Just admit it, they were average betas and vanilla in the sack.
You need a hot, dominant, bad boy like me who will put you in your place. I knew that from your first pic you sent.

[Asker]

I've had a guy like you from the states actually. I actually blocked him tho and he keeps trying to get a hold of me through email 😂😂 way better looking than the guy who didn't leave that girl

[Asker]

He actually asked me to live with him. But I didn't because we were committed and moving just for him for causal lol

[Fayeleo]

Do not spend even a min wondering why bad guys are bad.
You just need to learn the lesson and move on and not fall for that again.

[Asker]

He ain't shit he's got no life apart from drinking at the weekends

[DirTdreamer]

Because guys like girls.

[awkward_author]

He's attracted to you and only wants sex.

[Asker]

No guy wants to put in effort emotionally

[awkward_author]

Maybe you just haven't been involved with the right guy.

[Asker]

Their girlfriends they end up dating are nothing special either I don't why

[awkward_author]

They find these women attractive, and that's what matters to them.

[Asker]

Nobody is ever interested in me

[awkward_author]

It might help to focus on yourself, and build your self-esteem instead of making judgements about others.

[Asker]

I've focused on myself for years I've completed my degree about to land a grad job, travelled alone and myself, worked abroad for 2 years and have a lot of hobbies

[awkward_author]

I think you need to work on your self-esteem because you keep putting other people down. Happy people don't do that. On top of that, it's an unattractive quality to have.

[Asker]

But yet its OK for them to make a full of Me leading me on...

[awkward_author]

That's not okay either. However, two wrongs don't make a right. Putting their girlfriends down doesn't change anything. You just look bad. If this is something you do regularly, maybe that's why a decent guy won't ask you out.

[Asker]

No I don't mention other girls at all. I'm just saying in general nothing bad about them at all. When a guy said he was sorry for leading him on because he had a girlfriend I just never anything back

[awkward_author]

You'll find someone eventually. If you think this might be a pattern you should work on, see a therapist/psychologist?

[Asker]

Also all the bitchy girls at uni had all the guys

[awkward_author]

Maybe they're just not attracted to your personality or don't see you as "girlfriend material."

[Asker]

Well I just sense the guy isn't genuine it never let's anywhere

[awkward_author]

You seem to attract guys who only want something physical.

[Asker]

I also had this other guy move in just as "friends" but not quams trying to get sex and giving him emotional support like in a relationship

[Asker]

Ask me move in***

[awkward_author]

Do you want to move in with him?

[Asker]

No I don't it's a casual thing he's after Im sick of seconds

[awkward_author]

Okay. Well, there's nothing you can do aside from continuing to better yourself and put effort into finding a partner.

[Asker]

Even my friends are surprised they always say why is it always me stuck with idiots... they can understand why I'm getting moody these days

[awkward_author]

If this pattern has been going on for quite a while, it might be something you're doing. Therapy could help.

[Asker]

What do you think it could be

[awkward_author]

I'm not a licensed therapist, so I can't be certain. However, it might involve perspective, personality and reaction issues.

[Asker]

Or the fact they just find someone who is better looking lol

[Asker]

If I was that horrible I wouldn't have any friends righr

[awkward_author]

There's a difference between someone enjoying your personality on a friendship level vs. a relationship. For example, I would have never been platonic friends with my ex-fiancee. However, we were, especially given the circumstances, pretty great together.

[Asker]

I mean don't get me wrong I have had people who were interred in me as more but I wasn't attracted to them back and their hobbies just didn't align with mine I also didn't enjoy hanging with them

[awkward_author]

If the way you're doing things isn't making you happy, it might help to change something.

[Asker]

Ohwell having a conversation with an older person they reckon half those people I seeing getting together won't even last lol especially the guy that lead me on who's clearly cheating with others

[awkward_author]

That's a possibility. Like I said, go to therapy, and focus on yourself.

[Asker]

Therapy is not going to change the fact the guys just want causal lol

[awkward_author]

Therapy can help you work on yourself because I'd never date a woman like you seriously. Maybe sex if she was attractive, but nothing more.

[Asker]

What are reason give some feedback

[awkward_author]

During our conversation, you've constantly put others down, while lacking the ability to see your own flaws. That's heinously unattractive.

[Asker]

But yet the guys are constantly saying bad stuff about me

[awkward_author]

You're also deflecting and making excuses for your behavior. Stop using someone else's poor actions to justify your own.

[Asker]

No wonder I just had a guy lead me on for the last year. We were talking fine until I confessed my feelings then that's when i found out

[awkward_author]

You're not actually listening to me, so I'm finished talking to you. I'm also not going to humor your pity party anymore. Good luck.

[Wise4myage]

Because he's a scum bag.

[Anonymous]

He wanted new pussy.

[Opinion Owner]

Your career and stability don’t mean anything.

[Asker]

Good luck to him he's stuck with the same women forever lol

[Opinion Owner]

Being married doesn’t mean we don’t find new pussy

[Asker]

He said he will be jealous of my future boyfriend 🤣🤣 whatever that means

[Opinion Owner]

Because they will get the holes