Why would he even bother asking me to be his girlfriend, just to cheat the entire 3.5 years?

[Anonymous]

It makes no sense. Then he claimed the entire time that he loved me and would make me feel crazy for asking if anything was happening. And he kept saying he wanted things to work after we talked once I found out, but then he talked to another woman after that. We’re not together anymore (almost a week officially separated), but I don't know how I’m supposed to move past this since the love and loyalty was real on my side. And we have a baby together. I wish I could just block him and be done with him forever but I can’t. Our 4 yr anniversary would’ve been next week so that’ll be a little tough. How do I move past this when he has to stay in my life forever?

[madhatters4]

why did he do what he did? because he's a selfish, self absorbed asshole. he's dishonest. he lacks virtue. to state it plainly he's not a very good person

how do you move past it? it's hard. very hard. i've been in your position but not as deeply because we didn't have any children. but you just try to move on day by day. the issue was on him not on you so don't feel guilty or like you did something wrong. just accept that sadly there are people like him who manipulate, lie, and abuse trust. but not all men are like that. so slowly move on and hopefully one day you'll feel like you can go back out and place your trust and heart in someone's hands

[Jbear27]

I feel you. I was in the same thing. But my marriage lasted 16 years before I left her for cheating and we had two kids. It was rough at first but it got easier about 7 months into the separation. Then someone cool happened. We found out we make better friends than spouses. So we enjoy each other's company now and can coparent very well. We also have both moved on to new relationships. I mean all I can say is give it time and don’t let hate fester in your heart.

[Paris13]

This Schmo Wants His Cake and Take More Than Two. Co parent ONLY With Him.. He Won't Change. Maybe a Diaper Only. Make Sure He pays Child Support. xxoo

[Paris13]

Thanks, Gag. xxoo

[NavyOU37]

This might be a complete assumption. You probably were dating a "Chad". He could have any girl he wanted and decided to string you along. The entire dating game is so lopsided.

[boggboss]

Because he doesn't have to stay in your life only deal with him about your kid nothing else